my dad had an affair on my mother about the time i was born, i have the name of the mother but no other information. i do know what city and state she lives in and what her married name is
2006-10-28 15:29:36 · 25 answers · asked by 1rxrech 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes. You never know. You might be the only partial blood relative he has. And he just might need a brother/friend to talk to.
2006-10-28 15:35:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is totally normal that you would want to meet him. You feel like you're missing a part of your life and you have all these questions for him and you've been wondering what he looks like and what his hobbies are. He could be living on your block and you wouldn't even know it. The question isn't do you want to meet him, the question is does he want to meet you. Obviously you are curious about him because you posted this question. You can want to meet him but he might feel awkward meeting you. You obviously grew up with your father and had a "meaningful" relationship whereas he might have had a couple of phone calls a couple of times a year and maybe a visit now and then. Ask your father for more information about the mother and your half brother. But realize that it wouldn't be the end of the world if you never got to meet him. You've gotten this far without him in your life and I'm pretty sure you'd do fine.
2006-10-29 01:43:33 · answer #2 · answered by kaluah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, even though my dad had an affair on my mom and I found out that I had a brother by that affair I would still want to know him because family is so important to me and I would realize the affair wasn't my brother's fault and I would love him regardless
2006-10-29 01:36:36 · answer #3 · answered by Susie B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would want to get to know my brother. It isn't his fault that your Dad had an affair on your Mother. But if your Dad and Mom are still together, I would definitely talk it over with them before you meet your new brother. Your Mom could really get more hurt out of this if you do it behind her back. I wouldn't really care what my Dad thought if he did that to my Mother. Good luck.
2006-10-28 22:44:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not your brother's fault your dad had an affair. Make your brother and your dad's affair two separate issues and meet the guy. He is still your brother regardless, that is not something that you can change.
The real question is, how do you deal with your father knowing that he cheated on your mom...
2006-10-29 00:13:16 · answer #5 · answered by Jaedyn=God has heard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know ALL this then i say, You already know your Answer !! You are just afraid alittle, but you want to find him don't you!!? You and your brother are not responsible for what your dad did when he cheated on your mom !! My first spouse had a child while cheating and later on in life i found out were she lived and her phone number so my girls could talk to there sister !! She is still there sister no matter what the adults did! The kids have a right to be together if they want to be! Good luck finding him!!
2006-10-28 22:38:01 · answer #6 · answered by sports_runner_racing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I would most definitely want to meet him.
I see that you posted that you know the name of the mother and her maiden name. Does your father not have any information other than that? It would be just awesome for both of you to meet. he may be looking for you as well.
Feel free to email me if you want any help looking. I would need your age or his-you said "about the same time". I would love to try to help.
I wish you the best of luck in your search.
2006-10-28 22:51:37 · answer #7 · answered by too_damned_kute 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh certainly- my husband"s father had an affair when he was married which ended his marriage- He knew he had fathered a child which would have been my husband's uncle; hwever, not only did his father never again see his own father, neither did he ever meet his half brother. My husband's father passed away last year and my husband will never be able to track his relative, tho this uncle is not responsible for the actions of his father.
2006-10-28 22:46:51 · answer #8 · answered by mollie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't have typed it better myself. My father told us though when the extra marital son was 25 and I was only 17. I also have other brothers and sisters (all by the same two parents) who are even older than the unknown son.
Needless to say we met, all of us, and it was a great experience. Although my other brother and sisters are closer to him than me, I think it has more to do with our age difference and location. But he now is atleast a part of our family and vice versa.
Do it, I guarantee you won't regret it.
2006-10-28 23:23:31 · answer #9 · answered by neon49 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found out my dad had a another daughter ,got another woman pregnant when mother was pregnant for me,It made me crazy wanting to meet her .Well i got my chance to she was a nice gal had alot of problems and blamed every thing on my Dad need less to say i felt sorry for her for a while then after months of listening to her boo who over every thing I had had enough.She made no effort to improve her life and she was really a big time drinker and drug user .but none the less it cured me just knowing who and what she was and is
2006-10-28 22:38:19 · answer #10 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋