i am at my ex's place, she's gone out, the phone rings, i don't answer it, but he leaves a message and it's an old boyfriend, from 2 years ago...wanting her to "give him a call sometime.."
Do i delete the message and the everything else to delete, and just ignore it and say nothing, or should i not delete it and then question her about after??
2006-10-28 15:28:06 · 33 answers · asked by Traynor 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No you should NOT delete it. She's your ex. It's none of your business anymore. If she wants to get together with this other guy, more power to her. If you still have such strong feeling for her still, maybe you should talk to her about getting back together. If not, stay out of her personal life!
2006-10-28 15:30:49 · answer #1 · answered by legallyblond2day 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the message alone. If she is your ex, then that means you are just friends and it is over. It is her life now and she does not have to tell you anything. If she wants to tell you anything, then she will bring it up.
I know it is hard to let go and you must still have feelings for her or you would not have thought twice about the message.
If you delete the message and she finds out, she may never forgive you. Good luck.
2006-10-28 15:35:01 · answer #2 · answered by Bonnie L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why are you at your ex's place and she is not there? or why were you ever there in the first place? Move on.. I know I am being harsh but shes out and your not with her, there is a problem with this picture. Just ignore it because what ever you decide to do from those choices are wrong... You delete, she finds out you did, you will never be at her place again. You confront her, she says its none of your business anymore, guess what she is right, your her ex. So go out, its halloween which means alot of girls in revealing outfits and find yourself a girl that is actually into you.
2006-10-28 15:32:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't delete it. Wait to see if she tells you about it on her own (best scenario). If she doesn't, then just tell her you happened to hear the message and wondered why she didn't mention it to you. oh .... wait ... you said, it's your EX ... why do you care if it's your EX? Now I'm puzzled.
One way or the other, you shouldn't delete her message. He will eventually call again, tell her he left the message on that particular date, and she'll know you were there and had to be the culprit. Not a pretty scene.
2006-10-28 15:31:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really think you should just leave it alone, just because it really is not becoming behavior of you to do something like that. it would be dishonest and invasion of her privacy and you don't really want to be like that do you...?
think about the consequences of it if she were to ever find out that you did that, the ex could say he tried to call, most likely we will try to contact her again anyway. and then you will look really bad in her eyes. i actually had something very similar happen to me, an ex was deleting messages off of my cell phone and reading text messages and then deleting them. i found out and was very angry and hurt that he invaded my privacy. trust me sweetie it is better to just let it go, you are exes for a reason and it sounds like you should maybe try to move on...
good luck to you hon
2006-10-28 15:38:22 · answer #5 · answered by verykari♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give you the advise to delete the message, but then when you aren't around, she can get another call from him... so I suggest that you ask her about it; then she'll always remember that you know about his call & won't be so quick to return his call. You shouldn't have much to worry about, if you treat her like a lady. There must be a good reason why he is her "EX-boyfriend"!
2006-10-28 15:34:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, it is her home . Second, it is not right to get into her business u said she is ur ex. Would u want her to do what u were thinking of doing if she were at ur home. Think about it . You need to respect her privacy. If she gets the message and u are there perhaps she will discuss it with u. If not oh well its her life. Leave it alone..
2006-10-28 15:46:14 · answer #7 · answered by mmsbud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you want someone to delete your messages on your phone?Why would you question her?You say she is your ex.
2006-10-28 15:36:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i myself would face the same problem but its easier to give advice than to take your own. i would say you leave it! trust her...you will feel much better in the end. if you say something to her about it just remember that each time bring up something like that it can scar your relationship because the other person feels attacked and that they are not being trusted. also sometimes it kind of reverses the psychology and ppl may start thinking "hey if he doesnt trust me anyway why dont i just give him reason to not trust me"
i say you let it pan out. maybe she'll play the message in front of you and you can talk to her about it. make a joke out of it. don't make yourself seem like an investigator or anything. TRUST is the foundation of all relationships
GOOD LUCK!!
*smooches*
2006-10-28 15:35:15 · answer #9 · answered by princessfashionista 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the message and let her know later that you heard the message while at her house. It is appropriate and OK for her to know that you are concerned and that you want to know what her decision is going to be. Leave the message and be up front about it. Question but don't interrogate.
2006-10-28 15:36:38 · answer #10 · answered by danaluana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋