in other words when you feel that you have lost the bond with your partner and things arent working out what will you do to try in fix it?
2006-10-28 15:25:48 · 25 answers · asked by Janellys H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have had that happen with me.
I've had what I thought was the perfect life with my girlfriend and my beautiful little daughter. We had some money troubles, but nothing serious. I loved them both with all my heart, and even though my (now ex) girlfriend moved back to her own country, I guess I still do love her.
She left our daughter with me, because she knew damn well that I needed her. It's turned out to be a good thing, because I picked up on sign language better than she did so I can communicate with my daughter Eve.
I had no idea that the relationship with my ex was going down the drain, and so there wasn't really much that I could have done to save it. It's not like I was ignorant though, because I always paid plenty of attention to them both, and I valued them more than my job.
When I found out that she wanted to leave me, I did plenty of things. I begged, I cried, I argued, I stressed out. And If I had the chance to do it all again, I'd do the same thing. There isn't anything you can do to keep someone in a relationship if they no longer want to be with you. If they are kept in a relationship that they don't want, then they are going to be more likely to cheat on you. And I didn't want to go through that, or put my daughter through that.
As much as it pained me to do, I let her go, and focused all my attention on my daughter, and only her. Me and my ex still keep in touch though, and Evie talks to her on the phone sometimes. But its clear that she either doesn't like her too much, or she's mad about the fact that her mother left her.
Whichver it is, she's picked up on the fact that I'm feeling a little lonely without someone else there, and she knows that she can't make up for that. Whether it's that she wants me to be happy, or she wants a female figure in her life to look up to I'm not sure, but what I do know is that I'm not putting any relationship above the one that I have with my little baby girl.
2006-10-28 15:40:16 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Maul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on how long you have been together, how old you guys are (because maturity is a big player in relationships). If you have children, if you are just middle/high school kids, fighting over something irrelevant, then you guys should just break up, there's not reason to draw things out when you most likely will part once graduation comes, but if you 2 are committed to each other and have a lot good reasons to work on your relationship, besides fear of rejection, sex, and popularity, then I would say try counseling try to really get the root of your problem, men don't change, they just dont, so if there's things he is doing that you don't particularly like then you need to put a stop to it now, because time will not make the problems go away they will just get worse because you put up with it this long, your not going to leave over it later. See a counselor, go to couples communications classes, and try to talk to each other openly and honestly. It's hard to do, but sometimes it helps, for instance say he really likes internet porn and you hate it, he won't stop, he will pretend to, but no matter what you say or do, he wont stop because it hurts you. Men don't change they just lie, and decieve.
2006-10-28 15:32:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Take a break. Give time to each other.
2. See where is relationship lacking. What can you do.
3. If thing's don't work out, grow apart.
2006-10-28 15:28:07 · answer #3 · answered by first question 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nicely the terrific answer is often the single you think of is physically powerful. i'm in an analogous yet thoroughly diverse form of courting. Our courting is consistent with believe. in case you are able to rather believe your companion then there should not be many unresolvable issues. in any different case, there are people obtainable who can incredibly love you and would not cheat on you. i think cheating is incorrect, it under no circumstances finally ends up being a solid venture long term. I wish you an entire life of happiness.
2016-10-16 12:30:10 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u really feel stongly about the person then yea u can try to fix it. but if there really is nothing there u really shouldnt bother. cuz ur partner might feel the same as u do n the relationship will get akward.
2006-10-28 15:28:33 · answer #5 · answered by Lor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself am going through this as we speak and the only thing I can say is try to talk it out ask him what can you all do to get the relationship back on track
2006-10-28 15:28:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your boyfriend about it. communication is the best thing to do. all relationships go through a phase where theyre not as in love with each other anymore. its perfectly normal. now its up to you if you want to pursue the relationship with him. if you think hes a great guy and treats you right then id stay with him.
2006-10-28 15:29:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have a long talk with your partner and you start making dates doing things that both of you enjoyed doing together when you first started the relationship.
2006-10-28 15:27:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anna F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You talk it over and go day by day. If you are in a rut, find something new to do together, go on vacation or just get away for the weekend.
It will pass, but you have to hang on.
2006-10-28 15:27:52 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, remember why you fell in love with that person,do the things you used to & talk alot
2006-10-28 15:28:47 · answer #10 · answered by gitsliveon24 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋