When_is_a_good_age_to_tell_your_child_they_were_adopted,_and_what_words_should_you_use?

Answer 1

Your question doesn't read in full unless the cursor/mouse is put overtop of your question - then it shows the full question about when to tell your child that they've been adopted.

I have two friends who were adopted and by the time I met them in grade 8 - they both knew. One was told at an early age with the story of a mother hen who had many young chicks and because of her generous and loving heart, this mother hen gave one of her baby chicks to another mother hen (and daddy rooster) so they would have a little chick of their own to love and care for. The adoptive parents stressed how thankful they were to that mother hen and my friend never questioned how much she was loved by her adoptive parents. As she got older and started to ask "real" questions, she heard the truth.

The other friend was told a little later - closer to age 12. In her case it was stressed to her that she was even more special BECAUSE she was adopted because this meant that her adoptive parents actually CHOSE her to be their daughter (as opposed to just incidentally getting pregnant). When other kids tried to tease her about being adopted (kids can be cruel, and this was 20 years ago) - it just didn't bother her at all because the fact that she was "chosen" made her feel even more special. Her adoptive parents told her that her biological mother was not able to care for her and could not provide the basics (food, water, shelter, etc.) because of her circumstance and so wanted her child to have a happy life. Apparently the (adoptive) parents always referred to her as their special "gift" and when she was old enough in their minds, they told her who gave her to them as that gift.

In later years, both my friends sought out their biological parents WITH the knowledge of their adoptive parents. The biological parents became long-distance 'friends' to the women, and the adoptive parents were appreciated even more.

This is just what I know from my friends. Both of them had very loving, affectionate (and strict) adoptive parents - and so they always felt loved, protected and secure - so, meeting their biological parent(s) was not threatening to the adoptive parents.

I think you'll know in your heart when the time is right. (Just don't let your child find out from somebody else.)

Best wishes for you!

Answer 2

Telephone? Teleport? Telegraph? Television? Telemetry? Do tel

Answer 3

Well ether way or at any age they are going to be a little upset about it I think the younger the better because the older they get the most likely they are going to get mad and hate that you never told them.


it could cause relationship problems

Answer 4

When they get curious and start asking or if they are old enough to understand it. For those who don't understand the question put your pointer on the question and wait. The pop-sign will explain. That's pretty cool how you do that?

Answer 5

To tell what???

2 is a good age to tell your child potty training is coming up

15 is a good age to tell your child they need to start thinking about a college they would like to attend

4 is a good age to tell your child about school and how they will attend the following year..

Birth is a good age to start telling your child how much you love them...

Answer 6

u should tell ur kid they were adopted when u feel its the right time and u should use it in words they would understand and in words that wont hurt them...break it to him/her easily!
every child is different and only u know them so this is a question u cant ask everyone i think only u can decide exactly wat u think is right!

Answer 7

tell them right off don't lie to them the truth hurts but we grow in the end

Answer 8

40 years old. By then, they'll be mature and experienced and able to deal with it.

Answer 9

first of all Diane that was a great answer.... and as for the question what are we trying to tell?????

Answer 10

when they are old enough to handle the truth