Answers from women only, please.?

Question

We have known each other only for a few days, but I have made up my mind to ask her to marry me. Here's the plan: I have a house under construction and it's nearing completion. I haven't told her anything about the house. I am thinking of taking her to the house, have her open the front door, show her around, ask her if I can hold her hand and propose to her.

Ques:

1. It will be around the middle of December that I'll be taking her to the place. Is 2 months of knowing each other a little too early?
2. I went through a lot of difficulties during the process of house construction... loan approval, land acquisition, etc, and I didnt borrow a single penny from my Dad or my friends. I cut down on my personal expenses, lived on a strict budget, and it has finally paid off. I wish to share this with her when I am showing her around the house because I want her to know. Will it sound like I am bragging or is it alright?
3. Should I keep the ring box closed or open when giving to her?

Thanks for your answers, I forgot to mention, I am from Chennai, India, a very conservative society. Dating/Hanging out much is ruled out. I dont know how many of you are familiar with the concept of arranged marriages in India. I know it sucks, but thats the way it is.

Answer 1

You need to answer this question for yourself, however, from what you have told me, a few days of knowing someone is not knowing them at all, you need to spend more time together to actually get to know her. i think that you can really know a lot about a person after about 3 - 4 months, that way the honeymoon period is over and you can know all the good and bad about this person even if it is little. There maybe BIG things that this girl might not want to do that you do, such as having kids, does she want to? Do you? maybe she wants to travel or live somewhere else. Maybe her career isn't doing it for her and she tries something different that requires her to live in Australia (with me!!) all these things must be taken into account. What are her short term and long term dreams, maybe she never wants to get married, you wouldn't know all this after a few days, take the time to get to know what she wants out of life then make your decision. I wish you the very best of luck though.

Answer 2

Knowing someone a few days is not knowing that person at all. People usually put forth their best behavior when initially meeting someone new and while you might be enamored with this behavior, it is in no way giving you insight into this person's true self. Give the relationship some time and get to know this person before making such a huge committment as marriage should be. Too many marriages fail because the couples never really got to know each other and were just in love with the idea of being in love. Once you get to know this person enough to know if you are truly in love with them, you won't need to ask these questions. You will know the answers to #1 and #2. As for #3, open the box!

Answer 3

It sounds like a very romantic idea, but make sure that you love her and she loves you. A few days isn't enough to know if your in love with someone and spend the rest of your life with her. I think its a little early, and sharing the information about the house with her is a little like bragging because people do difficult things all the time. Keep the ring box open

Answer 4

If this is an arranged marriage and you feel this way I say do this, but if it is someone who is unfamiliar with your customs you need to wait at least a few years. I only say this so you will be happy in your relationship, culturally there are many different attitudes where marriage is concerned. If this is an arrange marriage, you should ask you dad what is best to do when presenting the ring, tradition is so wonderful honor it! Good luck.

Answer 5

What a double surprise and a great idea. Two months is not too short of a time, people get married in less time then this. When you propose, open the ring box, this will be so romantic. I am sure she will be happy and excited.

Answer 6

Sounds like a great plan. Though I don't agree with proposing so soon I do wish you the best of luck. Ring box should be opened by you when you kneel down on 1 knee.

Answer 7

1) You may want to wait a little longer to make sure she is not scared off by asking after only two months of dating.
2) She should be very proud of you for managing your money as well as you have. Go ahead and tell her.
3) Have the box open.

Answer 8

You sound so sweet and I wish the best for you, but take it from me...the best thing you could do for the two of you is to wait to get to know each other better. I'm not saying it's doomed to failure if you don't, but you don't want to put yourself through the heartache of making a mistake.

As for showing her the house, it won't sound like bragging. It'll show her that you are a mature man who is supporting himself and can support a family. That's a big plus for a woman.

Answer 9

The question is 2 months of knowing her a little too early? my opinion yes....you may want to wait, because you REALLY don't know her...do you know her family or her likes or dislikes.?...how many children does she want to have???maybe none...ask her different questions to find out about her...if you do not KNOW her ,like most people that have known each other a couple YEARS, you may end up in the divorce court...BUT I HOPE NOT>..YOU SEEM LIKE A NICE GUY!! SINCE YOU ASKED ME...i would say wait and see....it is only time!!!

Answer 10

1. Yes, definitely.
2. Save that for a different conversation.
3. Open

Arranged marriage is for the socially inept.