OK. I am 13 years old. My dad is protective, too protective at times, but thats good and I do appreciate it. But I can't talk to boys on my cell phone and I DON'T chat with boys on my computer just as he said. So I mean they are just like my regular friends and I don't think they should be looked at differently(at times). I have been talking to boys on my cell phone and I just know he is going to question who have I been talking to so should I tell him or tell him and like explain that I am not a little girl anymore? I really need some help and advice, please help!
P.S. I am very smart and I do right in school at home. I am just asking this because boys are not my top priority, but I just want my father to see I am growing up.
2006-10-28 14:47:47 · 8 answers · asked by iM BL0WiNG UP 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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2006-10-28 15:10:44 · update #1
Ok, I have five daughters, at 13, I did not approve of them chatting with boys, in a town of 5000, the boys were the boys they would see at school, only one middle school in town.
You need to respect your fathers wishes, I know he seems to protective but in a little town, in Nebraska, one of my daughters (at age 14) wound up chatting with a boy 4 years older. Want to guess what happened, the chatting turned into a romance. The romance resulted in her losing her virginity in an effort to keep him from being with a 20 year old woman with a kid.
You may think your father is to protective, he really isn't, he just wants you to grow up one step at a time instead of by leaps and bounds. He loves you, and you will always be his little girl.
If you want to prove you are not a little girl, and at 13, I think you are becoming...."becoming" a young woman, then be honest with him. Yes, he is going to have to accept that you are becoming a young woman, but don't rush it, please, for your sake, don't rush it.
Hope this helps from another fathers perspective.
2006-10-28 14:57:22 · answer #1 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
My dad is and has never stopped being protective. Im seventeen and cant even go to a party with kids my age because he thinks the cops will be called. Oh and did I happen to mention that he would be called because he is a cop? I love my dad believe me. Like you I am a good student, and my dad is so proud of that. He brags about me all the time. A father will always be protective over his baby girl. I should know that from experience. Your dad just doesnt want to see you grow up to fast. When I turned 11 I thought I had to do everything my friends did. Meaning I had to wear makeup, carry a purse, work for money to go shopping, and so on. I admit my dad did not aprove when I started acting like I was 15 instead of my real age. When I turned 13 I quit doing that stuff and acted like the little girl I was. I did everything with my dad. He so enjoyed it. After about a month of acting like that he said " Im glad you are finally realizing that growing up isnt the best way of life". The thing your dad is trying to say is that you only get to be his little girl for so long, before you have to grow up and he has to deal with all those horny boys. He loves you. He only wants whats best for his little girl. You never know what will happen tomorrow or the next day. So let him be protective of his little girl. Because he will only get to be that way before that little girl grows up to be a young beautiful woman.
2006-10-28 16:13:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why could you provide the boy extra freedom than the lady? That doesnt make experience. Just set the age for 15-sixteen and in the event that they earn the correct up to now prior then allow them to. But simply considering your boy is a boy does not provide him the correct up to now prior. 12.five is WAY too younger to be courting anyhow. I'm no longer a mother or father however that is simply what I consider...and I'm 15.
2016-09-01 04:09:17 · answer #3 · answered by stufflebeam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you don't want to hear this but you are a little girl. And a good dad is not going to stop looking out for you even when you are grown.
Be thankful that he loves you so much....and I'll tell you a little secret. It isn't that he doesn't trust you - it is the boys he doesn't trust.
2006-10-28 14:58:50 · answer #4 · answered by chris 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
he scolds you because he cares. remember, parents are just like god, they just love you unconditionally. they think abt you every moment and they know what life is. they just want to keep you away from troubles.
at 13 you wish to talk to boys and stuffs. slow down. with time you would get your chances and more than enough time. everything has a time and when done in right time its perfect. at this moment - you should be talking abt games etc etc etc
2006-10-28 15:21:21 · answer #5 · answered by i don know y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya i'm also 13, and i know how you feel my dad is the same way. Both my parents are. It sucks, but i guess its just because they care, but ya i wish that they would realize, that i am growing up. i try talking to them about it, but it always turns into to a big argument, so i guess i have no choice but to wait for them to loosen up a bit, and realize that i am no longer a little girl.
2006-10-28 16:11:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Good luck with that. You are only 13 so you will need to do a lot of convincing!!
2006-10-28 14:53:12 · answer #7 · answered by mister 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
my brother is almost the same way. I just bug him about how cute this one guy is, or something along thoes lines.
What's the worst that could happen?
2006-10-28 14:53:55 · answer #8 · answered by justasking 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋