Im 17 weeks pregnant...?

Question

I am 17 weeks along & baby's father has not been involved, but I am strong & dealing with it. When the baby is born should I give the child the father's last name & should I contact him or his family to let them know that the little bundle of joy came into the world???

He does know that I am pregnant & chose to walk away. I cannot say for sure if he will be involved later on or not...

Answer 1

Congratulations with this baby.

Answer 2

If i were u I wouldnt give the baby its fathers last name if he has not helped u at all during this pregancy,but if he helps and u guys think abt how everything is gonna work then u hae 2 decide. I would contact them when ur wonderful baby is born in to this world only because it took both of u to have the kid, so yea i would in form the family about u goin into labor! Hope this was some what helpfull! Good Luck!

Answer 3

Well it's your right as the mother to give your child whatever last name you want. Personally, if I was to give birth and I wasn't married, the child would have my last name, not his.
When you do give birth, I would call him to let him know. Even if he's being a jerk about it now, it is still his right (unless he signs them away) to know that a child he helped create has been brought into the world, or better yet, call him on the way to the hospital.
I hope that if he isn't a total jerk that he comes around and is, at the very least, a supportive father. If not, at least you gave him the chance to be one.
Good luck, and I hope the next 23 weeks go well for you.

Answer 4

Do you have a supportive family member or friend during this time to assist you? The baby's father may change his mind during the next few months and want to be involved with parenting this child. He legally will have rights and responsiblities so you should keep in touch with him during this time. It is expensive for daycare and diapers so he should contribute with these fees. If you do not need any assistance from him then let him know you will not be asking him to contribute nor should he expect any visiting privledges when the child is born.

Answer 5

This a very hard decision that you are going to have to make. You need to think of a lot of things. Is the father going to want to be involved later, do you want him to be involved, is it better for the child if he is involved? The last name issue is totally up to you but personally if he is not involved him the child your last name.

Answer 6

NOOOOOOOOOOO do not use his last name unless there is a ring on your finger and you have his last name also.

You can always get the baby's name changed to his at a later time, they will reissue a birth certificate and ss card.

This is not his right to have. Even if he is paying support, that holds no water in making that baby have his last name.

I don't know if "court" wise he could demand it being changed, but if he doesn't sound like the type that really would care that much.

Play it Safe... use your name, and change it later if need be!!!

Answer 7

if he chose to walk away the baby deserves your last name because it doesn't sound like it is going to work out between you and the father. You should let his family meet the baby because the baby is partly his. Make sure the baby does get to see thier father sometimes during it's life bc i never got to meet my parents and i wish i could meet them everyday. Also make sure it meets it's parents because in science class for this whole quarter we are talking about gentics and i am the only one who can't do the worksheets or the project or participate in the discussion about which traits i got from my parents and everything like that :(

Answer 8

I was in your situation 3 weeks ago lol..and now I am back with my babys dad...just goes to show you that ANYTHING can happen...What I was going to do before I got back with my baby's dad was yes give the baby his last name so I could get child support and I told him and his family when my suspected due date was before hand (March 19th) and told him that if he wanted to come down around that date to call and see what was going on...now I am still giving my baby his father's last name...but my bf is getting involved and being apart now....so its all gravy..good luck and I have been in your situation(not that it helps to say lol) but keep your head up and keep breathing...you can do it.

Answer 9

personally, I think a child should have the father's last name . . but it's totally up to you . . . . I would say make contact to let him know the baby is here, and then go from there . . . just because he's being childish, doesn't mean that you have to behave the same way . . .

Answer 10

give the baby your name because in the long run if you chose to go to court and get full custody which I strongly urge it will make things less complicated plus your child will grow up one day and ask alot of questions and the whole last name thing will be one less subject for you to stress over.

And no you shouldn't it doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure up 9 mos right? don't make them feel obligated if they want to have anything to do with your child let them do so because they really want to your child can tell if they don't

Answer 11

If the baby's father is not involved now, he will not be then. I am sorry, but congratulations! Do not get them involved, be strong, and raise that little one terrific. You are great, I can tell. Don't worry about "small men." Good luck to you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If they want to be involved do not shy away from it. He may just be immature, but his family might be ready to be relatives. Grandparents, Uncle/Aunt, etc.