Why do people want to be around family so much?

Question

This may make me seem like and *** but i am just saying how i feel and i want to know why people feel the way they do.

there is a family gathering tonight sience one of mu uncles will only be here for a few hours and i am not going. i do not want to go. i even made sure i did not tell my father (my parents are divirced but he still likes to see my mothers family) till earlier today because i knew he would make me go if i told him earlier. so now he is annoyed with me.

is what i did really that bad? all i did was full fill my wish of not seeing my family. i went to a gathering realier in the year and for me thats more than enough. i dont know. i just do not want to see my family, is that really so bad? its not that their bad people, i just do not connect with them and it feels more like a chore than a pleasure. so how do you think? why do most of you falve family so much? say what you feel so maby i can understand better.

Answer 1

u feel like that now but when u get older u will realize that family is importnant even if u have ur ups and downs and it's fun u get to hear the gossip and u might even learn something new

Answer 2

Have you ever lost someone who meant the world to you. If I didn't have family I could never get thru the death of my daughter. The bond that we created many years ago. gets stronger each day. But when I think of any of them leaving this world it hurts.And at my age many have. The great times we had ,the conversations we spoke, even the fights are all memories that I will cherish forever. Without family dinners. get togethers,Birthday parties, picnics where would these great memories come from. I am 65 now and I hope that I can give to my grand children the memories of good times. sad times. happy times, When I'm long gone they can say Do You Remember When Grandma................ Maybe Dad was upset, because he wants people in the family to see you, because he's proud of you , and loves you. And its important to us that family is there for each other.

Answer 3

Are you by chance an only child? You sure seem like you only focus on what YOU want. Maybe you don't connect with your family because you are to selfish to consider how anyone else feels. Was where you wanted to go something you could only do today? Like a concert you had tickets for or a lecture you did not want to miss? Or were you just hanging out at the mall or the arcade? I mean how could a couple of hours with family who loves you be so bad? They are not there to entertain you ? They don't just focus on totally you? Maybe you should have taken your fathers feelings into consideration. It sounds to me like you thought long enough about not going to be conniving enough to get out of it. Does that sound kinda bad to you? It sent a flag up to me, I think you owe your dad an apology and it could be time to grow up a little and think about someone other than yourself.

Answer 4

I think you are lucky to have family that you can spend time with. Of course, I'm much older than you, lol.

When I was younger I didn't much enjoy going to family gatherings either. My uncles used to "tease" me and I really hated it. Now I realize that this was just their way of showing me how much they cared about me.

We don't get to pick our family like we pick our friends. Naturally you enjoy being around people who have more in common with you. I think as you get older you will develop a better appreciation for your family.

Sadly it's often only after they are gone that some of us begin to realize the treasures we have lost. Give them a chance, you can bet that if you ever need someone, family will be there!

Answer 5

Bear them. It's only for a few hours. Anyway you will not be seeing much of your uncle later on.

I felt like this when I was younger but I soon realized that the people who are most inclined to help us are family. You'll never know that sooner or later you will be soliciting their assistance. I know it's a self centered point of view but that's the way it is, so be nice to them. No man is an island. Strengthen family ties.

When you will have children of your own, you will also be proud to show them off to your relatives.

Answer 6

Lost my: I can understand why you don't want to be around your family. You have no "sense" of the importance of family. This is from your bad experience with it ! You mentioned that your parents are "divorced". Undoubtedly, you as a child in your years when your parents were man and wife, you heard them argue and fight quite a bit ! Your experience with "family" has left a "bad taste" in your "mouth". Have you sought counselling for your bad experience ? Please do - you will be glad you did. The effects will be carried forward with you, into your future relationships with women and you want to have a positive experience. Good luck to you !!!

Answer 7

i feel the same way!!! i used to try and keep in touch with my family when they came into town but i really hate to see them when they do come now. i'm a young unwed mother and most of my family frowns on that. they try to marry me off almost at every family fucntion and lecture me about where they feel my life is going. now if i have to see them at all i do the usual hugs and kisses then i make up something that i have to do but i really dont just to get away from them.

Answer 8

I'm around my family mostly everyday and I love being around them because we all have a bonding relationship To make it sound even creepier most of my family lives on the same block and neighborhood.I really don't have any close friends outside of my family.

Answer 9

You must be very young. I remember feeling the same way in my youth. But as time flies and you grow to mature..maybe in your mid 20's to mid thirties when you start to realize that when the chips are down, all you have is your family, you start to appreciate them more. Yes, there are the very limited friends who may past the test of time but in most cases when the chips are down you will discover that there is a special kind of unconditional love shared within a family that cannot compare. It is very similar feeling as one has for their spouse of at least 5 years or more. Give it some time. You will learn to appreciate them more. If you are young, they will understand as they may have felt the same way when they was your age.

Answer 10

I guess it's all individual. But does it kill you to go? What if you just went for an hour, then did what you wanted to do? I love spending time with my family, we get together about 10 times a year....just because. It's not unusual that you don't get along with you family, a lot of people are like that. But my family actually gets along (most of the time).

Answer 11

Women tend to want to be near their mothers and family more than most men I hated it like you once a year is enough for me .I think you did the right thing you made a free will choice and thats what we all should be doing as long as it is lawfull.