my b/f has cheated on me twice in last 5 years, we have had rows where he has turned violent and now he is saying everyone hates me and he is starting to think they are all right and why is he with me. He says I'm hard work. But the trouble is he annoys me and hurts me as much as he can with comments like your fat then says - Joke. The truth is i'm average but i'm consious of my weight.
Tonight he's been up the pub and all i can get out of him is they hate you and i'm turning against you coz i listen to them. He's older than me but does not have to worry about anything as i deal with it all, i pay the mortgage and the bills running the cars etc... This week he started a row and came out with i want to split up on tuesday, following that wednesday we had another row, i told him it was over. I left the hosue in tears he then comes after me and then he tells me he doesn't want to split up and he loves me. But he starts txting a friend of mine thurs saying he wishes she was there!
HELP
2006-10-28 14:16:26 · 27 answers · asked by grizzlybear 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I did have strong feelings for this guy but now I'm confused. I've been hurt pretty bad in the past and he's still hurting me. It wasn't until earlier this year in a row he told me that the girl he cheated on me with last yr mis-carried his child! I loved him and trusted him but the trust disappeared a while ago and now i'm not even sure if i love him anymore. All he seems to do is pressurise me and upset me.
2006-10-28 16:42:13 · update #1
Leave this man NOW..he is causing you stress you dont need it or deserve it..this is not what being in love is like.
2006-10-28 14:19:03 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you know what every ones answer will be but you are just hoping that everyone will agree with you before you go through with it.
Your b/f sounds mentally ill, very paranoid as well.
You don't need him but im guessing that he has ruined your self esteem so much that you feel as though you cant do any better.
Leave him and go to a self help group this will help rebuild your way of seeing yourself and who are all these people who supposedly hate you?
It doesn't sound as though he loves you or has ever loved you because if he had he wouldn't try and hurt you this much!!
As soon as someone begins to be violent against you there is know question that you should leave him GET OUT NOW before it gets any worse!!
2006-10-28 20:54:55 · answer #2 · answered by Beautiful - 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The longer you stay the more that happens and the more bitter you become, he'll be fine you;'ll be the one feeling worse than you do now and more self contious (sp) I know believe me I know it so much easier said than done but be the one that did it ok for me and most of all yourself obviously if your doing everything now and he's not really there for you anyway what would be the difference, only you'll have room for a real man and you coule possibly be happy the way you deserve to be dont settle for anything less ok, be a pioneer and change it GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-28 14:22:00 · answer #3 · answered by KIMBUR 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like the guys just a jerk. im sorry. theres nothing wrong with you, but it sounds like hes using you, especially if youre the one paying for everything. mean comments like that, starting a row every couple of days, those arent the actions of someone who loves you, no matter what he says. hes texting your friends, claiming that everyone hates you. nah, that's not a good healthy relationship. get out while you still can. especially if hes cheated on you, twice no less. you can do a million times better, trust me.
2006-10-28 14:28:33 · answer #4 · answered by potato head 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he doesn't want to lose his "sugar momma". His behavior is terrible. Why would you stay with him? Call a lawyer and see what can be done. You have been living together and will need some advice about splitting up the assets. You deserve better treatment than this. Get rid of him.
2006-10-28 14:21:29 · answer #5 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get away from him for the sake of your sanity and well being..the only reason he goes after you is cuz he doesn't want to be alone and he would loose all the things that you do for him. It is hard to leave someone you love but how much punishment are you willing to take from him??!!, there is no sense in it. Find some one who enjoys every moment with you...he is out there..don't take any more crap cuz you don't have to!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-28 14:25:50 · answer #6 · answered by wyldmntgyrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have taken so much pain, and it hurts from a mans point of view as to what he is doing to you.
I think you know deep inside what you want to do, just do it don't let him hurt you again, if you take him back you'll be hurting yourself.
Talking is good, but in this case don't hurt yourself.
I hope you can this out.
2006-10-29 01:00:57 · answer #7 · answered by BigD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Grizzly,
I think this man of yours is just using you until someone else comes along.I had a husband like that and now I'm happy to say he is my ex-husband.You can do with out him if you try,I know it is really hard but life is too short and you deserve to be happy.Please think of yourself for once. Good Luck
2006-10-28 14:27:02 · answer #8 · answered by jetzgirl64 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY ARE YOU WITH THIS GUY??? ask urself this, cos i cant seem to figure it out. he has already cheated on you, he hurts you, he purposely puts u down. the love has died, there's nuthing worth holding onto in this relationship. your just scared to be single. the only reason ur staying with him is out of habit and convience. go and find somebody else! dont stay with him, has he said he'll change for you?
2006-10-28 14:25:23 · answer #9 · answered by flying_tigers999 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP! Avoid him.......!!!!!!!!!! This guy sounds like a pshycho! Get out of the relationship pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee before everything is too late. Regrets are always at the end. 5 years are long...... and am sorry to hear your problems.......but think about 6 or 7 or 8 or 9 years??????? Just get out.....party with your friends and move on....find another man....................
2006-10-28 14:20:52 · answer #10 · answered by alwaysmile 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋