I need a really helpful answer.?

Question

when i was born, my dad wasn't around. He ran away when i was just a tinny baby.
he doesn't talk to ANYONE in our family.
I really want to meet him someday. i still love him no matter what. But do you think i will ever get a chance to actually meet him?

Answer 1

if you look for him, most definite you'll get a chance to meet him and forgive him for abandoning you and your family. but don't expect for him to want to be in life all the sudden. good luck

Answer 2

Maybe. But you may want to counsel your self or seek a professional counselor. There is no telling what that reunion will be like and you need to prepare yourself for your reaction whether good, bad or indifferent. Emotions will be high on both ends because you've never met each other. He may feel guilty, resentful, angry or numb and you may experience some of those same things. Try not to over-sensationalize the situation or let your imagination run wild; you don't want to be disappointed. Ask yourself what you expect and what you hope to accomplish with this meeting. Write down your responses and reflect on them. It's ok to love your father, that's natural. But do you want him in your life after all this time? What was it that made him leave and kept him away so long? These are things you need to consider before opening that can of worms. Keep your head up, be encouraged and follow your heart. Best wishes.

Answer 3

My dad also wasn't around. When I was 18, he showed up to introduce himself. Later he admitted that he waited until I was 18, so that he won't be obligated to help out financially. What a guy, huh.

Since then he's kept in touch, but I've never felt much for him. I don't feel angry, but I don't think I'll ever feel close to him, even though he wants it now.

I guess my point is that you'll never know if your dad will come knocking someday. Hopefully he will since you want it. But also be prepared to feel differently that what you expected. And if you never do meet him, don't take for granted those people who did raise you, and with whom you have a real relationship with.

Best of luck.

Answer 4

It is noble of you to love a man you have never met just because you know he is your father. I don't understand how you can say you "still" love him. You never knew him. You do not know what was there to love because he took himself out of your life never to return.

There may be a high possibility that if and when you do ever find him and meet him you will wish you had not met him. Have you considered that? Deep down I think it would be more heartbreaking to have that happen than to never know.

First you need to talk to your mother and your family and find out about him, what was he like, what made him leave. I am sure there is someone in your family that would be honest enough to tell you the truth. If he wanted to be there and he wanted to be a part of your life he would have been. He wasn't.

You need to cherish the family you have, the family that raised you and gave you what you needed and not look for what was not there for you.

You need to focus on you and make goals for yourself. Reach for your goals and make them come true.

Answer 5

i'm glad to know at least you have brains here - accepting the facts in life and yes, no matter what he is still your dad like it or not and whatever happened happens so it's history. no one will be able to guarantee if you are able to meet him or not, it's really up to you cause if you really want to meet him you will be determine to find all you ways to search for him and this is something none of us can help you apart of yourself and your family. all the best and really do keep up such a positive life cause it makes a lot of deference.

Answer 6

DANNI,i feel for you ,my dad left my mom when i was 6 weeks old and with no money or milk ,she had to beg our neighbors for help she didn't even speak English,i cant tell you if you will find your father, all i can say is i found mine and it was a waist, all he did was work me to death in the woods and gave me nothing for it ,i kept forgiving him because he was a drunk,but my final straw was when he never showed up for his own daughters funeral,my big sister,i hope you do meet him some day ,but keep it real,don't expect to much.god bless.

Answer 7

Dear Danni,

My name is Robbie and I read your question.I want to say anything is possible.I Would say maybe yes theres a chance to meet your dad.I Would start by tyring to reach your dad by writing a letter or even calling him.Talk to your mom and ask her if she knows how you can reach him.Contact your dad Danni and let him know how much you love him and forgive him.Reach out to him Danni and never get discouraged good things will come to this Danni.I hope you reach him,message me and let me know how you make out.My email addy is [e-mail].I would love to hear how you make out

Answer 8

Sure I do. I'm sure, now that you're older he maybe wants to meet you too. Why don't you ask your mom more about him and try to get a hold of him. Just explain that you need to know who your biological father is and you don't care if he left you, you still care for him and need to know if he wants to be in your life because you want to be in his. Hopefully she will understand, if not, ask someone else in your family what his name is and try looking for him yourself. Good Luck!

Answer 9

this question reminds me of the show lost when locke wanted to meet his real dad.

well, the show had a good point, it will most likey have a bad ending. it would be just like meeting a strager. he may be your dad biologically, but thats all he is to you.

you could try to meet him, look him up, im sure you know his name.

you never know... it could have a happy ending... its your decision and only yours. if you want to meet him you will.

Answer 10

I would hope in the course of your life, He has matured and if you can find him...Hopefully he will accept you as his daughter now. You've missed a lot, but it's never too late to start a relationship

Good Luck