I lovr my b/f more than I have ever loved anyone on this earth, but need more from our realtionship than he is willing to give. Should I walk away now. ????? Problem is dont want too. i want a normal relationship just like everyone elses. IS THAT SO WRONG OF ME??????????????????????????????//
2006-10-28 14:02:06 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont want to scare him off. Just make him realise he isnt 17 anymore. I guess I have lot of heart searching to do.
2006-10-29 09:54:18 · update #1
I dont want to scare him off. Just make him realise he isnt 17 anymore. I guess I have lot of heart searching to do.
2006-10-29 09:54:19 · update #2
no its not wrong of you..you need to be honest with yourself. do you just want sex or do you scare him off with a relationship and all its trimmings?
2006-10-29 08:13:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
what do you want, sex? If thats the case, then move on, cause if the guy is not will to give you sex when you want it, hes either dumb, gay, or doesnt want to have sex b4 marriage which is usually the case. Other than that, theres nothing wrong with wanting more, and if he refusing to give more, talk to him, make sure your sure that what you want is best for the both of you and not just you, and also make sure its not unfair for him. Thats all i can say cause you dont say what it is you want more of... Waiting around for something to change can be what you want, but it can turn out horrible if nobody changes, cause your sitting there troubled about something that you cant change and you sit there thinking and your not doing anything but waiting for a dream come true, but the "dream come true" hardly happens. Basically, you can sit and wait if you want, but it might take some really long and hard time, and during that time something better could come along and you miss it cause your waiting...I dont want this to sound corney or anything but let your heart guid you, if your not happy anyways, what makes you think he can make you happy waiting for him to change, if he does make you happy then try and wait...just not too long....
2006-10-28 14:09:40 · answer #2 · answered by 96.7 KCAL ROCKS!!! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It isn't wrong to want things in life period. But if he can't give you what you need, the best thing to do is walk away no matter how much you love him. If you should marry him, it wouldn't be fair to you or to him and probably wouldn't work anyway. But first, I would sit down and have a really good heart to heart talk with him and tell him what your needs are. Don't fight and fuss with him though. You will get nowhere doing that. If he refuses to give you whatever it is that you need, you need to walk away because you will never be truly happy. Good luck.
2006-10-28 14:07:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
more what ?? I am not expecting you to tell us all but - if you know what you want from your relaitionship and are not getting it then I think you have to make a choice. Are you happy to have a relationship for now - just enjoying the time together without looking to the future or are you looking for a long term relationship - leading to marrige or other kind of long term commitment?. If you want a long term relationship - decide if you can compromise - if not leave him. Remember this - you will not change him or what he puts into a relationship , this means you need to either accept your differences and be okay with them or leave him fand find someone who can give you all you need. Hard to do but needs doing.
2006-10-28 16:18:08 · answer #4 · answered by ricmau35 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It really depends what you feel is lacking in your relationship. But regardless I would talk to him about it he might not even be aware that anything is wrong. If you really love him and want things to work some changes can try to be made to help cement the relationship more. If you ask another question question with more description I'll answer you again and try helping you out more, but without really knowing the situation this is the best I can do sorry but good luck with everything.
2006-10-28 14:16:30 · answer #5 · answered by IceyFlame 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
its not wrong to love someone and want a good relationship with them. if you love him and if he loves you he should be able to get what you need. still, if he isnt able to give it to you, maybe that means he isnt the one. if you cant have the relationship you want, then its better to walk away now before things get too far along and it's that much harder to walk away later. if you arent getting what you need, then you wont truly be happy, and it will only get worse as time goes by. dont get me wrong, im sure you two can still be happy together, at least for a time, but you wont be happy in the long run. does that make sense?
2006-10-28 14:11:19 · answer #6 · answered by potato head 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
its not wrong to want more but the person you with has to be willing to work at this its give and take. You will need to give as well instead of just take.
If you have talked and he cant provide you with what you want or wont do anything to step up towards what you want from him then maybe you should consider leaving him and finding another guy who will give you what you want. Trust me i know this decission is not easy to make but you will be glad if you do make it. There is not much point with being with a guy who cant offer you what you want in the long term it will only cause you to be miserable and lonely.
2006-10-28 15:33:17 · answer #7 · answered by grizzlybear 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does he feel the same about you? If so, than be patient and dont try to push him into something he isn't ready for. I've found that out the hard way. Also, what is a "normal relationship"? Could it be that normal is what each of us make it out to be?
2006-10-28 14:09:29 · answer #8 · answered by nice and steady 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think your instinct will tell you what to do, if you don't think he is the one then just enjoy the time you have with him, life is too short when the right man comes along you will know,
when I met my hubbie we practically moved in together within weeks and we have now been together for over 8 years and I am as happy as the day we met so it will come when you least expect it too...xxxx....
2006-10-28 14:15:21 · answer #9 · answered by tracey2girls1boy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i understand what u mean u can imply this to him but dont be so pushy i mean its normal and a fact the the person who shows more of love the other tend to show less ( not tend i mean automatcily coz he feels safe that the other love him ) so just make him feel u want more and see what happens
2006-10-28 14:07:20 · answer #10 · answered by peter prince 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he is not willing to give you whay you need the he is not the right guy for you. Tell him he has to give you what you need, if he doesnt then move on because although you may love him the relationship is not right.
2006-10-28 18:46:43 · answer #11 · answered by Doc M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋