I am fourteen & i know I loved my boyfriend but I just couldn't act like it. He was so crazy about me &when he said he loved me i just couldn't say it because i felt stupid sayign "i love you too". I hated hugging him at school when he left or something because i just felt stupid--i'd see him tomorrow! what's the big deal?
i would make out with him & everything & he always wanted to be in physical contact with me but sometimes at school i stopped him because i know tons of people including adults at me school and he'd have his hand on my butt a lot &i know it makes other people uncomfortable sometimes.
so now he broke up with me because i treated him badly
now i have no idea why i was like that & i'm just wondering if anyone has ideas or if they have an idea of a way i can try not to be like that? because now he has another girlfriend but they're not working out. if they break up and i can change, he might take me back. so i really want to change. psychoanalyze me! help! thanks!
2006-10-28 13:56:14 · 6 answers · asked by Julia Q 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he didn't want to go any further physically than i did, and i can understand how some people would say i am still young. but that doesn't really help me. because i still feel the same way. i would never have sex with him or anything like that. but i had a real emotional connection with him--i told him pretty much everythign and he's the only one i could talk to about my real problems (when i was about 7 my mom had cancer). so this isn't just a little kid relationship, at least i don't think so.
2006-10-28 14:06:17 · update #1
umm you're too young. You're feelings are saying "warning warning warning!" Don't ignore your feelings. He wants to get really physical and you are not ready. Wait until you are at least.... married. You should not be worrying about these things right now. Go out to the movie with a girlfriend get some junk food and a game and have a sleep over. No boys allowed. Finish school, then start worrying about guys. Have a lovely day!
2006-10-28 14:02:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i no u said ur not all that young, but 14 is young! he is not the only guy in the world! there's nuthing WRONG with wat u did adn acted, u've just gotta rememba how it would of made him feel. not being able to say u loved him, would'of been a huge deal. he had just made a big confession to u and instead of doing the same thing u said nuthing. u say u felt stupid? how would he have felt??? i think it probably made him realise that u werent as emotionally atatched to him, adn didnt have as strong feelings as he had for u. he wanted to touch u adn didnt care wat others thought. u didnt. u didn't like/love him enough or maybe ur just looking for sumthing else from the relationship. you cant decide to change. it wont work. give it time adn see.
2006-10-28 21:16:59 · answer #2 · answered by flying_tigers999 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with a guy a few years ago and had the same problem. When I met my husband though, it was a bit different, I had no hassles telling him I loved him and cuddling him in public and stuff. Maybe you did love him, but it wasnt enough to be comfortable?
2006-10-28 21:01:24 · answer #3 · answered by jacks my boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really did love him, you'd have no problem saying it. The fact that you son't hug him at school also says that you want to leave your options open.
So don't change. Go find yourself that f*ck buddy you were seeking and enjoy.
2006-10-28 23:06:27 · answer #4 · answered by Rex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is what you really really want you will make sacraficies
If you are makeing sacrafices then it may not be love...????
love doesn't want you to do that...
love cares for you.
and the reverse is true
if he is loved then you will want to help him prosper for himslef.. NOT YOU!
If you could not show that you love him
then
maybe you don't!!!!!??????????
if you don't know the reason maybe you will find out soon... or it will go away!
stay with you heart, if you can't show it then there is a reason
if you can then there is a reason as well...
I have faith in you figureing it out for yourself.....
hm...
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2006-10-28 21:05:22 · answer #5 · answered by DM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they break up and you change you should ask him back out.and who cares what other people say always remember that.
2006-10-28 21:01:24 · answer #6 · answered by buble c 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋