Hey guys, I have a close buddy of mine and we are both in our 20's. He is quiet and a very nice person and is a funny guy. But latley he seems to be contemplating life and everything and how society works. He is also alot more mellowed out.
He will watch tv and sometimes say things like "Thats sad how materialistic our society is and how it brainwashes people into being like everyone else." He also says "Those people on the ads use pretty women just to get their product they dont care about the person buying it at all, what a crappy world".
I agree with him but it seems to really bother him for some reason.Then he will watch a movie and say something like "That is gonna be me, I will get killed and left somewhere and no one will care just like that guy who just got murdered on the movie". That really bothers me, I mean its just a movie right? Latley he seems peaceful, calm and it sorta bothers me. I found alot of near death experience sites on bookmarks on his browser. Should I wory
2006-10-28 13:53:26 · 7 answers · asked by Nes Corruption Duns. 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Why don't you try talking to him?
2006-10-28 13:57:07 · answer #1 · answered by tinamaries43 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems very disattached or disassociated (not sure which is the correct term but you get the jist)
At first I was going to be shouting THIS IS A WARNING SIGN!!111
As people who are depressed can often get peaceful once they've decided to end their life. But it seems like he has been peaceful all along..? Keep an eye on him right now.
Just talk to him and figure out how serious he is and if he's actually contemplating suicide or just feeling hopeless and investigating things. (near death)
Maybe he has been reading up to get rid of his fear of death so he can kill himself or maybe he is just interested in the whole thing.
It's a common thing to be interested in stuff like that, and he could just be in a funk about society. If you think he's taking things too seriously just talk to him and try to get him to focus on positives and find meaning in his life. Point out that we need to be somewhat complacent with the things that are going on (like how society is etc) because we don't have that much (if any) control over it.
OR, a good idea is to try and actually make change instead of just sitting around complaining about it.
I mean seriously, let him see that you either need to accept it or try and change it. Sitting around being annoyed about it isn't going to do any good, to the contrary.
Suggest that he write some letters to whoever he has a problem with. Or start a petition, or join groups or whatever where he can express his passion (like those who do protests, against nuclear power for example)
He'll find his voice is being heard which is probably what he wants, next to an actual change.
That's the start of change, for enough people to be heard.
It would be good for him to find people who have the same view as him and are passionate about it instead of him sitting on his own dwelling on it.
If he is depressed though he's probably just focusing on it too much. You just need to talk and dig! You might want to check my other answer I did recently (its quite long) talking about how to help people who are stuck in a depression.
2006-10-28 21:33:31 · answer #2 · answered by Fluffy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is a very deep person in a very shallow and materialistic world. He is right about how companies marketing uses pretty women. He might also like to experience new things, that is why you should be aware, not worried. Maybe he is trying to figure out the meaning of life, why is he here on earth. Maybe you can bring up the topic, so he trusts in you next time and does not hide anything from you. It is important that you tell him how important his friendship means to you.
2006-10-28 21:46:04 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has your friend been diagnosed with depression? There are things you can look for that may bolster your concerns. Look for suicidal ideation (if he talks about it or mentions it or if you've seen things to indicate he's contemplating it) In my field (substance abuse counselor) we had to consider every threat seriously. If there is evidence of ideation, learn and ask if he has a plan to carry out his ideation, then you would ofcourse find or assess if there is means for him to carry it out. At work when we saw this ofcourse we could call 911. Maybe talk to your friend? Also you can call 1800-273-TALK which is the national Suicide Prevention Hotline.
2006-10-28 21:16:08 · answer #4 · answered by spababy606 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, sound like he may be slipping into depression. If he seems to be withdrawing more this might be happening. I myself fell into a bit of a hole in my mid twenties that I'm still trying to dig myself out of. I was saying similar stuff, generally becoming bitter with life and withdrawing from activities. If you think your friend might be getting depressed then talk to him. If he is irritable don't be surprised, that is part of being depressed unfortunately. Often it can be difficult for the depressed person to notice that he is getting worse. It's a bit of a downward spiral.
2006-10-28 21:00:21 · answer #5 · answered by NordicGuru 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like me. I have a feeling my life won't be long. Death may be near. Who knows.
Many people will try to take care of business and share their wishes if something were to happen to them because they sense their life will not be much longer on earth. Maybe he's feeling this way. Spend some time with him and talk more. Ask questions about his feelings that he comments on. Maybe he's on medication or illegal drugs. Either way, sounds like he needs a friend to talk with.
Sounds like your that friend he needs.
2006-10-28 21:04:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes got the great makings of being an activist
alot of what he is saying is true,,if bush dont kill us something else will...my sons are in there 20"s and mention to me how many people we know who have cancer..i swear our goverment used us as guenie pigs
2006-10-28 21:02:43 · answer #7 · answered by native,pride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋