Well, I had broke up with this married man, and now he wouldnt stop calling me. He said to me that he doesnt wanna be with his wife. Bullshit I told him that I felt sorry messin around with him but he has a wife and two kids. I told him that If I dont do anything about it right now its goin to get worse. And Im very happy that, I made the right choice by breakin it up. I knew he was married but all that time he had been lying to me. After reading everybodys answer to my question last nite..I had thought about it. Then finally it came to my head....its about damn time. So I did what I had to do, but he's sorry *** said that he needs me and he wants to be with me, I said Hellllllllllllllllllllllll Nahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!and now he jsut couldnt stop calling me. The next thing I knew the wife started calling me, bitchin at me because I guess she had seen mah number on her husbands phone, I tried to tell her it wasnt my fault but ****...she was calling me all kinds of names what should I do?
2006-10-28 13:51:49 · 17 answers · asked by simplegurl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To a degree you should've expected that this day would come. You were his extra piece and now he's upset that he doesn't his pie on the side. And the part about the wife, I think you should really break down and tell her the whole thing. Explain to her that you WERE aware that they were still together and that are kids... tell her that HE said that they were in a bad marriage and he was LEAVING HER. This might be news to her but its better that she know and make sure she knows you are no longer in the picture... please make sure you stay out, no need to make things any messier. And tell that guy to stop trying to talk to you and start talking to his wife that he abandoned.
2006-10-28 13:58:40 · answer #1 · answered by IceyFlame 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry but you shouldn't have gotten mixed up with a married man in the first place. If you was married, would you like for your husband to be cheating on you? Don't blame his wife at all. You deserve to hear what she has to say because you are messing with her husband. It is your fault totally. You had a choice and you picked to mess with this married man. You said you tried to tell his wife that it wasn't your fault? Grow up and quit being so stupid. This is your fault just as much as this guys fault. He isn't going to leave his wife. If he was going to, he would have already. He is only making a fool out of you and you keep falling for it. Don't answer the phone when he calls. If he keeps calling you and you REALLY DON'T WANT HIM TO CALL, change your phone number and get it unlisted. You are very wrong to mess with anyone married. It is not right period and you know that deep inside you.
2006-10-28 14:00:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was in this EXACT same situation, except "wifey" was coming to my house, NOT calling, finally, one day I invited her in, sat her down, and told her that when I met her "Husband" he LIED to me and said he was NOT married, He spent EVERY holiday with me and my family for the eight years we were together, (this is NOT something a married man would do right?) He often slept at my house, ALL night, didn't leave till morning or sometimes, the next night...(again, something a married man would do? We went on "family vacations" every year, with my son. He attended ALL of my son's (not his biological child) sporting events, and school plays.( again...Is THIS something a married man does?) We had a GREAT relationship, EXCEPT he forgot to tell me he was married.....We were even engaged on Christmas, In fronyt of my WHOLE family! needless to say, when I found out he was "married" to someone else, as much as I loved him, I ended it! I felt that our whole relationship was a lie! Then he started calling ALL the time, even calling my family, driving past my house all the time...as much as I hurt inside, I knew I had to leave him forever....If he did this to her, what would stop him from doing it to me? well it has been a couple years now, and we actually do talk periodically , He was a BIG part in my son's life for a long time, He said he is going to get divorced and wants to be with me, I told him he can do whatever he wants to do, As far as "us" it will NEVER happen..I can't be with a liar...Do I think he really loved me? Of course, you can't be with someone for eight years as we were and NOT be in Love, in fact I still love him BUT I am NOT in love with him anymore, and you WILL move on, You just have to be VERY selective on WHO you date, ASK QUESTIONS, BE NOSEY, It does help if you explain to your "new man" (and you will find a new man!) what you went through. Even though you were with a married man, it doesn't make you a bad person as people will make you feel. Because in actuality, YOU were a "victim" so to you I say, for now, DO NOT take his or "wifey's" calls IF she continues to harass you, let her know, YOU are NOT the bad guy here, SHE needs to check HER man! Good Luck!
2006-10-28 14:11:29 · answer #3 · answered by conniechung 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well to be honest with you it is your fault justas much as his since you knew thathe was married. I mean if you know that this man is going home to his wife every night then you should have known that he was just telling you that he didnt want to be with his wife was a lie. I think that you should tell his wife that your so sorry think about how mad if the shoe was on the other foot of courseshe has the right to be mad
2006-10-28 13:56:31 · answer #4 · answered by Shanana 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all, don't answer the phone if you have caller ID. If you don't have caller ID, just hang up when they call.
Log the day and time of each call. Keep good records. Tell them that you are going to go to court on Monday to get a restraining order to prevent them from contacting you. They won't want that because it is something that is public record and could be printed in the paper.
2006-10-28 13:59:00 · answer #5 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You could either change your phone number or report them to the police for harassment. Or at least get call display so you can ignore their calls.
You've made the right choice and now you (and they) should let go of the past and move on.
2006-10-28 13:56:59 · answer #6 · answered by Peggy M 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No amount of paint would take away the stain. What his wife is doing, is justified.You had no right to do what you did. Get a move on before you get involved with someone else's husband.
2006-10-28 14:00:20 · answer #7 · answered by stewart j 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you're prepared, go ahead and tell her what her husband was up to. If she doesn't know already she SHOULD know, and whatever other way she finds out, she'll get a slightly different story. I think she should have yours too, to consider. Whether she wants to believe it or not is her choice, and how she responds is up to her. If you tell her YOUR side of the story that does give her more options.
2006-10-28 13:57:29 · answer #8 · answered by jen 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow, you must have really put it on him! Obviously you should change your number. If not, then have a male friend come over and answer the phone the next time he calls.
2006-10-28 13:55:27 · answer #9 · answered by DJ 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Get an unlisted number and put him on notice that is he does not stop harassing you; you will seek a restraining order or put in a complaint of stalking
2006-10-28 13:54:38 · answer #10 · answered by Calina 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋