Once you make a commitment don't things just get boring? Like a married couple or something?
2006-10-28 13:43:02 · 16 answers · asked by bebackhome_safe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's not 'logical' to think of love as an objective pursuit.
2006-10-28 13:45:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't logical to want to fall in love but not commit. Love is what you make of it. Not to sound like a jerk or anything, but if it gets boring, it is because you are boring. You have to keep it fun and alive. It is totally possible to have the same man for the rest of your life and be totally inlove. Of course it is going to be difficult, but it depends on how much you are committed to the person and how much you really "love" the person. Hope I helped a little.
2006-10-28 20:46:41 · answer #2 · answered by Cheryl M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all falling in love and committing to someone is two different things.marriage is not a commitment. it is two people bonding together to form a union with plans to live the rest of there lives together. anything not just marriage can be boring if you just want to do nothing to keep it from becoming boring. There's no such thing as wanting to fall in love. falling in love comes natural when you have a strong affectionate feeling for someone.
2006-10-28 20:59:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that then you are not in love. If you are really in love that right there is the committment. no committment, its not real love. Marriage is what you make of it if a couple stops paying attention to each other and lets things get stale then the marriage will be boring. If you keep your love alive and do not let the day to day steal all the wonder and magic of your love than marriage will be a long honeymoon. it is all what you make it out to be much like anything else.
By your questions, you are not ready, far from it. and you are not in love.
2006-10-28 20:48:51 · answer #4 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't call it love if you're going to treat it casually. Commitment doesn't mean boring...that is, unless you make it boring. And marriage is hardly boring, unless, again, you make it boring. I've been in a fun and wonderful marriage for over 6 years. Yes, it's hard work, but the benefits are awesome. If you want something casual and lighthearted, go for it. But don't call it love. Love isn't something to be cheapened.
2006-10-28 20:46:11 · answer #5 · answered by Mary K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you fall in love the commitment part is a natural progression. You are willing to commit because you know that this is the one person for you in the entire world.
2006-10-28 20:45:27 · answer #6 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're still just immature in relationships. Which is fine. A lot of people are. Later on in life you may want the whole commitment thing, but right now you're just looking for someone to complete you.
However! I hope you've let whoever you're with know that. Because being in love with someone and not letting them be happy WITH you hurts. A lot. Although I wouldn't know.
2006-10-28 20:44:53 · answer #7 · answered by Patty_08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is logical. That means you just dont love them enough to commit yet. I bet you will want to commit, by the time you TRULY love a person..
2006-10-28 20:46:34 · answer #8 · answered by qi-li-xiang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't agree with you... I think with commitment, comes security... then you can expand into more things with each other...
i know, i couldn't be in love without some form of commitment... even if it's just the commitment that we wont be seeing other people...
2006-10-28 20:45:25 · answer #9 · answered by Junior1544 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no - once you commit the game is just beginning - it's called REAL LIFE and it's a great ride.
as a matter of fact, once you get over yourselves - ie "O I'm so in love!" - and come down to earth, it'll be the best time of your life as long as you work at it.... it's called COMMITMENT
2006-10-28 20:46:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really need an answer to this questions, you're simply not in love, but infatuated... Love can be hard to sustain, but it is never boring.
2006-10-28 20:51:05 · answer #11 · answered by CJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋