This is a friend of mine. She likes many boys but they ALL find her to be an unattractive, dark skinned girl, skinny,short hair and always were weave,medium height, wears makeup and is in the 8th grade kinda of girl. Many people have talked about her and i hate seeing her get hurt. They say she looks like a man too. She has never had a boyfriend in her 13 years of life. What should she do? She waits patiently on the phone for you'lls responses.
2006-10-28 13:36:16 · 16 answers · asked by Jumper 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Eventually... but considering that she's only 13, it'll take time, which will seem like an eternity when you're that young. Just gotta hang in there.
2006-10-28 13:39:03 · answer #1 · answered by IceTrojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a Mr. right for everyone out there. First of all, it sounds like she doesn't have a lot of confidence in herself.She should try to make herself feel beautiful. Maybe a new hairdo, different make-up, or whatever. She is only 13. She still has a long time to worry about a boyfriend. I just hope she doesn't try to become someone that she isn't. And another piece of advice I would give her would be to always respect herself.Too many young girls out there use sex as a way to get a guys attention.I hope she is smarter than that. Tell her to just be herself. Everything will eventually fall into place for her.
2006-10-28 13:44:38 · answer #2 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety i am sure she will find any guy soon who doesn't matter if she is........
Tell ur friend not to worry because i had a friend once at school whom people describe her the same and she had a crush on this guy who I'd say was the cutest boy at school but i did not like him but my friend did n the girls at school always mocked her saying she will never get the guy n in the end guess who got him....
So not evey body thinks the way other people think so ur friend doesn't has to worry the time will come when she will get the best guy.
Looks,body size,height,short hair etc. doesn't matter so there is no need for ur friend not to have confidence in herself(if she doesn't),so I'm advicing her to ''HAVE CONFIDENCE''plz n everything will work out for her!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-28 13:54:11 · answer #3 · answered by CUTEY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People in the eighth grade are shallow and cruel, especially guys, because they are so insecure. Don't stress about not having a boyfriend at 13. Those relationships are usually immature and don't last long - you're not missing much. I didn't have my first real boyfriend until I was 16. Don't try to change yourself. I know it sounds cliche, but just be who you are and you'll find some guy who likes you and respects you for that. The best guys get sick of all of the girls who look and act like they're clones of each other, and are looking for a girl who is true to herself and different. Hold out for someone who is really worth your while - don't concern yourself with those losers who call you names.
2006-10-28 13:43:39 · answer #4 · answered by Ella Minnow Pea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure they ALL find her unattractive or is it more of her thinking? She needs to think more of herself before anyone will be attracted to her. She's only 13 and that's really not horrible that so far she hasn't had to have a heart ache from losing a boyfriend etc. Once she feels more secure and knows that she is what she is and people have to except her that way. Sometimes we need to just be satisfied with what God gave us. Is there a change that she could do with her make up, clothes, hair, etc. something that is a positive change?
2006-10-28 13:43:30 · answer #5 · answered by ddy'sgrl77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is only 13. There is no need to have a boyfriend by the age of 13 whatsoever. Furthermore, peoples looks change a lot as they get older and what they are looking for changes as well. There is nothing to worry about.
2006-10-28 13:39:27 · answer #6 · answered by Linnea L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your friend shouldn't worry so much about other people. And tell her she has all the time in the world to find someone. Who knows? Maybe in just a few years she'll really grow into herself, and be better than how she is now.
For the meantime, I suggest she try different things, that make HER happy. Maybe she could not wear so much make-up, and focus on making friends more than making boyfriends.
2006-10-28 13:39:18 · answer #7 · answered by Patty_08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
13 what do you need with a boy friend. and dont worry you will grow out of those geeky looks and one day at a class reunion wow look at you now.be patients keep you mind on your books, 13 is to young to start throwing your life away on boys
2006-10-28 13:56:53 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well tell her that she needs to flits more and act like a prep us ally guys go for preps and hang out with a big group of friends then the guys will come over to see whats happening and they will see its just a crowd. then when you say hi to the guy or guys they will stay and talk then they will get used to u and then they might start liking her. and about the guy thing grow out her hair and don't dress like one.
2006-10-28 13:42:22 · answer #9 · answered by brown eyed girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she will find someone...maby not so quickly...but as long as she is a nice person on the inside, she will eventualy find the right guy. personaly, i dont care about outside appereance as much as personality. id much rather date an ugly girl with a good personality than a hott girl whos stupid
2006-10-28 13:40:34 · answer #10 · answered by Matt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋