He gets lpeasure from masterbation and comes but when we have sex he doesnt come and doesnt stay hard long so then he masterbates to come iv had sex with one other guy iv never used toys whats wrong with me ? why cant i please him i dont feel like a woman anymore and i feel so grutest
2006-10-28 13:33:28 · 14 answers · asked by felix 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Believe me, if you look anything like your picture, the trouble is not with you. It sounds like your b/f is experiencing Erectile Dysfunction and Anorgasmia.
His not staying hard is a symptom of E.D. and his not being able to come to orgasm with intercourse, but that he can by masturbating is a symptom of Anorgasmia. Part of the symptom of anorgasmia is decreased sensitivity of the penis.
Both of these symptoms ( E.D. and anorgasmia) are common side effects of antidepressants. There are 2 medications often prescribed for sleep problems; amitriptyline and trazodone, that are actually older antidepressants and can have these side effects also.
If your b/f is taking an antidepressant, there are 2 that have low incidences of sexual side efects; Serzone and Welbutrin. Maybe he could be swiched to one of those.
If he is taking either of the 2 meds. for sleep, there are other ones, such as Ambien, that are not addicting and don't have those side effects.
In any case, even if he is not taking any medications or illegal drugs(those can be a problem also), he needs to see his doctor.
His doctor can check for all possible reasons for those symptoms. If his medications are causing these symptoms and they can not be changed to other meds; Viagra will take care of the Erectile Dysfunction and help somewhat with the anorgasmia.
The inside diameter of your vagina can not be causing your b/f's problems. There are muscles there that can cause it to grip a pencil. Sometimes women, much older than you, have to do exercises called Keegal exercises to exercise those muscles.
These are done, at first, when you have to pee and are sitting on a toilet. You start peeing and then stop, several times before your bladder is empty. After awhile, when you can find these muscles and tighten them at will, you can just tighten those muscles any time you want to and do that as many times a day as you find helpful.
The reason my first thought went to side effects of antidepressants, is that those 2 side effects are so common with them.
Feel free to share anything I've said with your b/f and he can take what I've written with him to his doctor if he wants to.
Thanks for answering questions from guys. I personally am grateful for any help women can give us.
2006-10-28 14:29:28 · answer #1 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have 'stage fright' or performance anxiety. It's easy to be turned on in front of a tv or by yourself because there is no risk of not being good enough or being rejected. Don't feel bad about yourself, he just has a problem having sex with anyone except himself. By the way, sex should not be the cornerstone or focus of your relationship. If intimacy with your guy is that big of an issue, perhaps you are having problems connecting with him on more than just a sexual level. You are still a beautiful young woman who is worthy of the full attention and affection of the right guy. Maybe he's not your Mr.Right. If he was, sex would be a special, beautiful and spiritual experience. Keep your head up, be encouraged, and ALWAYS follow your heart.
2006-10-28 13:50:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
guys who masterbate a lot and they don have gf for longer periods get used to it. as with hand it could actually be more pleasure(wild) whereas with a girl its just a limited toughness and roughness.
read Kamasutra, there are some positions which actually are just great and give more pleasure than hand. i don remember them by name but try the ones which tense your muscles down there etc etc etc.
also try some creative stuffs available in sex shops which increases the feeling of pleasure.
2006-10-28 14:21:58 · answer #3 · answered by i don know y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good, its tough to opt for, ur peers has that slutty cuteness, its now not a foul factor, however i feel i would opt for u, u appear extra truly. U appear extra all the way down to earth, might be im fallacious, however the pix dont exhibit a lot or u. ur pal turns out like a partier. im jogging on little data. in phrases of sexiness, identification say ur pal is sexier, BUT! thats now not continually what takes the cake, ur lovely, might be ur persona is bigger, thats probly what he loves approximately u so much of all. if he cant make a decision, then turn out ur valued at to him, if he nonetheless cant make uo his brain then why trouble, as soon as u dont appear like ur gonna waste time on him, he might flip and notice ur now not there and observe, oh, i made the fallacious option, or i acted to overdue.
2016-09-01 04:06:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its not u but if u like this guy then u need 2 c if he is the right guy
then u should then try some stuff just kind of go backwards
go right in2 sex no for play
or try having sex in public he will really b excited
2006-10-28 13:40:11 · answer #5 · answered by dan_ny221 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
im really sad for you..
but anywayz.. if u cant get him to *** then u r not giving him what u want.. and if a guy doesnt get what he wants from his gurl espically in sex he will just go.. so u gotta figure out what he likes.. try new things.. try having more than just sex.. try turning him a LOT first.. sont just go for having his **** inside u!
i hope it works for u.. and if it doesnt i think u should leave him.. for ur and his sake..
2006-10-28 13:44:00 · answer #6 · answered by heba! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You'll learn not to take the problems of others on to yourself...this is one of those times. Don't get too hung up about what his habits are. Instead, learn from them.
2006-10-28 13:51:33 · answer #7 · answered by westgaliberty 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ask him whats wrong with you that he cant stay hard or he cant come? im not sure how to answer this i asked my husband before i answered this and he said that maybe he thinks your loose? but we dont know that only he does
2006-10-28 13:38:17 · answer #8 · answered by ashley 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he is really used to mastubating, that he can only ejaculate from doing it himself. Its not your fault, so dont panic.
2006-10-28 13:38:52 · answer #9 · answered by ernie_casarez 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with you -- he's having problems with his own sexual response.
Maybe you two are just not sexually compatible -- stop beating yourself up.
2006-10-28 13:39:08 · answer #10 · answered by Peggy M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋