so i just broke up with my bf..actually,...he broke up with me..but whatever...anyway..we were together for 4 years...all through high school...i lost my virginity to him...and yea...i really love him..we have been through a lot together...he broke up with me cause he said that "love is a figment of your imagination"...anyone else believe this?...and please give me advice on what i should do
2006-10-28 13:31:34 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just forget about him, and move on with your life.
2006-10-28 13:33:41 · answer #1 · answered by superboredom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all...I'm so sorry. Losing someone after a long time is tough. Maybe he just wasn't ready to take what he believe was the next step in your relationship. Maybe you were at different points in your life. I don't think that it was from not loving you, as would be apparent from the 4 years you spent together.
There's nothing you can really do except give it a little time. Try to keep a good friendship with him, even if he's not "in love". There's no reason not to be after all the beautiful times together. And hey...you're single! And there's tons and tons of guys out there!!!
2006-10-28 20:38:05 · answer #2 · answered by <3 <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, I know you must feel really disappointed and hurt.
"Love is a figment of your imagination"??? In his mind maybe. It's just an excuse he's using. Consider yourself fortunate that you found out what a jerk he is now.
Take some time for yourself and pamper yourself a bit. Go out with your friends, keep busy. Don't sit around and think about him, he's not worth it. You deserve better.
I think part of the reason you feel so bad is because you gave him your virginity. That's a huge thing and I think it means much more to us women than it does to a man. (Not that I'd call him a man)
Time really does make things easier to bear and you will find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. There are lots of nice guys around, you just need to give them a chance.
Best of luck to you.
2006-10-28 20:42:12 · answer #3 · answered by Mugsy's Place 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound confused. What is the real reason you and your boyfriend broke up with each other? Perhaps love is a figment of his imagination and maybe he believes this. What should you do? Well, what do you want to do? I think the best thing to do for now is not contact him and find out who you are and what you really want...if you take the time to do this you will soon discover what is best for you. Listen to your intuition.
2006-10-28 20:46:37 · answer #4 · answered by tlcgirl2go 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he is using this as an excuse and it's not the real reason. i have no idea what he even means by this. i'm guessing that he was trying to find a nice way of telling you that he doesn't love you anymore. i know that you have been together for a long time and been through a lot together, but sometimes two people just aren't meant to be together.
2006-10-28 20:34:14 · answer #5 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well..........he is simply done with you. get somebody better than him.
trust me - the more you would try the more he would drift apart. now, you have two options :-
1.) either give him sometime to realize that you are actually a great person. keep some distance from him. may be call him once and then give it a break and then contact again . in other words - make him feel good and then give him time to feel that you are actually worth it.
2.)or simply break up and find somebody else
second one is easy . choice is totally yours.
but yes dont go so far that you regret afterwards
2006-10-28 20:42:38 · answer #6 · answered by i don know y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bs you can't be with someone for 4 years and not love them. he's not telling you the real reason he broke up with you. and if he can't be straight with you after 4 years, then you can't trust him. the best thing for you to do would be to make a clean break. get him completely out of your life and try not to think about him. maybe he'll miss you too much and try to get you back. but you can't hope for that because you'll only be more depressed if it doesn't happen. just let it go
2006-10-28 20:55:09 · answer #7 · answered by Silver Spoon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, people sometimes just lose interest, and there's nothing that can be done about it.
My advice is to just try to keep yourself distracted from him, and avoid telling yourself that it could still work out.
After 4 years, it's going to take you a long time to get over him... but remember that your time in this world is limited enough already. Dont waste any of it one someone who wont help you.
Trust me, I wasted a whole year wishing that my ex and I would get back together... and all it got me a year of pain.
2006-10-28 20:37:41 · answer #8 · answered by brian-upstairs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
love is not fake. it is real. he probably just fell out of love. and that happened to me and my boyfriend. well, i didnt love him anymore. we had been dating for 8 months. i'm a sophomore in high school and he's a freshman in college.
i'm sorry to heard about you and your boyfriend. all through high school! wow. just spend a night with funny movies and ben and jerry.
2006-10-28 20:35:51 · answer #9 · answered by Krissi 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that seems like a silly thing to loose such a strong relationship over...talk to him
2006-10-28 20:33:56 · answer #10 · answered by Matt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋