2006-10-28 13:25:20 · 15 answers · asked by N 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Just talk to him, don't ask him why he doesn't talk.
2006-10-28 13:27:16 · answer #1 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't confront him. Maybe he just thinks the class is talking about mindless drivel and would rather save his energy for a more intelligent conversation!
If you do want to reach out, start by just sitting down beside him and saying hello. Do that for two or three classes. Then, ask him if he did the homework or if he's picked a topic for his essay. Something else that's small and be answered with a really short answer. If he wants to converse, he will. After you've made a little small talk for about a month, get a bunch of people together for coffee after class and ask if he wants to come.
Be casual about it and don't put pressure on him. It could honestly just be that he doesn't like the rest of the people in the class! He might be much more outspoken in different classes.
2006-10-28 14:05:43 · answer #2 · answered by Jetgirly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he seems lonely or shy, you can try drawing him into a conversation or inviting him to work on a class project along with your friends. However, you should be kind about it and not 'confront' him. Asking him right out why he doesn't talk to anyone might be embarassing for him, especially if you don't know him.
On the other hand, he might not be shy at all. He may just be genuinely uninterested in talking to anyone in the class or have friends he prefers to talk to elsewhere. While I think it's fine to make an effort to talk to him, don't push it... and most of all, don't be rude or condescending. He doesn't have to talk to anyone if he doesn't feel like it.
2006-10-28 14:05:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Confronting" him might only make him more withdrawn. However beginning with little attempts at communication on very neutral topics (like a school assignment or project, a school sports event or similar) will undoubtedly lead to longer conversations. Be happy wiht one word responses at first and gradually work him up from there. Who knows, maybe he is your future life partner so you don;t want to scare him off by being too forceful at first.
2006-10-28 13:39:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! You should leave the poor boy alone. If you want to talk to him that's awesome he could be lonely but don't go up to him and be like, "Hey, loser, why don't you talk to anyone?!" Maybe he's gotten that before and that's what's driven him to silence.
It would be nice for you to sit by him and try to get to know him. Try to find out what he likes and talk to him about that. If you don't want to do that...just leave him be.
2006-10-28 15:58:43 · answer #5 · answered by X M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well..confronted him sound like if you going to attacked him.
Just be yourself and say hi..that unusual break the ice with people that probably will let him that people are trying to know him.
2006-10-28 16:20:39 · answer #6 · answered by wonderinggirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront sounds negative. why should it bother you that he doesn't talk? are you the teacher? if your concern is for real, you can open up a conversation by NOT asking why he doesn't wanna talk.
2006-10-28 17:10:48 · answer #7 · answered by budi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!! Why would you do that?? I don't talk to people in my classes because I CHOOSE not to. It's a lot easier for me to concentrate in my class if there is nobody for me to talk to.
2006-10-28 18:19:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they are shy or can't talk plain or some other & it bothers them that they may be made fun of. you could catch them alone sometime & let them know you would like to get to know them.
2006-10-28 13:29:06 · answer #9 · answered by Tired Old Man 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead but ask him nicely and offer comfort.
2006-10-28 13:28:36 · answer #10 · answered by HOLA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋