k, so im in 8th grade and all throughout summer break i went out w/ this guy. we split the day b4 school started and now we hate e/o. so he was tellin his best friend john whoi is also now my friend tht i giva a lot of a** and the furethest tht i went w/ him is BJ/fingering---he also almost hit a homerun. so i was like 2 john, do u belive him and he said no, but hes tellin lots'o'peeps wht i did w/ him. hes a stoner and im a half goth and get good grades, do u think ill lose my rep?
2006-10-28 13:00:11 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
at first glance you might think of me as a goody good so pleez tell me
2006-10-28 13:29:10 · update #1
I think your rep will increase among the stoners and fall among the half goth crowd. It will probably stay the same among the nerds though
2006-10-28 13:04:18 · answer #1 · answered by R & B 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well, unfortunately you picked the wrong person to get involved with over the summer. The only thing you can learn from this is sometimes you have to pick your spots when you end any kind of relationship even though there is no guarantee that an outcome would be different. But I wouldn't be concerned about what people think: people are not stupid - if this guy is running his month about what happened over the summer, he probably will do it to someone else and eventually the truth will come out that he is lying or exaggerating the truth. People usually are distrustful of blabber mouths. It will pass in time.
2006-10-28 20:05:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Reputations at your age bounce back and forth but if you're not careful, it will stick with you throughout your school years. The best way to avoid getting a bad rep is by telling people that he's just trying to act like he's cool. Be grown up about it. People will respect that and they will understand that most guys will stretch stories to make themselves look good. But at the same time, the only way to protect your rep in the future is by not going that far. One guy you may be able to get away with, but if it happens again, the next guy will likely do the same. I know you don't want to hear that you're young, but you are and the guys your age, or even a little older are still very immature. Guys all want to act like playboys. Don't give them the opportunity to do that.
2006-10-28 20:10:43 · answer #3 · answered by cardesiner 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This reflects worse on him than on you. Other girls will hear about it and know that he would talk about them the same way he's talking about you. Show everyone that you have class and act mature. That doesn't mean that he gets to laugh in your face. If you handle this correctly, your friends will stick up for you and tell him to knock it off. Other guys will be impressed that you can keep a private relationship private, and they'll be more attracted to you. This is just one of the effects of having a relationship. Years from now, you'll see that it was an opportunity to make you the kind of person other people will look up to. Keep your chin up, but don't look down your nose.
2006-10-28 20:09:59 · answer #4 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to talk some sense into this ex of urs. if he had any pride he wouldn't go and spread these things around to everyone. If you don't act quickly you might lose ur rep alot or a little depending on how many people believe what he says or not. Just make sure you get the people on your side.
2006-10-28 20:04:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I hope this finds you in the best of health and spirits, I think you need not worry about your rep, Its your health and future you should be concerned about, the guy was just being a little guy wanting to impress friends, soon this will pass but you must remember the lesson only share yourself with one who truly love you and respect you, and your future husband(smile). In being half Goth choosing to express yourself is fundamental to your cultural choice, be you, stop worrying about others trust me we all have issues. Peace hold it down.
2006-10-28 20:14:34 · answer #6 · answered by Marvin J 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't even sweat it. A guy told a rumor about me in school that wasn't even true. Guys do that kind of stuff. If you did it, he'll tell everyone. If you didn't do it, he'll make it up anyway. I know it won't feel good to live with it now, but it will eventually blow over. Just focus on your studies. That's what will really matter 10 years from now.
2006-10-28 20:06:14 · answer #7 · answered by Butterfly Princess 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go back to school and have it out with this boy! Tell him that you wont stand for his cr*p anymore. I don't like people spreading rumors and destroying other peoples lives. Yoy need to stamp out his bad stuff about you or you will most of your friends at school. If he dont stop, either go start some rumor that he is just a Di*khead and nothing really happened between you two or go tell that he has a small weiner, that should get him to stop stuff about you. if all else fails go tell a teach or a counsellor.
2006-10-28 20:06:40 · answer #8 · answered by Druid2020 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Girl, you already lost it. . . you should have expected that at age 14. Your actions were irresponsible and now EVERYONE (including your parents) are going to know it. Smooth move.
You need to continue to concentrate on your grades and forget sex AND him. Ignore the bs going around (even if it is true).
2006-10-28 20:03:09 · answer #9 · answered by snddupree 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yeah turn the tables around on him start telling the peeps why you broke with him tell them he was the wack one ///act like you dont care act mature even lie about his size if you have to
2006-10-28 20:08:42 · answer #10 · answered by melanni 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋