I'm supposed to be moving over to the states to be with him. because of getting stuff ready to come it has been delayed. like i need $15,000 for college before i come.
He blames me for not being there. that we had planned to be together. i talked to him tonight and said i didn't wanna relationship where we keep making each other feel bad and he's like 'oh. so it's ok for you to make me feel bad but not the other way round' in truth, i really just want to be able to comfort him but he gets all pissy. and for days too. he says that he cant give me what i want when i ask him to be a bit more tender. he withdraws affection, like instead of 'bye babe. i love you.' it's 'talk to you later' and 'i dont know if i'm gonna be around for a bit' if i say i'm hurting, he says 'now you know how it feels'. he thinks if i try to explain how i feel that i am blaming him, but i just want him to be happy. or at least me to be!
2006-10-28 12:44:52 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is pushy and domineering. he will always be that way, if you take the chance and be with him and try to stay in college it wont work for you. he cant show you affection and that is the one thing that makes a good relationship. ...no affection . then their isn't real love on his part. do what ever you feel in your heart , good luck
2006-10-28 12:55:51 · answer #1 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but this doesn't sound like a healthy relationship.
He is being passive aggressive and controlling. I don't know how old you are but I'm guessing you're 20 or under. Listen - do not get into any relationship where the other person uses emotional blackmail or withholds affection to get a responce out of you. That is not loving behavior - do not get to the stage where this treatment feels normal. It isn't.
Believe me - if, when he says 'talk to you later' you reply 'ok - catch up with you then' or something equally as nonchalant you will notice a difference in his behavior.
He is using your fear that he might not love you as a way to be one up on you. It's so transparent. People who love you do not want to hurt you - emotionally or otherwise.
2006-10-28 13:00:48 · answer #2 · answered by ShoCh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are he will continue to be that same person who is not filling your needs. Let the relationship go and find someone who can be more caring the way you need them to be.
2006-10-28 12:52:01 · answer #3 · answered by barbie2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a spoiled prat. Good thing you're not living with him. Get rid of him, he's just another big girls blouse.
2006-10-28 12:50:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wont tell u hes wrong 4 u, but he seems a bit selfish, u deserve better
2006-10-28 12:48:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt things will improve...here or there.
2006-10-28 12:48:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋