I want to propose to my girlfriend but not sure what is considered to be "romantic"?

Question

i would like to hear your best ideas on how your partner has proposed to you or any good ideas you may have. The more romantic the better.

Answer 1

I kinda did it twice. Once family oriented and then later a different way (For an anniversary). Both were great.

. Original Engagement
- I had my girlfriend beliving that we wouldn't be able to get engaged for about six months. Then, I brought her home for Chistmas with my family. I had bought the engagement ring and when we talked about Christmas, I kept probing her on stuff she wanted to find something that would be "big" or take a big box. Then, I got a decent sized TV box and put weights in it. Then I put another box inside that was about half the size and covered it all with newspapers, then I put a shoebox inside that that a had really nice pair of slippers in it. Covered that with newspapers (the newspapers made it hard to figure out cause they kinda rustled when the box was moved). Inside one of the slippers, I put the ring box.

On Christmas morning, the box was so big, everyone waited until the end (The family didn't know either ;-) ). When we finally got to it, she thought is might be a TV or something. She opened the first box and was suprised and looked at me funny. She got the second box done and everyone was laughing and having fun trying to help her got to it etc. Then she saw the shoe box and opened it and saw the slippers. It wasn't until she tried to put them on, that she realized something was in there. She reached in and got the box but thought they were earings or something. When she saw the ring she flipped out. I have this great set of pictures of her. We still have em. She also still has the ring (23 years later) ;-) AND, she still has the slippers!

A few years later, I 'upgraded' her engagement ring (the first one was given while we were in College). We were apart at the time cause I was traveling a lot. I arranged for us to meet up in a town mid-way between us for a weekend. The Hotel had a very high end restaurant that was really nice. If you went to a town without it, you just need to find a really nice fine dining place). I contacted the restaurant directly about a week before we got there and explained that I wanted to give her a special ring while we were there. I also pre-ordered the menu from starter to desert for both of us. (You don't have to be a genious to do this, but be safe. This is not the time to try snails if you never have ;-) ). I asked that they insure that we are greeted when we arrive, something like, "Oh.. Mr Smith and Ms.. Johnson. It's so nice to see you tonite. We've been expecting you". It helps to tell him/her what you will be wearing. I also told them I would be bringing a ring in a ring case and I wanted it to be served with desert under a serving tray (You get the normal one, she gets the ring (after she gets it, she gets her desert too). Ask to have the waiter set it in front of you both and then, (this is not the norm) remove yours first so she can see the desert and then have him remove hers... which will be the ring box. If there is music there (We had a pianist), choose some balad that she likes and ask that the waiter ensure it's played as he comes to serve desert. For setting up the menu and the special recognition, expect to give the Maitre'd $40 - 50 bucks. As for the waiter, he/she will do it right and you want the Maitre'd to select the right server who can pull it off. For the great act, figure at least a 20% if not 25% tip. If there is music, give the waiter a $20 to pass on to the musician (and give it to him after she has opened the ring and before you get the check so the musician gets the gratuity within a reasonable amount of time of the music being played and so that your now Fiance will get just how much detail and time you put into it (If she sees you give the Waiter a $20 and you ask him to give it to the musician, she'll then figure out you even thought of the Music... that's worth a least a year of bliss!).

Once you get there and get to the table, excuse yourself to the bathroom for a moment and go out to the Maitre' d. Pay him/her and give up the ring box. You've got that covered now and they'll ensure nothing goes wrong (cause you just gave them a decent tip). Enjoy the dinner and if you are of age, ensure you have a nice bottle of wine... (Not: Don't pre-order the wine. Instead, ask the waiter for the Someliel (Probably spelled wrong and prounounced: "Som Lee A". If that's to daunting simply ask for the "Wine Steward" (Same thing but the french name is cool). Ask the Waiter to let the someliel know the menu for you and to come to the table witha "few choices". Listen to them and then choose something you think you'll like. (NOTE: It is always acceptable to tell the Maitre d or the Waiter what your price range is for wine. In fact, you might mention it to the Maitre' d when you tip him and ask him to pass it on to the waiter). If you're not into wine, don't worry about.. it's only an added touch.

So, to sumarize:

. Call the Restaurant, a week or two before and set up the evening and the menu.
. Check in with the Maitre' d that will be on duty the night you go about 2 days before you arrive. Tell them what you will be wearing, remind them that you want to be greeted, and remind them of the menu you've chosen (The do get busy, so a little management of the evening will help you a lot). BTW, get the name of the waiter at this point too. It wouid be really a nice touch to call the waiter by name when he greeted you.
. Remember music if they have someone playing.
. Arrive Promptly
. Excuse yourself shortly after being seated and slip the Tip and the Ring to the Maitre 'd.
. Ask for the wine steward to bring you some selections. Expect the Waiter will play this out well for you
. ENJOY the DINNER... don't obsess about the end. Really enjoy the food, the time with your soon to be fiance etc. Don't get nervous.
. Be ready for Desert both in terms of not tipping it off and waiting for the incredible suprise you're about to give your fiance
. Make sure tip the musician through the waiter if there is music.
. Be generous to your waiter. Again, if they did "ok", it's at least 20%. If the server literally made the night that will be the first night of the rest of your life... don't worry about the expense... reward them.
. Have Fun.

So... hope this is helpful.

Good Luck!

Take Care,

TBG

Answer 2

OK I'm gonna tell you what not to do! I swear this is a true story
My now husband and I were in the grocery store line About 2 weeks before the wedding.We had the rings we had the license what we did not have was the proposal.{I had pointed this out to him while we were in the car on the way to the store} So any way we are waiting in line like I said and all of a sudden he hollers at the top of his lungs "So are you gonna marry me or what!"
Not My idea of a romantic proposal I must say. I was mortified actually but i still married him.What I am trying to say is over the top is not always the best,I would suggest taking her some where important to both of you and then ask her.Say whats in you heart and you can never go wrong. If she loves you even if you make a silly mistake she will say yes any way.I did.

Answer 3

Find out her favorite restaurant reserve a table and get a nice bottle of wine or champagne before dinner pick her up and take her for a nice stroll in a favorite park/beach etc. Tell her to dress up just say its a surprise leave the mystique there in her thoughts
and then go to dinner. If she works and you want to do this at night during the day send her some flowers with an note saying meet me at the beach /park or wherever dress up please etc.
I would not recommend the ring in the dessert etc. I do believe
the bended knee and a heartfelt verse is the best a classic.

Answer 4

I find what ever is personal to me and my husband is the most romantic, not necessarily stereotypical romantic things.
So, a particular place that is special to you (restaraunt, park, etc...) Or something you know she has always wanted to do or have or just something she loves.
Example, if she loves antiques, get her an antique jewelry box and put her ring in it.
Take her to a place that is meaningful to you to propose.
Just rack your brain for things that are meaningful and personal to you guys, and then spin off of that. I guarantee that it doesn't have to be big or expensive to be unforgettable.
The dinner, flowers, ring-in-the-dessert thing takes no creativity and is not personal.
The right thing will come to ya eventually.

Answer 5

Every woman is different. Only you know her enough to know what she'd consider romantic.

As for me... well, mine is a special circumstance. He didn't really propose. More like, we agreed to get married. You have alot of problems with doing things the traditional way when you're doing things long distance.

Answer 6

Totally impolite. No one must ever do this. A marriage ceremony is a time to have fun THE BRIDE AND GROOM. It might so much surely scouse borrow their thunder. I truthfully believe that is a sexy egocentric factor to do to the men and women getting married. All the awareness might shift from the married couple to the simply engaged one. It's additionally inexpensive too due to the fact each person might toast to them and have fun on the bride and groom's price. I believe that presenting it is an major occasion on its possess and must be performed at a further time. Personally if my boyfriend proposed to me at my peers marriage ceremony, i might say no. I might believe him an thoughtless, insensible, classless pig!

Answer 7

OMG if i was to be propose to i would want something beautiful surrounded by flowers. You and your gf comes in diffrent car you send a limo to her house to pick her up.You come in another limo. Then you should have her be in that beautiful place first then you call her to tell her about a tradgety then when she reacts you pop out and propose to her!!!

Answer 8

I don't think it matters so much where you are as what you say to her. Tell her all the reasons you love her and that you can't imagine living your life without her in it. Tell her the different ways you want to make her happy in life. Instead of asking her to be YOUR wife, you could turn it around a little and say how honored you would be if she would have you as HER husband.

Best of luck to you!

Answer 9

well it all depends on the woman. the usual date would be moonlight candle lit sorta dinner lol, but actually, most people can do something romantic without really knowing it, so i wouldnt worry too much, but i dont know much on proposing so sorry, this might not help you much

Answer 10

my husband proposed to me by taking me to a nice candle
lit restaurant and getting down on one knee. it was nice because the already had a special meaning to us. also the other item he took care of was he called and asked my mom if it was to propose. i know he was nervous but that showed that he cared enough about my family to ask.

Answer 11

just don't do it in bed.... my husband did that. he's lucky i love him soo much. lol

i was proposed to in the mall, and tht was weird... so that's out.

then there was at the dinner table in front of all my family on the anniversary of my uncle's death 1 year later.... i felt weird, but in front of everyone i said yes and later that night i told him not to ever do that in front of everyone like that and i gave the ring back... and reminded him that it was not a gret day for my family to begin with.

i would have liked something nicer than things that happened... but i've only seen those things in movies.