his porn addiction. Yesterday morning the radio came on (a Christian station) & the host was interviewing 2 women whose husbands were porn addicts! After the women recounted their stories (both divorced), the show mentioned books and a website to help. This can't be a coincidence. God is trying to tell me something. But what is it? What would you think?
2006-10-28 12:11:05 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Let me clarify..He is unable to have sex. He was not fulfilling HIS obligations but instead getting his fulfillment from the porn.
As I understand it, porn addiction often causes a loss of interest in sex - for whatever reason, I don't know.
2006-10-28 12:47:31 · update #1
God is not telling you anything .
You married a loser ,that`s it.
Nothing spiritual happened ,he lost interest in you and wanted porn.
Did you let yourself go ?
Are you not exciting in bed ,?
Some people let their religion dictate how they make love ( Missionary only) that gets boring real quick.
2006-10-28 12:20:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
I don't think it's a coincidence either. It sounds like God is telling you, above all else, that He knows that you are suffering and has heard your cry. I would definitely check out the website and the books. I hope that they are helpful. Do you have a pastor or a counselor who you can talk to about this? Sharing your story with someone else can help you figure out what you want to do next.
It sounds like even though you're very frustrated with your husband, you still love him very much. Otherwise you would have left him long ago. I therefore think it's worth trying to save your marriage. But I think that he needs to take responsibility for his addiction. When someone has an addiction, they are often unable to give their spouse the love that they need. It will take a lot of work and energy from both of you to overcome the addiction; both of you have to be willing to make the effort to save your marriage. But I believe that if you're both willing, God will give you the strength to get through this. He has already shown you that He's there for you. If you do decide to get divorced, God will still love you and support you. I believe that God realizes that there are not always easy answers and that we sometimes have to make really difficult choices. God knows we're not perfect.
2006-10-28 12:40:33 · answer #2 · answered by jillikins24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check out the book: Love Must Be Tough. It addresses these times when spouses are unfaithful either with an affair or porn etc. It talks of what the other spouse is supposed to do. Hope this helps! ~B
2006-10-28 12:16:05 · answer #3 · answered by Kb F 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that...marriage survived but I will carry scars forever...hope to never go through that hell again.
I pray you know that it has NOTHING at all to do with you. I don't know where you're at but a great read is "An Affair of the Mind" by Laurie Hall.
I believe God is giving you direction for your personal healing.
2006-10-28 12:23:51 · answer #4 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How prevelent this sin is. Satan uses, and perverts sex more than any other weapon, I think...and brings down many a man with it. I think God wanted you to know you're not alone. I'm sorry that this happened, and I pray that God purify the heart of your ex-husband and save him from this addiction.
2006-10-28 12:45:38 · answer #5 · answered by Esther 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like porn however, I don't object to it. I have been married
almost 15 yrs and my hubby looks at porn I don't care because
I am the one he turns to when he is in bed. Sex is a wonderful and
beautiful thing.
Morgaine
2006-10-28 12:21:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason he has not fulfilled his obligation to you is obvious. He has not lost his sex drive. He is masturbating in front of the porn. Once he is fulfilled sexually, he loses all interest in fulfilling you.
2006-10-28 14:35:43 · answer #7 · answered by 19jay63 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that God is always speaking to us if we will listen.. If your argument is that you could not have sex with him because he looked at porn then you should evaluate what your OBLIGATIONS are as being a godly wife... then helped him get counseling.. I think the man is a saint that stayed with a woman for 8years that refuse sex and broke I Cor 7... he is not the only guilty one..
2006-10-28 12:28:30 · answer #8 · answered by fast57chevy283 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are "not" guilty of any sin here-I think you should get a divorce, go through some therapy and get on with your life. Learn from your past. If you "are" guilty-then try to work it out with your husband, and both of you seek help.
2006-10-28 12:15:48 · answer #9 · answered by Desperado 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He must have wanted you to know that you are not alone....and that there is help...and that you can go to the website and get the books and have comfort in this storm...I am sorry that your life has been so difficult....I hope that you find peace if you haven't already.
2006-10-28 12:18:17 · answer #10 · answered by mynickname 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Drug addiction is one of the worst things in life and Hadley the come out of it.
You are a brave lady how come you have been staying with him for 8 years and you know he is drug addict?
If I were in your position and my wife she is drug addict I will try to treat her and she refuse I will not stay with her.
All the best and good luck .
2006-10-28 12:51:06 · answer #11 · answered by zajil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋