The guy that I am with is asking me to consider a threesome... I like to think I am adventurous and up for almost anything, but I am unsure about this... He's not pressuring me, but just asked if I'd consider it. It is his all time fantasy. What are your thoughts on threesomes?
2006-10-28 12:06:58 · 25 answers · asked by Fussy Duckling 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't. That can hurt either or both of you, and perhaps the third party.
2006-10-28 12:08:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
A threesome only really works when its something that both people really like and would be interested in. For a threesome to work, both people want to incorporate someone else into their sexual routine. It is supposed to make them both excited and to give them pleasure from seing their partner with them and enjoying themselves as well. The partner is basically a prop or an item in this situation, but there are tendences for the prop to get too confortable and want to get personal with someone in the group. This can cause problems.
I think you have already made your feelings on this issue QUITE clear. You're not excited by this. What are you getting out of it besides the pleasure of your partner being aroused. As you said, it's all his fantasy time.
You should try to see this from his point of view-he has a fantasy of being with 2 girls at once, like in a porno. The way he probably see's it, is that both girls are concentrating on him-he's in the middle of it. Try asking him about a threesome with another guy and see what his reaction would be. If he's cool with it, then he wants to see you pleasured, if he blows his top, then this whole thing is all about him.
As an end note, I'd just like to tell you that in my experiances, I have VERY seldom seen a relationship work after a threesome. Usually the couple becomes disconnected with each other. Now there are some couples that are really meant for this kind of thing. There are even clubs to help them with this. Both are pretty excited about the idea. You don't seem to be.
Anyway, don't give in unless you are comfortable with it. The bedroom is supposed to be a shared time for the both of you. If the leverage goes one way, then things start to get shaky.
2006-10-28 19:17:19 · answer #2 · answered by b-rad 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you must consider the future. If you think this may come back to cause you trouble in the future, I wouldn't do it. Could this become an embarrassment for you? What if your parents or family found out? What if the people you threesome with have issues that cause future medical problems? Your choice
2006-10-28 19:10:48 · answer #3 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never had the pleasure.
But here's the thing, I don't think I could handle Man, Man, Woman.
I'm guessing he's suggesting Man, Woman, Woman, right?
Okay, if you're doing this to expand your sexual horizons then Bravo! But you have to play this smart, meaning no Friend of yours, and definitely no girls he's scouted.
The answer: Escorts. Beautiful, satisfying, soul-dead, money grubbing escorts. The sex will mean nothing to them, beyond a source of income. You choose the time, and the place, and the escort, and let them take the lead; don't worry, they're pros. In the end, you'll be 200-300 dollars poorer, mutually sexually satisfied, and equal partners in naughtiness, without the burden of a caring third party.
- Have fun!
2006-10-28 19:17:45 · answer #4 · answered by editor_blue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not sure, then don't. If he's not pressuring you, just say you're not interested and let it go.
My general advice to decide if a threesome is okay is ask yourself honestly every day for a month if it's what you want. If you get twice as many "Yes it is" answers as "Maybe" or "No" answers, then it's cool, go with it. If you get fewer than twice as many, but more than half, go through it again next month. If you get fewer than half, then don't do it.
2006-10-31 09:09:03 · answer #5 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3some, group sex is a kind of the open sexual relation. Is your boyfriend suggesting girl or man as 3rd partner? Do u have lesbian curiosity? Majorities of people disapprove of open sexual activity. Critics have put forward moral, medical, and psychological objections to open relations. The lack of social acceptance places pressure on couples to hide their open sex from family, friends, and colleagues. This may limit their social support network, resulting in a loss of psychological and physical health benefits. There is no guarantee that you will try and stop it, most likely if both will like it you will repeat experience. If only one will like it, what will prevent him to try on his/her own with the remaining partner suspicious and feeling hurt. Do not open a pandora box. Let his fantasy be fantasy.
2006-10-28 19:13:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably means threesome with another woman. Go for it. It's every man's fantasy. Well hetero males.
2006-10-28 19:22:22 · answer #7 · answered by Tomas E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I had a threesome and we had a blast, but if you have any doubts about it don't do it, and really don't do it if the third person is someone the two of you know and see often.
2006-10-28 19:14:05 · answer #8 · answered by masjkr 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you do the three some you may loose him to the other girl or boy ! Remember that if he's asking you th do this he's already tired of what you have together alone. re think your relationship unless you feel like wise.
2006-10-28 19:14:23 · answer #9 · answered by big pappa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you'll do the threesome, but only if it's another guy that joins in. Don't know if he'll be so keen then.
2006-10-28 19:10:30 · answer #10 · answered by kennyboy 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
if you are really feeling this guy and he has potential to be a long term boyfriend, i wouldnt do it. you never know how your relationship will go after you do this. it might be his fantasy but it doesnt seem like he thinks too highly of you to request this. take care and good luck.
2006-10-28 19:10:30 · answer #11 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋