My husband and I enjoy spending time with our children- is this weird?

Question

I am 22 and my husband is 27. We hardly ever do anything with out our 1 and 3 year old daughters. Not for lack of a babysitter-we have all kinds of family willing to babysit- but because we ENJOY spending time with them. Yet, every time we see our friends or family they tell us we NEED to take time out for ourselves because we're too young to have our kids with us all the time. We are very happy married and we have a very happy family- Yes, we are young- but we don't CARE about time just for us. Are we really that weird? Or is everyone else just insane?

Answer 1

Well, I think that it's wonderful that you enjoy spending time with your children, but you should also make time for yourselves. After all, you are husband and wife and you might want to rekindle that flame that got you two going in the first place. I'd love to spend time with my kids as well but there are days where I'd like to spend time with my wife by ourselves. I would say to balance your time between yourselves and your kids. But there's nothing weird about enjoying time with your kids.

Answer 2

I'm 22 too and my hubby's also 27! lol! But honestly, it's not weird that you want to spend time with your kids, I think is a great thing. Me and my husband are also happily married, but we don't have kids yet, we will in a couple of years, and we plan on doing everything with the kids once they're born, we want to have a close relationship with our kids, so there's nothing wrong with you enjoying spending time with your kids, it's normal, and I'd say that's how a family should be.

Answer 3

Of course you guys are not weird, you guys are just really good parents, you love your daughters and never stop doing it. Your children come first before of anyone else. I'm really glad you guys are happy and well enjoy your girls now that they are small because the years pass by really fast and those little girls will become young adults. many parents wish they would have spend more time with their children when they were small. Love your children and enjoy life in company of them, now it is not only you and your husband but your two little angels as well. Well, take care of them and love them as much as you do!

Answer 4

It's wonderful that both of you love your kids and that you enjoy them so much. It will help them to develop into healthy individuals, But, you're walking on thin ice.

Kids need to see that the bond between their parents is strong. All couples need some time to just be together and keep the magic of their love alive. You need that selfish attention from your husband, and please understand, he needs that selfish time from you. "Selfish time" apart from the kids helps the parents to unwind, focus, and regroup. It strengthens the bonds of marriage and that has great benefit to the kids.

Please don't rationalize the situation by looking at how things are going right this moment. Assuming you have a reliable-relative sitter nearby, I'd suggest that the two of you get an evening out, no kids, twice a month - but not too late - say out by 6PM, back before 10PM.

Answer 5

Nothing is wrong spending time with your kids. It shows that you two are good parents, patient, caring, and loving. And it's a good idea that your doing this because you'll have good conversations when they're older and a good friendship. They'll probably be the children when they can tell you everything! Secrets, crushes, what they like, and what they don't. And your kids will know that they will have someone to count on when they are feeling down. So keep up the good work!! ;)

Answer 6

You guys are not weird. You are making good use of the time that you have with your children. Remember that they will soon grow up and leave home. However, do not let your marriage suffer. You two can take a little time for yourselves. For example, when special occasions come around like your anniversary, birthdays and valentine. Do not worry with those who think that you are weird, your children will love you for the time spent together. One important lesson that you are teaching them is that family togetherness is good. Keep doing whatever you are doing and your family life will get sweeter.

Answer 7

I'm glad that you like spending time with your children, but I agree that you need to spend time together as a couple. That may simply be watching tv or a movie, or just talking, after the girls are in bed. It may even be that you are doing just that and haven't even thought about it when talking with friends and family. But if you do have family that's willing to watch them (and that you trust with your kids), you should try going out sometimes by yourselves. It may be that after you do it, you'll think, "I didn't realize how much I needed that."

Answer 8

No, is not weird at all. Don't quit doing that, they need attention. Don't spoiled them though. I wish I had te oportunity to do that, my ex and I split when my daughter was 3 and she moved to california. I missed a lot of her growing up. fortunaly now we communicate a lot. We been seeing a lot of each other and talking on the phone for hours 3 to 4 times a week. I'm in Texas. She is 18 now. Do NOT give up doing that

Answer 9

It's not weird. That's perfectly okay. And don't believe them when they tell you that you are too young to have your kids with you all the time. Spend as much time as possible with your kids because there will come a time when your kids don't wanna spend their time anymore with you. But of course, do find time to have dates with your husband.

Answer 10

No you're not weird. It's great that you enjoy spending time with your kids! They grow up quick and alot of people miss out on alot of things because they are always sticking them with babysitters. More people need to be like you!