I have to babysit to help my income, because i'm in school yet... he hunts b/c hes obsessed. I dont mind the hunting and not seeing him all the time... but I dont understand why he wants to be with friends and not me when I havent seen him in almost a week! What do I do? What's going through his head? help!
2006-10-28 11:29:41 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have you told him you don't like to be blown off? I had the same problem with my boyfriend(now of two years), I let him know I didn't like it, and he fixed it. Don't expect him to change his behavior by himself, you gotta let him know.
2006-10-28 11:35:59 · answer #1 · answered by Min02 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a legitimate grievance.
Most guys respond better to logical criticism than to emotional criticism. Calmly and rationally ask him to sit down with you to discuss the situation.
Tell him that you are disappointed that he isn't prioritising your relationship. Tell him why you are disappointed. Talk about the things you were planning to do with him.
If it turns into an argument you probably did it wrong, but don't try to talk over him or raise your voice. Let him have his say, but don't let your emotions get the best of you.
Confrontations can be difficult, good luck.
2006-10-28 11:38:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you, Guys do this because they are dumb. He most likely isn't doing it to hurt your feelings, he probably doesn't even realize you are hurt by this. He probably thinks you don't care what he does. Did you explain to him that you feel like you never get to see him? Men are totally oblivious to how us women feel, we have to spell it out for them. Also is there some reason you can't hang out with him and his friends? Just show up where he's going to be, or just call him up and ask him if you can go with him to do whatever it is that he is doing. If he says no, then maybe you need to re-evaluate your relationship and ask yourself if he even deserves you.
2006-10-28 11:44:37 · answer #3 · answered by Busy Mommy of 3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first off dont be a ball and a chain, ull just scare him away, ask him y he chooses to be w/his friends, and that u dont mind him being with his friends but ur his gf and u havnt seen him all week and ud really like to spend time w/him
2006-10-28 11:32:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
OMG! Girlfriend you need to see brokeback mountain, now that's all I'm gone say, poor dear.
2006-10-28 11:33:53 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry just read a romantic novel a love story that can touch your heart and soul, and than he will call, and if not than your hero will. :)
2006-10-28 11:33:13 · answer #6 · answered by Tellie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a new boyfriend. You deserve better!
2006-10-28 11:32:00 · answer #7 · answered by Yahoo Con 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is saying that everything else is more important to him than hanging with you.
Maybe he thinks that you are saying that too.
Ask him.
2006-10-28 11:32:41 · answer #8 · answered by anirbas 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him Confront him, may be he is "hunting" other girls.
2006-10-28 11:32:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
His friends are probably more important to him.
2006-10-28 11:38:19 · answer #10 · answered by puresoul 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋