I just got in a fight with my mother, and i feel so overwhelmed, sad, mad, scared, guilty, everything. I don't know what to do!!!!
2006-10-28 11:05:17 · 21 answers · asked by Dead Birds Don't Poop 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
if I could I would give your shoulders and back a good rub down, then let you sleep and think....
but i can not...so here is my suggestion...
if you take Tylenol..take a couple, get something cold to drink ( water, ice tea, lemon aide)..and go sit and think...maybe get some paper ans start writing it all down, like book report for school...
then after your done with it..PUT IT ASIDE...then come back to it later tonight and re-read it...and see if you want to make any changes to what you wrote..if yes, then do so...again put it down...and read it before you go to bed..and do the same thing...
when you wake up tomorrow..re-read it, make you final changes. erase what you want to. add want you want to..and give your mom the letter before you leave for the day..on the envelope write.MOM I LOVE you, please read and lets talk later..
and sign it with all my love...... and do not discus it until later that day..and then say lets please do this quietly...
and you know what..she will..
and then no matter how it ends..stand up, smile, say I love you, give her a big hug..
it WILL work out..do not worry.....I have faith in you...
good luck
and God Bless
but remember, words that come out of your mouth ( good or bad ) can not be taken back so easily, and also remember..once written and given..it is extremely hard to take that back too.
so THINK..I know you can do it all....
2006-10-30 07:14:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First Of All You Both Need Some Time To Cool Off. Wait A While Then Go And Talk To Her. Tell Her Your Sorry For The Way That You Reacted. Let Her Now That You Love Her. Hopefully She Will Say The Same Back.
2006-10-28 18:10:54 · answer #2 · answered by Cas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tuff question to answer. I am a mother of a 16 YO. I don' t know how old you are but i will assume you are about her age. I don't have any advice i think you want to hear, but i will say most mothers love there kids and only do what they do to protect them. hang in there and do what your mom ask. It may seem like alot now and she may seem unreasnable, but she is your mom and no matter what nobody can take her place. Love her cherrish her. Believe me I know, because my realtionship with my daughter is about gone, because she wants to be an adult before her time. I won't back down no matter what the consaquenses are. Even if it means loosing her. Don't let it go that far, I am sure your mother loves you dearly.
2006-10-28 19:51:27 · answer #3 · answered by calenderchic0271 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you might want to retreat and regroup for a little while, or... you can march right out there and not so much apologise, since I'm guessing you and your Mom were both at fault.. but just say "You know what Mom? that was just stupid! I wish we could just talk without fighting. I love you, I know you love me - can we have that conversation over?"
Every Mom & daughter fight. I bet she's feeling the same way you are right now. Maybe you should be the mature one & make the first move - sometimes Moms get scared and confused too.
Good luck :-)
2006-10-28 18:28:43 · answer #4 · answered by belmyst 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can ypu retreat for a while to your room and listen to music that calms you? When you are feeling better, maybe write down your thoughts and feelings.
Everyone has arguments once in a while and it is hard to get back to not being mad, but you sound like a terrific daughter and I'm sure you and your Mom will find a way to work it out.
Best wishes from a grandma-aged person
2006-10-28 18:08:45 · answer #5 · answered by PeggyS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go outside - blow off some steam - run around to help get all the emotions out. When you feel more "normal" go to your mom and tell her you'd like to work it out with her. Your mom is likely feeling just as bad as you do. Take some time to calm down and then the two of you can talk and resolve this.
2006-10-28 18:09:54 · answer #6 · answered by coffeytalk.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's best to just be quiet for a minute and think about what happened. What did your mother do? What did you do?
Talk it out with your Mom and apologize, if she did something wrong she needs to apologize too. If she doesn't don't demand an apology, just give her some time to cool off a bit longer.
And last: relax and just chill.
2006-10-28 18:24:50 · answer #7 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not say what your age is but at my house we have the 18 /90 plan.Turn 18,you have 90 days to get out. Visits are GOOD
2006-10-28 22:00:51 · answer #8 · answered by sc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking with her and see what went wrong and how you can fix it TOGETHER. This often works when I have fights. If it was a Physical fight don't waste any time and get professional help.
2006-10-28 18:14:52 · answer #9 · answered by colliflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this sounds silly but you need to get rid of all those emotions with something physical.Talk a fast walk.Or if your of age have a shot of whiskey. But the walk would be healthier.Good luck hon
2006-10-28 18:24:29 · answer #10 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋