even though we have noticed a welcome change by having mix raced relationships, do you still think a middle class english male finds it hard to introduce a girl who is not the same to his parents. i have often heard guys say to girls, that they like them, but would never take them home as they weren't fully english as they were worried about what their parents would say.
2006-10-28 11:03:25 · 10 answers · asked by obiter_dicta 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm of mixed Jamaican/Canadian heritage and I've dated a few middle class white men. I think the problem with middle england is that it hankers after something exotic and yet it's just that little bit too afraid to challenge what it's used to. I've dated men who have told me how much they find women of different ethnicities very attractive and their dating history is testimony to this and yet when I meet them a couple of years later or hear from friends about them they always seem to have settled down with a typical English Rose.
Having said that I am currently in a relationship with a wonderful man who is Mr Middle Class White Male. When I'm with him, there is never any question that my ethnicity may cause him problems, he is eager to introduce me to his friends and family and is desperate to accompany me to Jamaica to meet my family.
I think the men who have difficulties taking a non white girl home probably just haven't fallen in love with them as much as they think they have.
When you are in love with a person, truly in love, then the thing you want to do most is show that person off to everyone you meet, be it friends, colleagues or family. Maybe men who have problems introducing their girlfriends need to question just how deep their feelings are.
2006-10-28 11:19:21 · answer #1 · answered by THE BULB 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Im from a middle class family, who are very old-fashioned, and like to think they're something very special because of the money in the family. I know that i could never date a woman of ethnic minority without being the talk in the family, and my family trying to end it and interfere. For them, it would not be right for an "heir" to marry a girl of ethnic minority. The family has to stay pure english. In fact, i think that if i did, i would be cast-off and nobody would talk to me, simply because i have shamed the family name. They have done the same to someone else in the family because the woman he liked was a woman of gypsy heritage. After 13 years of marriage, when they divorced, the man was welcomed back into the family along with the children. Marrying or dating a woman of ethnic minority would be even worse.
2006-10-29 00:24:34 · answer #2 · answered by bradleyxwright 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never met anyone who feels like this - if i did, I'm afraid I wouldn't have a very high opinion of them. This is not Englishness, it's ignorance. I wonder what sort of company you keep if you 'often' hear' this type of comment - I'd change the people I mix with if I were you!
Totally agree BULB!
2006-10-28 11:43:56 · answer #3 · answered by Purple 8 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow... you shouldn't really worry what the parents think. I am a parent, and hope to high heavens that my kids would one day feel free enough to introduce whomever they like! You will find your parents might be more accepting than you realise, and if they are not, it's still your life. You only have one... LIVE IT!
2006-10-28 11:08:00 · answer #4 · answered by joburg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats ancient! if you like the guy remember that he will have pretty much (usually) the same ideas as the parents. if he says he likes you then just take it as that. if he is a jerk and finds it difficult to introduce you then ditch him, you are better than that! i find it incredible that you have often heard guys say to girls they wouldnt take them home as they werent fully english. thats awful!
2006-10-28 11:08:09 · answer #5 · answered by gwendolynpearce 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were him, and I really really love you and think about living the rest of my life with you, I don't give a **** to what my parents think about your ethinicity status. I will take you home introduce you to them and they can think whatever they want afterwards..
2006-10-28 11:08:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well dont know about english as im welsh and would have no problem at all,, colour should never come into it only love and affection i know my mam and dad just want me to be happy and so should all others and in this day and age its appalling to think otherwise if you like or love someone who cares what colour she/he is and if friends dont approve then their not real friends are they?
2006-10-28 22:31:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so true because unfortunately there is still a lot of racism about.
2006-10-28 12:47:49 · answer #8 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a very dated idea.
2006-10-28 14:04:37 · answer #9 · answered by purest s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as there not muslim, whats the problem!?
2006-10-28 11:24:28 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋