Is there something wrong with me?

Question

I lost my gran 7 yrs ago,when I was 12. she brought me up with my gramps and I thought they were my parents! I found out the truth b4 my gran passed and grew close to my real mum (who I thought was my sis) but then 1 yr after my nan passed my mum ran away with her b/f and my bro's and sis's. I still have my gramps who I love dearly but recently have been crying hysterically wanting my mum back and my nan. Id never really grieved for my nan until now and never cryed over my mum. Why is it now everything seems to be falling apart again?????

Answer 1

Honey, I'm sorry that you have to be going through this! It seems like everything has hit you all at one time, and you're having trouble dealing with it all. Since you've lost your grandmother, you must be wanting another female role model in your life, and I'm sure that is why you're crying over your mother. You miss her, and you miss having another close female to talk to, to spend time with, to be nurtured by. Your feelings are completely normal, even though you may feel like you're going crazy right now. My bet is that your gramps will be happy to help you sort through these feelings. Talk to him. Not only will it feel good to let everything out, he'll probably be able to help you. Good luck! I wish you the best.

Answer 2

It sounds to me that u may be depressed,
what u need to do is look at the bright side.Thank God for giving u such great grandparents, I was also raised by my grandparents,my grandma also passed away in 2002 it was hard for all of us.
My mom and dad were not able to care for none of my brothers and sisters, I never stopped loving my mom and I never hated her for giving us away , but 2 of my sisters do hate my mom for never being there, they blame her all their problems.what ever you do don't go down that path. It is not Ur fault that Ur mum left, everything happens for a reason. u have to be strong. Be strong for your grump's I'm sure he is getting old show him be for it is too late how much u appreciate what he did for u and tell him u love him every day, HE is Ur real dad because he raised u. Love ur self, don't stress so much on finding ur mum because I'm sureshe knows where u are, if it's ment for you to be with her she will look for u. I know that sounds tough ,but u have to worry about ur self right now.
ur mum did teach u one good thing and that's never to treat ur own kids the way she did u. when u have Kids u will always be there for Them,because u know what it feels like to not have ur mum around.
u really tuched my heart because I feel ur pain too. MY gramps is still here so I will try my best to let him know how much i apreachate him raising me, my brothers and sisters.
I wish u the best in the future...take care

Answer 3

I'm sorry you've had so much to deal with at your young age.

It's no wonder you feel like you are "falling apart". You need to find someone to talk to. Can you talk to your gramps? If not, what about a school counsellor?

After my father died I thought I had dealt with the loss. Then a series of things happened. My grandfather died, my uncle and finally our family dog. As silly as it sounds when the dog died I completely fell apart! I joined a grief support group and found out that I had a lot of "unresolved grief" that I had never allowed myself to feel. Maybe that's what's happening to you.

You have a lot of really "deep" issues that have been thrown at you. It's no wonder you are feeling so upset. Please talk to someone, you need find someone to help you work through this. It's a lot for you to deal with on your own.

I wish you the very best, take care of yourself. I'll pray for you.

Answer 4

I feel VERY sorry for you. It sounds more to me like your mom has some problems. Keep your head up. Speak to your gramps about everything that has happened, maybe he can shed some light on the situation.

Answer 5

You're in your late teen years, and thats when you're becoming an adult. You're starting to remember your mother and what she did to you, and it hurts you because you've been waiting for your mom to come back. To answer your question: NO, there's nothing wrong with you. It's completely normal to feel this way-trust me.

I suggest you talk to a counselor about this stuff, it may sound awkward and stuff-but counselors care for you and want to help you. Also, I'd suggest you journal-experts recommend that when you journal out your feelings you're able to calm down from crying hard.

Best of luck to you!

Answer 6

i am sorry for your loss. there is nothing wrong with you. everyone grieves differently. the danger is if you are hiding all of these feelings inside of you and not letting anyone in. find someone in your life to let in and to help you heal. wounds like this will always hurt to some degree but in time the pain is not as bad.
God Bless

Answer 7

No, nothing is wrong with you. Grief shows itself in strage ways for different people. Just take one step and one day at a time and you will find that things get back together somehow.

Answer 8

thats because you never lost so much so quickly you had your mother and grandmother together at the same time now both of them are gone one to heaven and the other who know listen your tear are mostly for your grand mom the pain will get better i know your mother will be back soon she miss her mother thats the only way she know how to deal sorry for your lost

Answer 9

Of course there is nothing wrong with you! you ve been through some very unusual situations and i think it is perfectly normal reaction!
dont be afraid of crying!cry until you get it out of your system and then you will be able to start feeling better!

Answer 10

Nothing is wrong with you hun. You are behaving very normal. Go with it. Cry until you can't cry no more. It's the soul's way of healing.