A woman tells you that she "needs some time to get her life together" when you ask her out, because she's just come out of a bad relationship and is not yet interested in jumping into a new one.
You live in separate States and a month later she asks you to go on work travel, says she likes you and she wants to see you. When you see each other, she says she likes being single and isn't dating yet. You ask her about friends w/benefits. She says she wants to and you can tell she really does but then she tells you she isn't ready yet, she is scared because she hasn't been with anyone for a long time. She asks you to be patient with her and take it slow. You say okay.
Would you lose respect for her because she asked you to go on work travel and although she said she likes you she still isn't ready for anything?
2006-10-28 10:46:23 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know if I'd lose respect for her, but I definitely wouldn't wast any more time on anything other than acquaintances. She sounds like she's got too much emotional baggage she doesn't want to really let go of. And this is way too much game playing on her part - I'd bet this is just the tip of the gaming iceberg, too!
2006-10-28 10:58:05 · answer #1 · answered by Tina R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why ever would you lose respect for her? She sounds like she truly likes you but, just as she said it, she also truly needs some time to move on to a new relationship. Give her what she needs -- some time, some distance and much emotional support -- and you could have done both of you a favor. I have a feeling your relationship will work wonders with just a little patience and just a little trust from each side.
Regards and best of luck.
2006-10-28 18:01:23 · answer #2 · answered by A Solitary Smile 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, man, maybe she just likes you!
If that's the case, then the sex will come in time, maybe.
In fact, she will probably initiate it.
Just chill, dude.
Are you looking to "bang" her, or are you really interested in her?
I mean, what if she told you that tere was absolutely no chance that she would EVER have sex with you. Would you still want to see her and go out with her as a friend? Or would you simply say good-bye and be done with it?
Look inside, man. What are you all about?
Hey, if you have to, then KY Warming Gel will let you have sex with Jennifer Love Hewitt if you want.
If you don;t enjoy spending time with her without sex, then you probably wouldn't stay around long after sex.
2006-10-28 18:09:29 · answer #3 · answered by troydowning 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever been badly burned from a relationship? Know what badly burned means? If so, thats how she feels.
It's not a woman thing, it's a been-burned thing. Stick with her if you can take the heat. If not, get out of the kitchen.
2006-10-28 17:57:22 · answer #4 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
seems to be the best woman anyone can have, flirts should stay away from her, she needs a friend more than an actual relationship.
2006-10-28 17:52:42 · answer #5 · answered by Sameer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is that she's just not that into you. Get over it and move on. Why waste you time and finger muscles pining over someone who's not worth it.
2006-10-28 17:49:14 · answer #6 · answered by lisaloulou6969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd move on - I smell too much emotional baggage.
2006-10-28 17:48:07 · answer #7 · answered by tbear 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋