She said she was having some emotional problems at the moment and doesn't know what she wants. I sort of spilled my guts and now things are sort of akward. She said she always knew how I felt it was just different to hear me say it. We haven't talked as much since this happened. Should I just give her space or what. I want to send her flowers and say sorry for making things weird between us. Anyone have any advice
2006-10-28 10:39:50 · 9 answers · asked by steven g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unless you were previously in the habit of sending her flowers, sending them will only make things more weird.
She knows how you feel now; the important thing now is to remain friends while giving her time to process her feelings.
You should therefore go back to the way you were before. Call and hang out the way you always did as if nothing happened. Either way you will remain friends, and more may come of it.
Good luck...
2006-10-28 10:47:11 · answer #1 · answered by bandl84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her some space. Is she single? If she is and you are serious about wanting to be in a relationship with her because you love her then wait a week and then send the flowers or do whatever you need to reconnect with her. If she is not single--EVEN if she intends to be soon, give her space until she is.
2006-10-28 17:43:22 · answer #2 · answered by bortiepie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound so completely lost. i think when you told her your feelings, she might have felt scared and didn't know how to react. when she said shes been having emotional problems, it might not have been the best thing to tell her you loved her. as to not talking, i think maybe she feels as awkward as you and might be feeling self consious. either way, be easy and do not push her to get her feelings out. i think it would be a nice gesture to send her some flowers with a nice note saying that you apologize for being so forward, but you care a lot about her. show her in small, subtle ways how much you care. she will begin to put more of her trust in you, and feel more comfortable. give her space if she acts like she needs it. otherwise, if she says she wants to be left alone, but you can see in her eyes and face that she really needs somone to hug her, just reach out to her literally, take her in your arms, and just hold her. sometimes what we all need is just someone to hold us to help us start taking down those barriers in our hearts.
all my best of luck to you!
2006-10-28 17:47:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a good idea, but dont feel bad at all, tht was sweet to tell her, send her the flowers and give her some space for like a week and 1/2 then call her and say wutz upp, hows it goin? believe me its the best thing to do, if u want anything to be the same or for things to actually get better (like she developes feelings for u)
2006-10-28 17:46:01 · answer #4 · answered by &d. i. l. i. hawt; 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not send flowers, jeez you guys are so dense. You broke the cardinal rule of girl / guy friendships, now you just have to deal with the awkwardness for a while. You should however tell her that even if she does not feel this towards you, you will ALWAYS be her friend.
2006-10-28 17:43:40 · answer #5 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say give her some room and don't send the flowers. And I am even a flower lover.
2006-10-28 17:46:15 · answer #6 · answered by wv_country_princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her some time to get used to the idea. Then ask her how she feels. It is possible that she only wants friendship so be prepared for that.
2006-10-28 17:43:44 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats really sweet, but maybe just leave it for now. when shes ready to talk to you, she'll come.
2006-10-28 17:47:57 · answer #8 · answered by justasking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what your heart tells you to do.
2006-10-28 17:42:43 · answer #9 · answered by Faith_marie_16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋