He Doesn't trust me...What should I do?

Question

I haven't done anything at all to make him not trust me, but he just doesnt. I went to hang uot with a childhood guy friend, my age, for a couple hours and he didnt even trust me. He got mad at me and hasnt called me yet and Im afraid to call him. It just pisses me off that he doesnt trust me but I trust him. What should I do? And hes been acting really different lately like arrogant, clingy, stupid and annoying. I dont like it....What do I do?

Im giving him another week and if things dont get better or even get worse, then Im going to dump him. We've been together for almost 3 months. And he doesnt trust me. Its bullsh!t

Answer 1

OK, I don't know your age but I am assuming that you are around twenty. If he is starting this know it is just going to get worse. Here are your options, you can say you are sorry stay away from guys and any situation that might put you into a fight. Or you can leave him. Personally i think you need to focus on what you really want to do with your life because you sure can waste a lot of your life with a man like that. I have one more thing to say, Men are like busses, one comes around every 15 minutes you just have to figure out which bus to ride!

Answer 2

As well as the very obvious trust issues highlighted by several of the comments posted in response to your question, I also notice that you wrote,

"He got mad at me and hasn't called me yet and I'm afraid to call him."

This to me sounds like just as an important, if not more important issue that the trust ones that are so obvious in what you have written.

If you are seriously too "afraid" to call him because he got "mad", you have to seriously think about whether you are in a relationship with someone as an equal partner, or if you have found yourself in some sort of parent - child role play type scenario.

On top of that you have the clear issues of mistrust, and you simply can't fix that. You are not responsible for how someone else feels, nor can you change that most of the time.

And you have only been going out for 3 months!!! For goodness sake, you should still be smelling the roses, not going through these issues. Don't waste any more time -- walk!!

Answer 3

I just wanna write this out so bear with me ok..

One day on a radio talk show (I never listen to) a guy called in with a severe trust issue. He told the DJ that his girl did something that really touched his mistrust nerve (but it was SO minor). They had tons of callers calling in saying SHE shouldn't have done that and SHE should have bene more mindful of his problem and it was HER fault for upsetting him. OMG I almost puked I was so disgusted.

Since then I've had a really strong stance on this issue. If you're with someone who has trust problems that have nothing to do with you, there is NOTHING you can do about it. You can be kind, and patient, and loving, and giving, to no end. If they still can't trust you, there is NOTHING you can do!!! It is NOT your problem to fix them! You are not a counselor or a doctor, and you have your own un-appreciated problems to deal with. It's all about HIM and his trust issues, well screw that. Honey, if you've done a lot and you feel you're fed up, and you should, there's nothing more you can do.

I didn't mean to rave on here; I just don't want you to get sucked down that drain of "Oh poor me, I can't trust you" crap. Do what you can and if it doesn't work, move on. Some people never change, don't get sucked into that drama. (This is just my humble opinion.)