I have my wedding party all planned out! From the girls to the order they walk in. My grnadmother is pressuring me to add another one of my little cousins in the party. I do not want her walking down the aisle, she will mess up the order. Also they can not order dress is a small size enough to fit her. I was thinking of asking her to hand out the programs. Give me some other roles she could play that would not include her walking down the isle. If you haven't noticed I am picky about my wedding and am positive that I do not want her walking down the isle.
2006-10-28 10:37:54 · 17 answers · asked by Blondie98_01 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you will notice I put SMALL ENOUGH to fit her. SHhe is only four! I just don't want another person walking, I already have 10 girls total!
2006-10-28 10:43:45 · update #1
Another thing is that my party is mainly made up of my family. It happened that this cousin was not included because I am not all that close to her like the others. It happened that I left her out because she is not around me much. I am not going to be rude and tell my grandmother no! I am close to my family and would like to include her. I would prefer she not walk down the aisle at all! Please take this into consideration before answering!
2006-10-28 11:52:30 · update #2
If she's a little girl... After the wedding party has walked down, and before you enter, have her ring a bell and say "The bride is coming! The bride is coming!" Its actually really cute!
2006-10-28 11:17:46 · answer #1 · answered by ABV 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The programs is a good idea. If you're having something like bubbles for a send off, that would be a good idea for her too. However, in the end, it's your wedding and if you've already got everything set in place, kindly explain to your grandmother that, though you would love to have your cousin in your wedding, everything is set and there have to be limits because otherwise everything will just get out of hand. Plus, if you let in this cousin, someone else might just ask if another person can be added. If everything is set, it's set. You aren't a bad person for having a plan set in place. The day is about you and your future spouse's love--not trying to cram every single family member into your wedding party.
2006-10-28 10:44:12 · answer #2 · answered by lori_a_esser 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
is there any way she can walk down with the flower girl, I've seen ,many weddings where the little one is just there and the bigger one does the flower tossing. A friend did this and the littler girl just carried a round foam ball that they has stuck in little flowers and beads. As for a dress see if you can just find a pretty little one. I'd not think with her only being four that she can handle anything else.
If you're that set about it then you need to be prepared to suffer the consequences of not wanting her in it and not making a place for her in the first place. In my opinion family should always come first. There has to be something you can have her do.
2006-10-28 11:48:31 · answer #3 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad you don't want het to walk down the isle- how about the AISLE? Would that be ok- for the poor fat girl?
If you really don't want her at all- don't ask her. It is your wedding afterall.
However, she could do the programs, do a reading, sing, do the guest book, or host the the gift table.
2006-10-28 10:42:22 · answer #4 · answered by Mommyk232 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Four years old....to me that is too young to walk the isle especially since you already have it planned. Maybe you could have her "help" you get ready. She may even be too young to hand out programs. Or you could give her a camera and have her take some pictures before the ceremony as your "official photographer". Good luck.
2006-10-28 10:46:31 · answer #5 · answered by Army Wife 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go to our grandma and say...are you TRYING to ruin my special day...when you get married again then you can have her in YOUR wedding party....hope that helps...good luck honey...also my cousin had a 4 year old walk down the aisle and screamed and cried all the way down and all the way back...pratically ruined the wedding
2006-10-28 18:16:17 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ DancingQueen♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your wedding and you have the right to do it your way. I have people pressuring me. You could ask her to stand by and greet people as they arrive and have them sign the guest book. Or you could have her hand out the birdseed or bubbles (whatever you are using). She could also take care of the gift table. Or if she is capable you could have her help usher. It is up to you. Hope this helps. Congrats on your wedding and remember this day is for YOU not your grandmother.
2006-10-28 10:44:12 · answer #7 · answered by CGS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In most states now a days you can't "throw" rice because of what it will do to the birds insides. Anyways. At my sister's wedding recently she had a basket of little viles of bubbles that was ordered so we could blow bubbles as they walked outside. Have your "other" family member hold the basket and pass out the viles of bubbles. They could have little ribbons on them that match the main color scheme of your wedding.
2006-10-28 12:02:14 · answer #8 · answered by stardust256 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guest book - programmes - is she old enough to help get everyone ready? - Collecting disposable cameras off tables at reception - hold your flowers once you have walked up the aisle if she stands at the top??
at the end of the day it is your wedding - dont let other pressurise you
2006-10-28 10:41:40 · answer #9 · answered by schmushe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I even have consistently been under the effect that their contribution and the cost of them being in the marriage and participation replace into the present of the marriage occasion members to the bride and groom.
2016-10-16 12:21:43 · answer #10 · answered by barn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋