They just recently lost their mother to suicide. I know that it might be too soon to make them sleep alone but how do i know? The four year old always slept with my sister and the two year old used to sleep by herself but since this has happened she hates to be alone.
2006-10-28 10:35:48 · 10 answers · asked by lisaloulou6969 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
heartbreaking to the core. these little girls need normality brought back into their lives and the sooner the better, its all going to be down to perseference, put them in their beds and sit with them until they are asleep giving them plenty of reassurance until they go down, each time they wake or get out of bed, put them back and go through procedure each time. i know its tiring and frustrating, but once they realise that your actions will be the same each time, they will adjust to your normality of things. my heart goes out to you all in this very distressing time
2006-10-28 11:03:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. How lucky the kids are to have you in their lives.
Well, as sad as this may sound, I don't think that children that age really understand death like we do. I do believe that with their very limited understanding of death that they are quite capable of adapting very quickly to their new environment.
I would try to have the kids sleep in a bed together. Maybe you could put those fake "stars" all over the ceiling. These stars are what worked for us getting our 2 year old in her own bed.
Finally, create a routine. Bath, stories (in their own bed) then lights out and time to sleep. Leave the room. If they come out of the room put them back as many times as it takes. It could take hours the first and second, even third night. I'm sure that within the week (if you can stick it out) the kids will be sleeping in their own beds.
Good luck & God bless you.
2006-10-28 17:44:02 · answer #2 · answered by Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is so horrible for them to have to even experience....
I know this may not be the answer you want to hear, but this is a situation best suited for a Child Psychologist.
Children have very fragile mental states and capacities, this is something that is going to be with them for the rest of their lives, but I feel that when it comes to the well being of the children that you should seek a professional and not answers from people who's qualifications are unknown.....
I hope you are able to work this situation out and to help the children cope with their loss... Best Wishes.
2006-10-28 18:00:40 · answer #3 · answered by virtualrealitys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this might sound a little harsh but it might work. Tell them there is a monster or something in the bed they sleep together in and if they dont sleep in their separate beds, they well be eaten. If that doesnt work, dress up as a monster (like the scream or just wear a mask with a bathrobe) at night while they are sleeping to scare them into their own beds.
2006-10-28 17:39:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You can start them out with you and move them to their own beds when they fall asleep.
Better yet, you need to make bed time a ritual. Wash up, brush teeth, put on pajamas, listen to a story, tucked in. These kids should be going to bed long before you're ready to. 7:00pm latest. Set a time and stick to it.
If they show up in the middle of the night, calm their fears and take them back and tuck them in again. Be gentle but firm. It works.
2006-10-28 19:55:20 · answer #5 · answered by Magic One 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a lot on your plate....
They should probably be in a counseling center.
Place their beds close together but tell them they need to stay in their own beds.
As they get used to this, move their beds apart a little at a time. Untill they are where you want them to be. If it fails start over.
2006-10-28 17:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They probably miss their mother. I'm still trying to get my four year old daughter, and my six year old son to sleep in their own beds on a regular basis.
2006-10-28 18:15:49 · answer #7 · answered by Tonya W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
-TRY CORNERED STYLE BUNK-BEDS. .THE CORNERED ONES ARE TOTALY DIMENSIONATLY DIFFERENT THAN THE OLD STANDARD BUNK-BEDS. IN YOUR OWN WAY, TRY TO EXPRESS THE NEED FOR THE BOTH OF THEM TO BE THERE FOR EACH OTHER. THE YOUNG SIBLINGS MIGHT HEED THIS WITH THE LOVE THEY HAVE FOR ONE ANOTHER. THE 4 YR. OLD WILL MAYBE START FEELING AS THE PROTECTER OF THE YOUNGER SISTER. THE REASON I SUGGESTED THIS TYPE OF BED,IS THEY CAN BE CLOSE TOGETHER,CLIMB INTO EACH OTHERS BED WHEN ONE WANTS TO COMFORT THE OTHER OR WHEN ONE NEEDS THE OTHER. MY PRAYERS ARE WITH YOUR FAMILY.
2006-10-28 18:13:29 · answer #8 · answered by kwhic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how awful for them.
It will take time.
Snuggle with them and make them feel secure for now. You'll know when the time is right to get them back in there own beds. Take it one day at a time, and dont worry yourself over it.
2006-10-28 17:40:06 · answer #9 · answered by Lea 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sorry to hear that...
You should sleep on his or her bed untill he /she falls to sleep
then leave him/her alone.
do it many time until they get used to sleeping alone.
2006-10-28 17:40:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋