When I was 8 my grandad snogged me, and recently I cant get it out of my head. I now have a daughter, and I cant trust any man being with her other than my husband, my dad is fantastic with her, but I am still worrying all the time. When my Dad takes her out I am constantly asking her questions about exactly what hapenned. I feel so guilty towards my Dad and feel sorry for him. My Dad never knew what his Dad did, and really looked up to my grandad. too much time has past, plus my grandad is now dead. I didnt realise how much this had affected me until now. What shall i do?
2006-10-28 10:26:36 · 10 answers · asked by Lea 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
snogged - as in french kiss, with tongues
2006-10-28 10:49:29 · update #1
1 deep breath 2 release 3 admit that it is paranoia because of your experiences as a child 4 trust your dad, he did not participate in what your grandad did. 5 let your daughter know she can tell you anything
2006-10-28 10:36:21 · answer #1 · answered by fullmoonwolf4real 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear your story and can talk from experience. I am now in my 50's but suffered for years and years because a step- father abused his rights and touched me in places he should have not including attempted rape. I went years and years ago to counseling but the thoughts of my childhood unfortunately never goes away. This jerk is still alive and has never been punished for what he did. For me, he should die........ I suffered and he did not. I had a terrible, disfunctional childhood which lead to a disfunctional life afterwards......... You need to trust your husband, that's what a marriage is all about, does he know what happened to you? I would be a little careful with your dad but just becaue your grandad did something so horrible, it does not mean your dad is a bad person too. Good Luck.
2006-10-28 10:47:35 · answer #2 · answered by bonbon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason it is affecting you now is...YOUR DAUGHTER!
I know exactly how your feeling. I have four minor girls. We must live up to one of your responsibilites as a mother, by protecting her child(ren). Unfortunately, a family member molesting or raping a child, much less their own, is becoming a part of a woman's life. I too have been molested...and I strongly feel the reason I went through it is so my children DON'T HAVE TO! I know what not to do! SO DO YOU!
Inside you may feel guilt by asking your daughter questions...but, I'd rather feel guilt towards my father, then guilt towards my daughter...IF there was any foul play. I mean, there is a reason your asking your daughter>>>] If there comes a time when you need to explain to your father why you feel this way...it may open his eyes and heart to understanding your pain. So his father is dead...the world is less one more child molester!
Women are daily victims of American Terrorists: rapists, murders, molesters, muggers, robbers, gang violence, etc..
So, to answer your question: There is NO way to get over what happened to you. It is like a burnt piece of wood..forever branded...
2006-10-28 11:06:18 · answer #3 · answered by Lovely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lea: according to family matters you is a person by nature
because relationships does need more attention.And I do believe
God yes ! we should look at the lesser problems which can
refer to http://yahoo.familyguidance program.com .Very important
idea that will help out greatly reconize each other as an group
of people also knowing these facts are true
Good luck with new life
2006-10-28 11:13:00 · answer #4 · answered by toddk57@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you feel, it was real bad, but todays world is more sensitive to relations, and to be clear, when you can be safe with your dad till now.... then your daughter has to be safe do not worry it was just a bad phase, come over it
2006-10-28 10:36:21 · answer #5 · answered by Sameer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should talk to your dad about what happened to you without accusing somebody just tell him what u fill and take it from there. the best thing is to trust your dad not every body is the same good luck
2006-10-28 10:38:35 · answer #6 · answered by neladaka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a Christian church and talk to the pastor.
Or you can tell Jesus in your room and keep it confidential.
Get the Book "power of a praying woman" by Stormie Omartian...Really good book. Trust me I know...It has helped me Big time!
2006-10-28 10:38:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree what does snogged mean?
2006-10-28 10:46:18 · answer #8 · answered by do you know me? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
funny old guy, he just wanted to get some before he died.
forget the whole thing.
it's so rare that it's not worth stressing over.
2006-10-28 10:35:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wtf does snogged mean?
2006-10-28 10:35:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋