She barely even jerks me off unless we are in the shower when Im fingering her and I like to go down on her I would definetely want her to go down on me. We've talked about it and she said that it wont happen for a while. She said that someone forced her to do it when she was younger. I understand it has a lot to do with trust, her past relationship and that she wants to know we will always be together. I have built a lot of trust with her and I just wanted to know if there is anything I can do to make her feel more comfortable with it because I dont want her to not do it for so long that she feels she never needs to.
2006-10-28 10:25:17 · 13 answers · asked by 1authority 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give her time... Bah dont listen to those chicks.. be a man... I would recommend Start rubbing your self infront of her.. start jerking.. and move her hand to your .... and get her to do it.. and eventually.. be like.. oh man.. i wish you would.... Suck .....
2006-10-28 10:30:26 · answer #1 · answered by morfusaf 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
According to a recent survey only some 20% of women enjoy giving oral sex. It's not something that is easily changed. She has a traumatic memory about sex (being forced), and it would be very unkind to keep this as an issue between you, because she may truly want to please you but can't face the memory of the trauma. The best thing to do is to give up on the idea and just accept that your sex life has limitations. Everyone's does.
2006-10-28 17:30:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never force anything. Sounds like she may have some issues she will have to deal with in her own time for whatever has happened to her in the past.
Also, do not exclude the fact that it may never happen. She may always be repulsed by it.
I hope for you, this isn't the case but just don't expect it to happen and if it does, it will just be that much more enjoyable.
Good luck,
~T~
2006-10-28 17:31:43 · answer #3 · answered by ~*bUtteRFy~*~kISSeS*~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you shouldn't make someone do something they don't want to do.
Either she really doesn't like it or she does have issues from the past, and if thats the case.
I'd leave it up to her and when she feels ready .
Don't pressure her.
2006-10-28 17:29:52 · answer #4 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but until she gets over what ever happened in the past, there's nuthin you can do except just offer support and try to get her to come to terms with what happened. Just be there for her.
2006-10-28 17:30:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give her time. She will do it when she is comfortable doing it. Think about her past and put have empathy for the situation.
2006-10-28 17:28:08 · answer #6 · answered by cyncase007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OKAY IMMA PUT MYSELF IN HER SHOES...... IF SOMEONE FOIRCED NE TO WEN I WAS YOUNGER I WOULDNT FEEL SO EAGER TO DO IT EITHER. BUT IF IT WAS THAT LONG AGO I THINK SHE JUST DOESNT WANT TO DO IT AT ALL. BUT KEEP DOING YOU
2006-10-28 17:29:41 · answer #7 · answered by mimi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bug her about it. The more "pressure" the less chance you've got.
Comprenday?
2006-10-28 17:31:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
quit pushing her! she'll do it when she's good and ready! it's not going to feel as good to you if she's forced and not enjoying it. give her time.
2006-10-28 17:28:01 · answer #9 · answered by *KiM* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lots and lots of love.
Lots and lots of patience.
2006-10-28 17:28:20 · answer #10 · answered by Ade 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋