is my ex bf from about a year ago and he says he still loves me and then theres my ex that i went out with for about 7 months and he had his friends tell me he died and then he msged me today and told me that he had to end everything with me because i was making him choose between me or another girl and he couldn't make a choice. what should i do ? which one should i go with? the 7 month bf still loves me but i don't know what to do...
2006-10-28 10:22:25 · 4 answers · asked by sweet_girl_snglnlokn2006 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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I understand that you want a boyfriend. No one wants to be alone.
But wait
being with the WRONG guy is far worse than being alone.
What should you do? Easy...
First, you should NOT go with either of these guys...they are both losers. They have treated you with less respect than you deserve.
The old boyfriend DOES NOT love you. He's just out of another relationship, and wants someone to "fill in" until he finds another conquest. Don't be so EASY for him.
Don't go there at all !!! girlfriend.
Use this time to get intouch with your self,
and don't be going with any man because HE says he loves you.
You must chose a partner because you both love each other, and that doesn't happen overnight.
OK...ya, you can fall in LUST overnight
but falling IN LOVE takes time.
Sex is a small part of LOVE. If you want all of love don't ignore the most important parts:
Trust, loyalty, and being best-friends, caring and sharing equally and fair in all things, respect for each others boundaries, and each others relationship goals.
You did not have this with either guy before.
So why would you have a further relationship with either one?
First, have a rewarding relaitonship with the person that is your true best friend: YOU
Get to know yourself, and what you want, and what you like to do, and all about you.
Get to know yourself as your other real friends see you < THAT is who you really are!
Only after you have a rewarding and good relationship with yourself,
are you really ready for a relationship with a man...then
you will be your true self, not afraid to show things that make you interesting, and not afraid to be a little spicy.
Besides, no man wants a doormat.
No man wants a b itch either.
Every man wants a girl that really likes him a lot, but won't take any cr@p off him...and is spicy and fun and interesting.
I wish you Love
stw
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2006-10-28 10:35:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason why they are ex's is a good reason to stay away from them. Go and find someone else that is totally new. If Jeff is stupid and doesn't pay attention to you then dump him. It is his loss as well as the others that are your ex's. Getting back with an ex doesn't always end up well.
2006-10-28 17:26:40 · answer #2 · answered by steve s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow thats confusing. well if i read it right then someone made his friend tell u he died just to break up with u? well if thats true then dont go back to him. (thats so awful)
sorry if i read the whole thing wrong though
2006-10-28 17:28:31 · answer #3 · answered by Finn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be single girl! dump all guys and hang with your girl friends!
2006-10-28 17:25:05 · answer #4 · answered by Tay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋