Should I do this?

Question

Please read my first question so you understand my situation. This is a continuation.

I haven't been able to move out. My whole family is acting like her now except for my oldest brother and my father. My brother doesn't live here, he lives in VA and he's in the Navy, he's on a deployment now and he's really stressed.
There was another fight today, I got screwed over again as usual and I don't know what to do. I was sobbing so hard and no one said anything. I couldn't stop crying so they gave me money... $27 and no hug or I love you. That made me cry even harder. The last person who gave me a hug or told me I was loved was my oldest brother. I wanted to ask him if I could move in with him, but since he's so stressed I don't know if I should. Should I just ask him and hope he'll say yes so I can finally be happy? He doesn't know that it's like this over here. He's very attatched to my mother and I don't know if he'll believe me...

Answer 1

Honey, you can come and live with us! Your story broke my heart, and I can relate to it completely. My childhood used to be hell at times, there were many problems with my brother's mental breakdown. My parents fought constantly. My sister lived just a stone throw away, and when things got out of hand, I used to slip out the back door and go over there. Being 16 years older, I looked up to her more than a sister thru my whole childhood. If it doesn't work out living with your brother, perhaps you could have an outlet like I did, and go over there when you have to. I wish I had a magical answer for you, I really do! I am sure my life would have been more "together" today, if my family life wasn't so stressful. My two girls are successfully on their own, youngest in the Navy, oldest in last year of college. My experiences have helped me raise and teach my girls respect, love and trust! We are very close. I wish you the very best honey, and email me anytime if you need to vent. I know how you feel!

Answer 2

Perhaps in a way your mother is jealous of you because you have done things that she hasnt been able to do.
if i were you i would stop trying to making her love me, i would treat her with respect but not with love( like i would treat my boss).i would make our relationship just typical.
talk to your brother about your problem and if it is possible move in with him.but what about your expenses?will your parents still give you money?
if this thing doesnt work out, just try not to be home a lot or while you are at home stay in your room and dont have contact with the rest of your family.
Find new friends or a bf(if you dont have) sometimes friends are more important than family.
i wish you the best of luck, i hope that things will get the way you want to.
post a new question to let us know what happened

Answer 3

I also read your other question...wow!

Ask your brother, the worse he can say is "no". And don't think of it as stressing him out. While he's deployed, you could be "house sitting" for him. Just tell him that you need some space from your mother, and would be willing to do whatever he says. Don't say anything negative about your mom, just say that you think that you two need some time apart.

Answer 4

i don't really understand what you mean but if you're
not really happy with you're parents you should talk
to them and not looking for the easy way out.i'm sure
you feel like you're not understand and no one love you
but when did you last say it back.parents are human too
it's hard sometimes and we feel too the need to be loved
and if you put you'r guard's down and try and tell them you
love them and hug them too they will have the same response
they're not going to reject you they want the best for you...
it simple a few hugs a day without asking anything...
you can't say you did'nt try right????

good luck
isabelle

Answer 5

Im learning the hard way, you cant make people love. and while family should be your closest friend, sometimes they mess you up and spit you out on the world only to return to give bad advice and chase away the poeple that really love you. good luck

Answer 6

i would call your brother you need him right now he will help you i just know he will... and then call some one about your family they need some counseling!!

Answer 7

just ask him the worst answer you can get is a no.