We have more in common than i would have thought possible and we are so on each others wavelength it is unreal. i think i am afraid of being close to her, we have been seeing each other for 2 months and suddenly i think i dont find her very attractive, i think maybe i'm using it as a reason to end it as i am afraid of getting close and getting hurt as i have issues about this. Does this sound right? She is no model but i know intellectually that it is the person inside that counts and i think she is all i would want in a girl. i just seem to be stuck on this looks thing.
2006-10-28 09:53:45 · 18 answers · asked by danchip 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree with Sulei....looks aren't everything but you have to be somewhat attracted to your significant other. Often times their great heart and intelligence will make them more attractive to you over time. Maybe you are using her looks as an excuse. Slow down and think about what you are doing. If she is the right one, you don't want to loose her over something like this: because you will regret it for the rest of your life.
2006-10-28 10:03:03 · answer #1 · answered by Kiah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although what is inside counts-you have to be attracted to the person that you are with. Your issues with being close to someone very well could be part of the issue. You may be trying to find things wrong with he so that you can leave her. Really sit down and think about things before you leave her. She could be the best thing for you, but don't take so long that if you decide to leave her-her feelings for you have grown. Talk with people that you trust with your feelings. Good luck.
2006-10-28 09:58:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you could be good friends.
Give it some time and see how you feel.
If it still bothers you after awhile, then maybe you should end it. DOnt hurt her. You do sound like you have issues about being close to someone. I would talk to her and mention to her that you have issues about being close to someone ( NOT about the attraction thing) , as talking to her honestly will help you get an answer. It looks like you are concentrating on this looks issue as an excuse to back off.
2006-10-28 09:59:37 · answer #3 · answered by ANGEL-T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't find her physically attractive then just see how it goes for a while. Maybe you will come to find her attractive at some point, but for now just concentrate on being friends.
Everyone in the world likes to say that looks don't matter and that's true to a certain degree, but in my opinion you have to actually fancy someone if you want them as a partner otherwise it's friendship only.
2006-10-28 11:36:55 · answer #4 · answered by Gilligan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is either your own reaction to getting close, or it is your mind letting you know that you may love this girl but you are not "in LOVE" with this girl.
My suggestion is to go very slowly on this. Two months isn't a long enough time to really know if you are in love with her.
Try looking at her and finding good things to say about her appearance. Don't let thoughts of the negative things get through to you. If you focus on only the good things it may help you through this period in your relationship.
2006-10-28 09:59:59 · answer #5 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares...if shes that perfect...ask her and get with her...why would you want to waste a perfect thing like that...just because shes not a model doesn't make her a beautiful person. despite her looks, if her inner beauty is that strong like you say it it, then the outside beauty can only glow like the inner beauty. the outside will be beautiful, just like the inside is, if you let it be. dont get stuck on stupid things, the way you describe her, shes one in a million for you....
hoped i helped
2006-10-28 10:00:52 · answer #6 · answered by GorGeOuS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youl probably end up with somebody nice looking but nothing in common etc and a very boring relationship, looks arnt allways everything and i dont suppose your totally perfect i mean come on who is? stop bein so shallow and leading her on
2006-10-28 11:16:46 · answer #7 · answered by becca b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then your shallow......looks arent everything. you could go out tonight and meet a stunning girl but it wont amount to much if there is nothing between her ears. on the other hand you cant ask her to wear a paper bag so let her down gently. good luck
2006-10-28 09:59:21 · answer #8 · answered by maria s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right, you're afraid of being close to her. Slow down, don't take things so fast.
2006-10-28 09:57:50 · answer #9 · answered by Chatelaine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can you actually question your doubts on this? do you realise how hard it is to find a compatible partner? everyones number one priority is not their career/job hobby its their love how many kids, when you are dieing you think about your partner and kids not your ******* job. if you have found your love/ soul mate then thank your lucky stars and appreciate what you have.
2006-10-28 10:05:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋