I am 4 1/2 months pregnant and I have a daughter. I made some mistakes in the past and now the baby's father is not there but says he wants to be there. He said I was just someone he was seeing while him and his girlfriend were apart I know I was stupid when he told me he couldnt have kids now Im pregnant and going to school Im 23 so is he. He wants to take the baby away from me and now his "girlfriend" or whatever is back with him. What should I do. I dont want to do this alone but I feel like its going that way. I feel like just gettin that child support from him I was trying to do it the civil way but I feel real hurt.
2006-10-28 09:50:40 · 10 answers · asked by diana_catcheway 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
DO NOT put his name on the birth certificate.....When you get married, that man can adopt and give the child his last name.......If you keep his name off of it, yes you can't get child support, but at the same time, he can't try and take the baby away.......You don't need his money, and that baby don't need him. Move on and find yourself a good man....Trust me there are some out there...Good Luck.
2006-10-28 09:57:22 · answer #1 · answered by Mommy of 2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, let me see if I understand the situation. You have 1 daughter and 4 1/2 months pregnant with another . Is this with the same man? He is back with his old girlfriend and you are out of luck with him. Yes you should sue for child support and no he can't take your baby. Find a good man that will love you and your children. It's too late to ask how in the world you could be so stupid to have let this happen, but don't be stupid now. Make him pay you child support and on time. Don't have anything else to do with him except collecting your money each week. He has a responsibility for the next 18 years so make him live up to that.
2006-10-28 17:01:21 · answer #2 · answered by Chuck C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also 23 and I have a 3 year old my sons father and I were together but no longer are even though it is hard I do agree that it was worth having him and he has made me stronger and I would not trade him for the world. This is a decision that you have to make you can take the opinion of the guy but this is your body and your baby.
2006-10-28 17:16:12 · answer #3 · answered by Chas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is not a fun situation. But as long as you are a providing mother, and give that baby what it needs there is nothing that he can do to take the baby away. He would have to prove that you were an unfit mother. But other than that, he will have to pay child support, there are people who can help make this happen. contact your local dept of workforce services and they have information that you can fill out. It will all be ok.
2006-10-28 16:56:04 · answer #4 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a lawyer now. Know your rights and know what his are. If you want to raise this child, and can do so, there is no reason to think he would be successful in a custody fight. Have a paternity test after the child is born, arrange to sit down with him to discuss child support and visitation and be sure to do it all legally. This will protect you and your child.
2006-10-28 22:07:16 · answer #5 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He would have to have a strong case against you to take your child. Child support is your right to have for your baby. He could have visitation rights. Talk to a lawyer. Talk with your parents. You will need support around you if he does try and take your baby.
2006-10-28 16:53:58 · answer #6 · answered by Army Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lost of a=s=sholes say thay want to take the kid, but really they're just trying to upset you. If I was in your shoes, I would try to get through the disappointment that he's caused and find other people to support you. If he is upsetting you, don't talk to him. Once the baby is born you can take him to court for custody/child support.
However, if he grows up and really wants to be involved, you should try to let him to the best of your comfort level.
2006-10-28 17:03:35 · answer #7 · answered by Emily O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you have to. Check out the child support laws in your state and go from there. If ypu ask me I say dump him and raise your children by yourself.
2006-10-28 16:55:30 · answer #8 · answered by toya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've got about two weks left do it as soon as posible after you've made your choce this guy is acting like a **** you've got a girl to think of already
2006-10-28 17:24:24 · answer #9 · answered by navahdah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live and learn, the only one I trust is JESUS
2006-10-28 16:54:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋