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me and this guy were talking for a few weeks and i told him that i really started to like him and a few weeks later my friend talked to him without me knowing and was like dude why arent you with her and **** and he said i think she is beautiful and great and such a nice girl but shes not my type because i dont partyyy..anyways i really like him and its been a month and we havent talked like we used to in that long and i miss him like crazy. so what do i do. i really want to be with him but i just want to start talking to him like a friend again but its sooo hard. HELP PLEASE. and no sarcasm.thank u

2006-10-28 09:45:18 · 9 answers · asked by anonymous 2 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

9 answers

well just say hi and see where it goes from there

2006-10-28 09:47:34 · answer #1 · answered by Y3SSi<3 2 · 0 0

Been there, done that. Thankfully that was years ago. I'm assuming you're still under 20 years old, because I recognize the tone. There are a few things that made this guy go AWOL:

1. He was not ready for a serious commitment and was just getting to know you because he thought you were beautiful. (Contrary to what we as women think, men don't settle for a girl just because she's beautiful, he has to be ready.)

2. Your friend may have pushed a bit too much and although you didn't know about the conversation, he probably assumed you had sent her to investigate and that scared him off.

3. He is probably getting to know other girls right now, which is why he's been quietly out of the scene. This is not to say that they are prettier, sweeter, or smarter than you, nor that he is more serious about them, only that they are Other Girls.

I am speaking from experience, in high school a "friend" of mine did a similar thing to someone who may have been interested, but after SHE harassed him about sitting next to me, that I was cute, that I was: 'poor thing, she's waiting for you', he stopped talking to me for several years.

I took it personal for about a year, and then I got on with my life. I figured it out later that although he may have had a crush on me, he didn't want to make it a big deal, was no where near ready for a serious commitment, and my obnoxious friend's comments and annoying remarks just made him lose interest in the whole thing.

Needless, to say the friend is now just a high school acquaintance and will never be one to trust with my feelings and personal life.

The guy in question is an acquaintance I bump into every once in a while, and is very friendly with me, but I'm over it and have gotten married and am very happy.

I hope you do the same, and one day, as my mother loved to tell me when I was crying my eyes out, telling her that I wanted to die, "you will laugh at this..."

2006-10-28 10:03:39 · answer #2 · answered by frou frou 1 · 0 0

properly, the component with women is that, usually, they choose for to sense close to somebody, and that they choose for to talk lots with that guy or woman, and to work together with them usually. however the component with adult males, (usually), is they're particularly much less... clingy, for loss of a greater useful notice. To me, it form of feels that a guy gets close to a girl, and then style of withdraw. in my opinion, my view on that's that they have chilly ft, and that they are worried approximately being in a dating. so as that they have a bent to tug away whilst they understand what they're getting themselves into. this could be the case including your guy, yet yet another risk is that he's discovered yet another lady. Sorry to declare it, it would not propose that that's what handed off, despite the fact that it extremely is conceivable. a super form of fellows are very fickle, and if he has certainly discovered yet another lady, he will maximum probable be path all of his "affection" in the direction of her, and enable flow of absolutely everyone else he's those days been in an (open) dating with. Ask him what's up. do no longer accuse, merely tell him you're questioning, and in keeping with possibility somewhat perplexed. He is additionally dealing with a stressful time with something, and is disillusioned and would not choose for to talk perfect now. i've got had this happen to me previously, and now and back you purely might desire to enable him be for a speedy time. attempt to no longer push or pull him in any path, yet, as i've got stated, you ought to objective asking him what's occurring. back, don't be harsh or accusing, i'm particular you have already guessed that this might purely make issues worse. it extremely is nice which you have no longer been bothering him approximately it consistently, using fact nagging will purely make him choose for to talk to you much less. i'm hoping each and every thing works out for you! yet whilst it would not, merely bear in mind, there are consistently greater adult males accessible. And, depending on what he's unquestionably been as much as, ones which will handle you perfect. good luck! :)

2016-11-26 01:11:26 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

just call him up sometime and ask why he wont talk to you anymore and ask if you did some thing that offended him and if you did you want to know and that your really sorry......then say that you missed him..if he is not seeing some one he will come around,he may think that you dont like him and is unsure of himself sometimes us girls hsve to make the first move....you go girl!!

2006-10-28 09:50:06 · answer #4 · answered by mary c 3 · 0 0

It takes two to tango!!
U want to but he doenst want to waste his time on ya...IMHO u should get on with ur life and leave him alone.
I have a friend who did the same but no matter what I do he keeps away so now I do too..act as if hesnot there.

2006-10-28 09:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

just start out as friends, ask him if he wants to hang out "as friends" and let him really get to know you. he doesnt have to party with you, just do things that you both have an interest in and build on that. relationships are about comprimise.

2006-10-28 09:58:16 · answer #6 · answered by june.thirteenth 2 · 0 0

I'm not being sarcastic, but you need to move on!

He's SHOWN you that he isn't interested.

So..do yourself a favor and let that sleeping dog lie!

If the man has shown you he doesn't want you, then he doesn't want you!

Put on your big-girl panties and deal with it!

2006-10-28 10:08:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

well, chances are, hes too scared to talk to you. just go up to him and ask him how hes doing or something. i mean its not as if hes going to ignore you! just know that you wont DIE if you just start talking to him.

hope this helps.

2006-10-28 09:50:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You dont

u move on and find someone who cares for you....


but if u have to talk to him, just call and say hey, he will appreciate it

2006-10-28 09:48:10 · answer #9 · answered by Franky 1 · 0 0

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