I'm not a kid anymore and this problem is starting to matter. I feel like almost all my past relationships have either started out as friendships (and then "progressed"), or have been with people that I just wasn't all that attracted to. If I get so shy/nervous that I go blank and lose my sense of self whenever I talk to someone I'm strongly attracted to, how will I every be able to start a real relationship with someone I REALLY like?
2006-10-28 09:22:16 · 10 answers · asked by vanillamist 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
that is because you are trying to be too perfect around them..just be yourself and most people that people marry are friends first...but next time you are around a guy that you are attractive to just relax and be yourself because a guy will never like a girl that is fake
2006-10-28 09:26:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason why you have this problem is because you're not trying to impress the people you are not attracted to. Just relax, and be yourself. If you're shy and nervous, you will not be noticed as well as if you are being yourself, talking, laughing all that good stuff.
2006-10-28 09:27:54 · answer #2 · answered by Kaitlyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be happening because the guy is shy and doesn't know how to talk to you, and makes you feel shy in return. You can have a physical attraction to someone, but you don't let it dominate the relationship you're trying to build.
2006-10-28 09:50:16 · answer #3 · answered by Chatelaine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because you don't wanna mess up, or look stupid.
I'm dating a guy and I just get really nervous and I try to say the right things but yeah. =)
I sound like an idiot.
Just tell yourself you can do it? :D
Best Of Luck..
Courtney
P.S. I have been getting better at talking with the guy I'm dating y spending more time with him, and don't be shy say what you want. xD
2006-10-28 09:27:45 · answer #4 · answered by Courtney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its probably because you go for the guys that are a little past your league. be honest with yourself. don't look for the guys that in looks rate a "10" if you are, say, a 6 or maybe a 7. go for what you think would be best for you. and have you ever considered that its not always attraction? I'm betting that the guys you are interested in are the ones who would treat you like dirt, or wouldn't be interested in you.
2006-10-28 09:29:19 · answer #5 · answered by Little Black Riding Hood 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have that problem too, all you do is start a conversation with whoever you like and the more often you do this the less shy/nervous you'll be.
2006-10-28 09:26:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its probable because of the certainty while u are with somebody ur attractd to u get get the terror u won't act properly and lose that individual's interest....if u coud relax extra and dont sense as lots emotional investment it woud get extra effective
2016-12-08 23:12:15 · answer #7 · answered by hannigan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reason you can only relax around the guys you are not attracted to is because you are not trying to impress them.
2006-10-28 09:26:09 · answer #8 · answered by Juice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you use your wiles to control guys. that's right, its not politically correct to talk about it anymore, but girls have wiles. I suspect you view men like birds of prey view field mice.
2006-10-28 09:27:23 · answer #9 · answered by no_wait_hes_spartacus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hav the same problem
2006-10-28 09:24:35 · answer #10 · answered by i love rain92790 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋