I'm doing so bad a school, how can I tell them about it and how it's their fault?

Question

I'm getting into loads of trouble at school and the teachers are saying about how i'm becoming one of their worse students to each other in the teachers lounge (I know because one of the teachers told me when they were yelling at me) Lately I was caught hanging out at the park right next to the school at lunch (we're not alowed there at all, I was only hanging out there with friends, no smoking, drinking, drugs or anything like that was infolved) and I've got an hour detention (which parents have to sign) and a letter coming home, so I can't not tell them, but the thing is it's their fault, I know that's strong, but it is, they always get me to do all the chores and made me get a job, my brother didnt have to get one and doesnt have to do the chores, I tidy my room really well but it's never good enough for them everything i do is never good enough, i was always crying but i've changed into a bit of a no good doing popular chav who the teachers hate, please give serious helpful answers

Answer 1

Sounds like you are crying out for help and attention because of the way you are treated at home and school. The teacher was VERY WRONG for telling you that you are being talked about in the lounge. That was very unprofessional on her part. My advise is to seek counseling from your school counselor or a counselor outside the school. Tell them exactly how you feel. As for your parents, sit them down and explain that you are not doing well in school because you feel depressed. Tell them exactly what you said here. Let your parents know that you feel like you are not wanted by them, or the teachers at your school and you feel like a loser. Ask them will it be o.k. to allow your brother to split the house chores with you. You say you were always crying and that is a clear sign of depression.

On your part, try to focus on your education. Are you getting into trouble because of the way you are treated? Have you tried to change your ways for the better for yourself? I encourage you to go to class, do your work and stay away from trouble. You sound like a person that has enough sense to know right from wrong. If you are hanging around people who like to get into trouble, it's time for you to distant yourself from them in order to get an education and to better your attitude.

Please do not feel that you are worthless and no good. You are worthy and plenty of good. Good Luck and look forward to success.

Answer 2

Well, you actually deserved the detention. It doesn't matter what you were or were not doing, you aren't allowed there, and there you went. You'd be better to use your popularity to set a good example not a bad one. If the teachers see you helping kids and hear you telling them to respect and listen to their authority, (which means you need to do the same to set an example) They will change the way they think of you. BUT, you have to be sincere, and work harder and bring those grades up. You start working harder, and setting a better example, You will gain the teachers respect back, and through them, your parents. Make sure when you do well and the teachers give you praise, that you get it in writing so you can show your parents. Trust me, you might lose some of your unsavory friends, but I rpomise you in the long run, you will regret not doing better in school. I know..I've been exactly where you are now. I know this too, when you get out into the real world looking for a job, no one is going to give a flying sh*t how popular you were, who your friends were, etc. They will only care about what your grades were, and how hard you worked, and some even call your teachers for references. Either that or you can practice the phrase.."would you like fries with that?" to be your life long motto. And believe me, if you don't know this already..you will absolutely hate working in fast food, I promise you that. you've had your fun, now get your head out of your *ss and get to work. Trust me, don't f*ck this up!!!

Answer 3

I would recomend that you think about your actions before you act. Just because they make you do all the chores and expect more from you does not mean that you should go and act in the wrong way. Talk to your parents, and I mean talk to them and don't get in fight with them. Sometimes life is like that. People expect a lot from you. What you should do is that you should try your best and after you have proved your worth many and many times, your parents will have no choice but to notice you. This actually could be very good for you because you would work hard in achiving your goals and be successful at it. I had this problem when I was your too.

Answer 4

A lot of the things you're talking about are things that most teenagers go through. The feeling that you're not being appreciated for what you do, and the general sense of rebellion, are perfectly normal for teenagers.

The key for you, though, is how you react to it. You can't let your problems at home be an excuse to screw up your life. Your teenage years are an important time because of your development, and how it will ultimately determine how you live the rest of your life.

If you need to seek out family counseling to help with your family issues, that is a good place to start. The thing is, you do need to take accountability for your actions at school (and at home). It's seldom a case of anyone being totally to blame, but that works both ways. Don't let your problems at home, and the natural process of growing up, short-change you out of the life you really want. You'll look back and deeply regret your decisions when you get older.

Answer 5

I don't know how old you are but if you are old enough to have a job : then you are old enough to take responsibility for your actions. You are the only one who can turn this situation around. Try to put a little more effort into doing what is right. Feeling sorry for yourself and being on the pity me tract is not doing you any good. You created this problem and only you can fix it. I think you know what you need to do. Don't expect changes to happen over night. When people see that you are putting more effort into doing the right thing. They will be more willing to give you a helping hand. Nothing is given to you in life; you have to earn it.

Answer 6

Stop blaming others for you behaviors and accept some responsibility. You get into trouble for the things YOU chose to do. If you know you are not allowed to be somewhere and still choose to be there, then you deserved whatever consequences you received. Have you ever considered that the rules you are getting from your parents are a direct result of your behaviors. It sounds to me that they are trying to instill some sense of responsibility in you. So suck it up and show your parents and teachers the respect they deserve and maybe they will do the same in return.

Answer 7

You can't compare yourself to your brother. You have to take responsibility for your own actions...if you aren't allowed to be in the park why were you there....you knew it wasn't allowed but you choose to be there...and you got caught. You play, you pay. It's that way in life. You can't blame other people for your own actions or in-actions.

You need to talk to your parents, be honest and truthful and don't whine or blame others...everyone has to do chores, and we all work...and alot of people do it while in school. High school as well as college which is far more demanding. You need to pull yourself together...It is your time to learn how to be an adult. I know you probably know this all already. Good luck.

Answer 8

Just why have you assumed that iit's everyone else's fault. Seems you hve some ownership in your problem dear.
We all have to learn that whatever problems we have, it is not always someone else that caused them. I read of the things you have been doing and seems if you stopped even half of that crap. your life would become amazingly better over night.
assume ownership of the problem now and people will be there for you with the rest of the problems, yes even the teachers.
good luck and dont do as I say. just go do it darn it. you can be a wonderul person with accepting your part of life's problems.

Answer 9

So this is your parent's fault for guiding you, you got a job, keep your stuff clean, you normally have done ok? Fess up to yourself. It is your life! Do the time and be glad it is not prison time for something that is really trouble. This is part of becoming an adult. Prod yourself to do well, not lousy. Be one of those people who are admired. It feels a lot better!

Answer 10

It's not their fault. The things they're doing is actually a good thing. They're teaching you responsibility.
I mean, I skipped lunch when younger, but I didn't blame it on my parents... if you're going to make up excuses, just say that you don't care. Don't try to place blame.