well me and my bf have being together for 1 month and two weeks not his not a virgin but I am I love him so much he doesn't ask me to have sex he never want's to touch me or anything he respect me I just thing his shy or scare to ask me do u guys think he wants to do it ? I love him I mean I've being thinking what will it be like if I have sex for the first time with someone I love I love him even if its veing only a month and two weeks he makes me get all this butterflies inside of me when he kisses me and kisses my ear and my cheast we talk about sex sometimes everytime i say i want to have it when im 20 his doesn't say anything and when I say I will have it whith you but then I say its a joke then his all like hahahahaha but he doesn't mean to laugh I dont know what could happen when we will be together alone someday and how can I know I'm ready ( i'm 15 and his 15 I know you guys will say I'm to young but think what's the big deal of sex I will for sure use a condom and I know
2006-10-28 09:13:54 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah and I know all the risk and everything
so like I was saying sompeople do it when they are younger si what can I do if I love him and I think he doesn't ask me cuz his scare that I will breakup with him and how can I know I am ready? oh people if i dont put , . ? ! is because I dont have time too and because I need help really I need help
2006-10-28 09:19:30 · update #1
When you are able to type in complete sentences with proper punctuation I think you wil be ready, until then; Forget it!
2006-10-28 09:15:59 · answer #1 · answered by dumb guy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The big deal is when you break up with him or he breaks up with, which will happen at some point down the road (don't say it won't, because it will), you will feel bad that you had sex with him. When it is your wedding night in 3-5 years or so, you will feel bad that your husband is not the one that you give your virginity too. Also, 6 weeks is not a long time to know someone. Also, since he has already had sex, it is not going to be special for him, and you want your first time to be special. I am not saying wait forever, but wait longer than 6 weeks! Wait 6 months and make sure, teenagers fall in and out of love so fast, next week he could be a fleeting memory and it would be awful if that fleeting memory includes losing your virginity to someone who doesn't really love you. I know you will think I don't know what I am talking about, but I lost my virginity at 17 with the "love of my life" and you know what? He wasn't the love of my life, he was just some guy and it meant nothing to him! Be careful and really think about it before you do it. The butterflies are a great feeling, but those butterflies go away after a while.
2006-10-28 16:20:41 · answer #2 · answered by hargonagain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait. It is only been a little over a month. What happens you have sex and he leaves you for another girl a week later. You will feel dirty and disgusting. When the time is right you will know it. Right now it is not the right time. I was 18 when I had actual intercourse. You should also go to your doctor and be put on birth control right away. Condoms aren't that safe especially if it breaks or you get a bad batch. My ex got pregnant while I wore a condom. The entire box was defected. Talk about an unplanned pregnancy.
Just be happy you are with him and he seems happy to be with you as you are. Have fun and not rush it.
2006-10-28 16:21:24 · answer #3 · answered by steve s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a HUGE deal and if you don't think it is, then you are DEFINITELY too immature to be thinking about having sex.
1. Are you ready to deal with a pregnancy should it occur? (condoms sometimes fail, you know)
2. Are you ready to deal with an STD should you acquire one? (remember,he's not a virgin)
3. Are you ready to think about getting on a reliable method of birthcontrol, in addition to using condoms?
4. Are you ready for the emotional repercussions that come with sex? What happens when you two break up and you're so "in love" AND you've given your body to him?
No, you should definitely not do it because your post clearly states you are not ready. You are infatuated with a boy, and are probably thinking sex will help keep him (not to mention you are apparently somewhat attracted to him, and curious about sex as is normal).
Wait...you'll be doing yourself a huge favor.
2006-10-28 16:22:00 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex at 15 is a bad decision. What you are feeling is that old time word "lust". It has been around for centuries. Bad decisions are also as old as living beings on this earth. Save yourself lots of grief, back away, wait til you have a better perspective on your future. Only trouble will follow a life starting with sex at 15. You would not be asking if you did not know better.
2006-10-28 16:20:41 · answer #5 · answered by desertflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thing your 15 so no u shouldnt have sex but u will weather some1 says not to or not but u are at the age that most girls think they love the person when they really dont so u should just take it slow and when u are ready u wont be asking people if u are ready it just happens
2006-10-28 16:17:20 · answer #6 · answered by larcaney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your only 15 it is best you wait. Sex is something you do not need to rush into. He probably feels it is too early for both of you and be happy with him in that he is not trying to rush into it either.
you will end up a lot happier in the end .Waiting just might make your relationship with him even more wonderful and above all a lasting open. dont rush and of course be safe instead of sorry.
2006-10-28 16:19:03 · answer #7 · answered by apostle1938 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u really love him? after a month? i wont say ur too young just be sure u love him and ur safe about it be cuz u might think ur n love cuz u like him alot but i would wait at least another month to be sure but do what u think is right me personally im 16 and im alos waitng till im in love but ive already been and it didnt turn out now i dotn even think of it as a prority i just have boyfriends and have fun worry free
2006-10-28 16:18:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you answered your own question by asking others if you should you say you are ready but I dont think you are if you have to get others opinion. Its good however that you are going to use condoms , when the time is right for you .
2006-10-28 16:16:45 · answer #9 · answered by dirtygrl_4_u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every 15 years old is ready for sex
gezzzzzzwhat a dillema
if you were ready for sex you would'nt ask question about
it really? and i know the pressure in school is very high
but if you respect yourself and follow you're gut's feeling
it woul tell you to wait with this guy 'cause it's a little
early,the best to wait is about10months to really see
if you really love him after all do you want him to think
you're easy? and giving yourself to someone as to be special
and not to be drop for the next girl...
take care
isabelle
2006-10-28 16:26:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Little angel, sex does not enhance true feeling before you are ready. Chill out, don't loose your virginity just yet, you are only fifteen for heaven's sake and this is something you can loose just once, don't rush it.
if the guy loves you and he is not pressuring you to have sex with him, feel blessed that you have a true gentleman in your life. Guys are never that patient.
2006-10-28 16:19:12 · answer #11 · answered by Martinoluoch 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋