Ok so i'm a 20 yr old guy, never had a gf cause i'm shy but wtv, thats not important. I like this girl, i think she likes me..sracth that..i think. I often give her lifts everywhere cause i want her to like to me. yet she never call me for any other reason now. I won't talk to her all weekend and then on monday she will call me for a lift, no whats up just can i have a lift, and if i say no, its ok bye. is she using me??? probally. Shes a rich suburban girl. I really like her, what should i do?
2006-10-28 09:04:33 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay I have been in a similar situation but the other way around. Chances are she is using you because she doesn't talk to you for any other reason. I may be wrong though. If you like her then on the car ride start talking about a movie that you really wanna go see. Then say that you are probably gonna go next weekend to see it. Then calmly be like do you wanna come with me. If she seems kinda like she is making up excuses not to go then I would probably say forget it. She is just using your generosity. She probably knows that you like her but she is using that. If on the other hand she seems really interested and says yes then take it from there. Dont be shy. She already knows you so be yourself.
2006-10-28 09:14:49 · answer #1 · answered by angel l 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So you're a young 20 year old guy, can't decide if she is using you for transportation? Yes! You will have to make the first move. Even shy people can find a way to get her attention. Some girls like them shy. She could be shy herself. Start talking! When she says no, ok, ask her out then you will find out where her interests lie. Btway, she is not rich if she needs rides.
2006-10-28 16:15:29 · answer #2 · answered by desertflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she may be using you a little but why not ask her one day if she can spare a few minutes for you to do a detour because you'd like to get a coffee? When you get to the coffee place ask her if she'd like one too. If she says yes then you can both go inside and have a quick date together over your coffees without her even realising it's a date! If she says she doesn't want a coffee well then you can make the coffee a take out for yourself and you haven't lost face. How about that?
2006-10-28 16:16:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, since there's not much communication, it looks like she's using you. But no sweat, try talking to her and get to know each other first. Dont scare her off saying you like her and want to start a relationship and all though. Start out slow. Use the time when you're giving her a ride to talk to her. At least she's not using you for something else.
2006-10-28 16:09:00 · answer #4 · answered by cheahwey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok look i'm not a girl i think you have realised!
What she try now to do is not correct to say "She is using me" she just want to make all her pleasures to make her feel the first and the most beautiful girl in the world!
I know what you mean:she's kiising you only when you get her presents or flowers maybe but this is not a motive to think that!Just make some of her wanted pleasures and she gonna show her love more!-Good luck!
2006-10-28 16:10:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is stubborn and using you. If she keeps calling you and avoiding conversation, tell her what you feel about her using you. It's not cool that she is doing that. Maybe decided to have a party also, or something and invite her over and hang out with some friends. Invite her, and if she comes, hang around her, but not all the time. Don't forget to talk to other girls.
2006-10-28 16:07:33 · answer #6 · answered by Melanie P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes using you. if she was interested in more, the conversation wouldnt end at "can i get a lift?" relationships require giving on both parts, so this is a sure sign that she would be a total taker of a girlfriend and leave you eventually empy and heartbroken, even if you did manage to get her to go out with you.
2006-10-28 16:07:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's using you. You should stop giving her rides because now all you represent to her is a free ride. Try to find someone who likes you for more than what you can provide in terms of freebies.
2006-10-28 16:19:31 · answer #8 · answered by Mille_D-Gurl08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay yes she is using you!!!!but then again it might be that she is shy too and dosen't know how to approach you.so asking you to get a ride is the only reasonable way she can talk to you and not find it weird.you know what just ask her straight up!! Hey what do you have to loose....dont you think
2006-10-28 16:11:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's only using you for your transportation. It might be best to move on from her. Or, get your guts up and ask her out. It never hurts to really see where somebody stands.
2006-10-28 16:07:11 · answer #10 · answered by lyrical 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋