Just like if you were in foster care as a child or your father killed someone in a drunken brawl or that you had to go to the soup kitchen ......
2006-10-28 08:57:14 · 18 answers · asked by somethingelse 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I don't tell everybody about my past, some things are the past and should be left there.
2006-10-28 09:00:01 · answer #1 · answered by sweetsmile 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No.
Being dishonest is not when you don't announce irrelevant information to everyone about your past.
Dishonest is when someone says for exaple- have you ever been in foster care.. done something really bad (killed someone) etc and you say no.
Unless they were with you around the time and knew the person you were then, it will be impossible for them to understand and they may judge you on it. So I don't blame people for with-holding certain things from others.
However I think stuff you've done or stuff you've had done to you is always a part of you, so it might be helpful for certain other people to know, if you trust them and they care about you.
Being dishonest is simply telling a lie.. by being silent you're not lying.
edit: Dikki explained it perfectly.
2006-10-28 09:18:00 · answer #2 · answered by Fluffy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some things are better left in the past, others you can only tell the right person. Like a spouse or SO. There's no reason to share dirty laundry with the world. Say if someone asks you about a soup kitchen, you can talk about how helpful they are, just don't say "I had to eat there for X months."
2006-10-28 09:32:29 · answer #3 · answered by chefgrille 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Some things are no one else's business. You should share your past with someone close to you & only if it helps you deal with your issues. Terrible things happen to good children, things in which they have no control or choice in the matter. But it doesn't make that person a bad person. You can choose to be a victor over your circumstances and try not to make the mistakes or do to people what has been done to you.
2006-10-28 19:14:42 · answer #4 · answered by 2D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your personal information can be used as a weapon in the wrong hands. If you are not sure what sort of intentions the recipient of that information, would do with it, what on earth would make you think that you could possible trust them with it? Sometimes it becomes necessary to disclose info so, say someone you are close to, needs to get a bigger picture of who you are. But one should never pull out all skeletons from the closet--it can be overwhelming and just plain TMI. Good luck.
2006-10-28 09:25:05 · answer #5 · answered by Lucky Lola 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are certain things that are best left unanswered as it may effect the lives of other people who now are no longer connected with you. To give you an example, I began woking on my personal website but stopped half way as it was leading to so many things that I would not like the world to know. It could ruin marraiges, distance friends and much more. So once again - its best left alone. Think of the present and future and move along.
2006-10-28 09:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by livingonthinice 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Boundaries are important, useful, and your right as a person. You control who knows what about you. You decide if someone needs to know, if it's useful for someone to know, or if you want someone to know. Of course you are not being dishonest if you don't share the stories you don't want to share. You are giving yourself respect. Good luck!
2006-10-31 13:09:24 · answer #7 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! My past is my personal business and if someone asks me a question I will certainly give them a honest answer. You don't just go around telling people you were adopted or used to live in a car or whatever.
2006-10-28 09:05:52 · answer #8 · answered by BAnne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel that it is dishonest. You have to feel comfortable enough with someone to tell them bad things from your past. I feel that if you find the right friend or partner, it won't matter. You'll trust them, and they wont judge you. And remeber everyone has things from their past that is not so great. Your not alone.
2006-10-28 09:06:02 · answer #9 · answered by necca789 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, in fact it is too much information in most cases. It makes people very uncomfortabke when you blurt that out everywhere you go. Save it for your special few, and don't hit them with it on the first date. In fact it makes me wonder what is wrong with someone that they want strangers to know everything that has happened to them. We have all had bad things happen to us.
2006-10-28 09:05:11 · answer #10 · answered by Kacky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are legally required to reveal this information to entities such an adoption agency or an employer.
You are morally required to reveal it to the person you plan to spend the rest of your life with.
As for the rest of the world, it's nobody's dam' business.
2006-10-28 09:06:01 · answer #11 · answered by blueprairie 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋