Some, in modern society, still use fairy tales like the stork story to talk about how children get here.
2006-10-28 08:52:39 · 10 answers · asked by FaerieWhings 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
logic tells me that this type of topic should not be one of embarrassment. sex is natural and knowledge is power. however i know, at least in my situation, this is what i was taught. and because this is all i know i have a hard time breaking thy cycle. with so many views on sex these days where else but the home should children get this information. if you want your child to believe what you do who better to teach them.
2006-10-28 12:48:54 · answer #1 · answered by Kelli N 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When the child is young and curious & even when older & needing more information.. the questions always hit you by surprise
However, I learned something very, very valuable during my colege education, more specifically in child psychology classes & that is this
If the child asks... tell as much of the truth as is appropriate for the child's question... if they need more or are ready for more or even if they heard rumors, they will ask more if an open communication flow is always there
2 year old says "Where do babies come from"... well... When a Mommy becomes pregnant, the Baby live in thier Mommy's belly until time for them to come out
"How do they get there?"... well Mommy & Daddy love each other and decide they are ready to have a baby... so they do... we loved each other & wanted to have you, so we decided to get pregnant
That will suffice a 2 year old, but will not suffice an 8 year old.
When the 6 year old.... "My friend so&so's Mom is pregnant".. "Where do baby's come from"....
Answer: "Adult, like me & your Dad sometimes love each other enough to decide it is time to have a child... when the decide it is time to have a child, then they couple together in a special way called sex so that the Mom can get pregnant"
By the time they are 12 you better be offering more advise such as "In my opinion it is best for boys & girls to wait until they are 15 to start things like kissing and until they are 18 to touch each ohter & until they are married to have sex"
Of course change this up to your own version & your own words
2006-10-28 09:09:05 · answer #2 · answered by Bama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sad, and hurts the children later on. If parents are still telling stork stories, it means they are still embarassed by sex. They need to grow up, and be honest and open to their childrens question. It's a biologocal fact of our existance, made taboo by society.
2006-10-28 08:58:34 · answer #3 · answered by hvjhv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not out of fear, it's out of a desire to preserve their innocence. Knowledge of sex takes some of the magic and wonder out of childhood; when you're a kid, love is what brings together the princess and her knight in shining armor, and love is what gives two adults a child. Sex becomes an ulterior motive that spoils some of the purity of a child's vision of love. I remember how much seedier the world looked when I learned about it.
It's necessary in this age of sexual criminals to properly educate children about sex, but I can certainly understand why some parents want to allow them to hang onto their innocent notions about humanity for just a little longer.
2006-10-28 09:06:56 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a culture thing. We (Americans as an overall whole) have taken the old English culture as our base culture for ourselves. And in England they had the Puritans (which is probably our biggest cultural contributor). The Puritans believed if you mentioned sex it would eventually cause the young ones to have sex (which went against God's law as they saw it), and so they attached a stigma of "evil" to it. It became taboo to talk about it.
While we have grown some to realize that talking about it doesn't immediately translate into a sex free-for-all among the kids, the taboo is still somewhat there. And while we no longer fear for our lives of going against the Bible in such a way, the embarassment still exists. And so parents who can barely handle the talk around adults find it practically impossible around the kids (whom we want to protect and raise as moral upright individuals). Its hard to get over, but not impossible; and we need to get over it if our kids are to function properly as adults.
2006-10-28 09:12:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I will not be afraid too. But, I will also teach my boys that sex before marriage is wrong. There is not need for if before marriage. I am pregnant with my 2nd son, but our 3 year old son doesn't talk much so he has never asked how the baby got there or how it gets out.
2006-10-28 08:56:19 · answer #6 · answered by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because back a generation talking about sex was Taboo, that was all done in health class and only sluts had sex out of wedlock
2006-10-28 08:55:50 · answer #7 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom was always open with me i mean when i was 4 i knew alot already and by the time i was six i knew the techniqual meanings of the parts on a girl and guy so im not really sure. i always was pretty mature for my age.
2006-10-28 09:51:24 · answer #8 · answered by bleuprincesse15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most parents just don't want to be responsible for their kids actions.
If they talk about it they are saying yes have sex.
They are just dumb.
to those that do talk to their kids:
I think kids should be more honest when parents do talk to them. They are gauging on how much the kids know and when the kids are not honest the parents cannot correctly help them.
kids do NOT know more about sex than their parents that's such BS that it's funny!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-28 09:02:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because its weird and plus what can they tell u that we dont already kno...we kno more then them
2006-10-28 09:00:53 · answer #10 · answered by antiluv6 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋