If I don’t play it just right, I could lose my chance with the friend or cause conflict between both guys. Something I do not want to do…
2006-10-28 08:43:29 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't mention the friend. Just tell him that you aren't interested in him as anything but a buddy.
2006-10-28 08:46:19 · answer #1 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, sometimes this can be tricky and there might be nothing you can do about not causing conflict. first, you have to tell the guy that you just aren't interested in him in that way and it will not change anything between you now that you know. and you will have to be the one to not make it weird for him to be around you. and you are going to have to lay off the friend that you like until this blows over. should only be about a month or so. good luck.
2006-10-28 08:47:16 · answer #2 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help who you're attracted to. My best friend was head over heels for my current HUSBAND in High School.
He asked her, to ask me, if I'd go out with him. (I only knew he was alive because of her.)
She was kind of ticked for week or two but she got over it.
If you are really all friends and they are close friends they'll find a way to come to terms with your crush.
-Besides avoiding conflict isn't going to do anyone any good. If the guy #1 is really interested in you he'll find out you aren't interested soon enough.
Why prolong what you know, regardless of having a crush on his friend or not? It isn't going to change that you aren't into him.
If you are still worried, I suggest just letting guy #1 you aren't interested. Once there is a little time for that to blow over you can decide if you want to pursue guy #1's friend.
2006-10-28 08:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by daisyprincess8 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should tell both guys that you preffer to be their friends, then strengthen the relationship with the guy that you like:], eventually the other guy will notice that you dont like him back.
2006-10-28 08:47:48 · answer #4 · answered by OJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its impossible for it to have no conflict, but if you have a very bad bad mind, you can act like totally a turn off for him and when he disses you, get to his friend and hook up! hehe
2006-10-28 08:56:49 · answer #5 · answered by mara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
plain honesty. you don't have to be blunt about it (you're boring, you're ugly...) but make sure he knows you're flattered but NOT interested. it's not any of his business if you like his friend, that's between him and his friend to deal with if something ever sparks with you and the friend, which isn't guaranteed to happen
2006-10-28 08:47:26 · answer #6 · answered by rachel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your best opportunity is to be upfront. It's not going to make you popular, but in the long run, self-respect is such an important commodity.
2006-10-28 08:45:06 · answer #7 · answered by no_wait_hes_spartacus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. No matter what you say or do, the guy is going to feel rejected, period. This was not meant to be, you shouldn't force it.
2006-10-28 08:47:54 · answer #8 · answered by Chatelaine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is best to just be honest. If he is a nice guy he will appreciate your honesty, and he won't resent his friend.
2006-10-28 08:47:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell his friend to ask him to back off.
2006-10-28 08:44:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋