i have a boyfriend who mreally hurt my feelings bad and i told my parents about it mind you im 25 years old well we are now trying to wrk things out,i just never told my parents about it, i was at home today my mom called and asked if she could come and get me i said no im just gonna stay home well my boyfriend showed up and about an hour later my mom shows up...i told her i wasnt going and she left, then she calls me....she was pissed "whats he doing over ther?" just come and get the rest of your stuff you left over here. and she hangs up on me.....now im scared my mom and dad will never speak to me again what should i do?
2006-10-28 08:41:09 · 17 answers · asked by forever 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The second your parents find out that someone hurt you, they will despise that person for what seems like forever. It will probably take a while for them to like and trust him. The only reason they are mad at you is because they care about you and don't want you with someone who treats you bad. You just have to get them to trust him.
2006-10-28 08:44:26 · answer #1 · answered by sunrisesover12th 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wats Most Important 2 U? I Think That Your Family Should B By Your Side No Matter Wat I Think Mayb U Should Talk 2 Them About It After Things Cool Down Ur Mother Just Wants The Best 4 U and She Thinks U Can Do Better She Dont Want 2 See U Hurt Again Which Is Understandable. Explain 2 Her Y U Gave Him Another Chance. I Dont Think Their Never Going 2 Speak 2 U Again Because The Way Shes Reacting 2 This Situation Is Just Outta Love. Like I Said All She Want Is The Best 4 U N Shes Mad Because She No U Can Do Better Just Give Her Some Time 2 Cool Off
2006-10-28 08:52:42 · answer #2 · answered by 06ThugMissez06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her time, she'll come around and she will continue to voice her opinion no matter what you do right or wrong. the one thing you have to accept is that you are 25 and she will continue to try to help you live your life. I am 52 and my mom does me the same way. This might be a hard thing to say to your mom, but ask her has your dad ever hurt her? No relationship is perfect and maybe this would be a good lesson for you to stop telling her everything. Hang in there
2006-10-28 08:48:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents knows best. If they say a guy is not right for u then 9 times out of10 he's not. Your parents have been threw these things already and they just dont want to see u get hurt. Especially your mother. take in everything your parents say to you because u may be faced with a situation and really need them to be there.
They don't mean any harm, they love you. always remember that.
2006-10-28 08:47:37 · answer #4 · answered by likecandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you're 25 yo. Why are you telling your parents about your problems with your boyfriends? Maybe, when you are 15 yo but not 25 yo. Anyway, did his past actions warrent this type or reactions from your parents? Was he verbally abusive, physically abusive? A drunk, or drug user. Steal from you? Criminal behavior? Some abuses should be deal breakers in almost all cases. Be that as it may, you can do nothing to change their minds. He will have to trod the straight and narrow until your kids graduate college as neurosurgeons. Then they may forgive him then. Maybe.
2006-10-28 08:59:35 · answer #5 · answered by ontopofoldsmokie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off if you are repeating the mistake you made before that just cancels out the phrase, learn from your mistakes. you need to explian to your mom that he was man enough to come and appologize. Then ask her have you ever felt like you deserved a second chance? if she says yes then say he made a mistake and said the wrong thing so would you not want a second chance too!? Everyone makes mistakes! you have too mom! plz dont be mad at me for this bc i love you i believe in 2nd chances! if he says it again then no more chances that usually means he is not right for you! I have been through this too i know where you are coming from! If he does it again drop him bc
2006-10-28 08:57:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family should be supportive of you during times of need. But you should also be forthcoming with all the facts or else you get hung up on! Good parents and good friends dont automatically discharge you from their lives if you make a mistake that doesnt really affect them. Just apologize to your folks about not cluing them in on your plans to make up with your boyfriend. If youre coming and going from their house because of it and involving them to that degree...yeah...I can see how they'd be upset. Youre 25yrs old...quit running to your parents and solve some problems on your own. Good luck. :)
2006-10-28 08:49:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit telling your parents stuff that's private between you and your friends unless your friends are violent or verbally abusive.
Feeligs come and go. If you get your feeling hurt, it's because you allowed them to get hurt. You are the only one that can control you feelings.
That's why we should never make decisions based only on our feelings.
2006-10-28 08:46:39 · answer #8 · answered by the shadow knows 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why should they except someone you causes you pain?
There is a time in life when we have to stop telling our parents every time we get mad at someone, parents have a hard time forgiving because they dont want there little baby hurt. NO matter how old you are.
2006-10-28 08:44:37 · answer #9 · answered by blwatson41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they love you. sometimes people see things we dont see. well my daughter is going thru the same thing. she has a bf that hurting her every day and i get pissed at her all the time. but i still talk to her. your parents just want to protect you and love you. give your mom time she is just mad right now. i would be to if someone hurt my daughter.
2006-10-28 08:45:16 · answer #10 · answered by eaglestraces123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋