I am ready to ask my gf to marry me. Problem is that I cant afford an expensive ring right now. I had plenty of money but I spent it bailing her out of a financial jam she got herself into. I could wait to ask her till I save the money again and get her a real nice ring. I am impatient and really dont want to wait. She didnt ask me to bail her out of her problem. I done it of my own decision so as to not have that issue hanging over our heads if we get married. Would she be appreciative of whatever I get or should I wait and make it an expensive one?
2006-10-28 08:29:18 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should get her an in-expensive ring, pop the question and explain later there will be a nicer ring. She's lucky to have you. What you did for her was a very un-selfish thing. If she loves you it shouldn't matter at all. She knows what you did for her and should understand.
2006-10-28 08:35:41 · answer #1 · answered by CuervoBMed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you consider a 'promise' ring instead?
Considering she had a 'financial jam', you might want to encourage her to show you that she can save money and not get herself into debt or put YOU into debt. She needs to show you that she cares about you and a future together without lots of problems. If she cant get it together on money matters, you'll be so sorry and your 'impatience' will have proved that you love her more than she loves you and a good relationship with you. Good luck.
2006-10-28 15:41:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in a similar situation not that long ago myself. I wanted to save the money and get my g/f a nice ring, she insisted that it didnt matter how big the ring was or how much it cost she said it was the thought and the feelings behind the ring are what really matters. i finnally broke down and got her a cheap $30 ring from wal-mart, i still want to get her a nice ring, but nor now the wal-mart one will do. my advise for you is to talk to her about it if you can...maybe bring it up subtly, or just buy a cheaper ring for her and explain that you wish you could buy something nicer but that you just arent able to right now but you will get something nicer for her when the money is there, or you could just ask her w/o the ring and buy one later.
2006-10-28 15:42:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awe. You're really sweet helping her out. Go for it. I didn't mind when my husband popped the question with out a ring. And I never expected the size I got either. He got me the ring about 3 months later. If she really loves she will say yes and if she wants a huge rock, you can tell she needs to wait a little. Tell her nicely though.
2006-10-28 15:39:10 · answer #4 · answered by VMG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should know what type of person she is. Is she materialistic? You know what a ring means to us girls right? asking without is bound to cause problems. When ever you ask her something or try to tell her something she'll say "there's no ring on my finger" I'd save then get a nice ring, maybe not the most expensive one but don't do it without one. GOOD LUCK
2006-10-28 15:35:54 · answer #5 · answered by VEGAS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you made the biggest gesture of all and helped her out of her financial difficulties. what a lovely guy. Is shes truly loves you then she will agree to marry you whether you give her an expensive ring or not. It should be about how your feel about each other not how much money you splash around to prove it.
good luck
2006-10-28 15:33:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
marriage isn't about the ring... the ring is just the icing on the cake... if you make the gesture and give her something as a ring until you can afford one, then it should be ok... and she should appreciate the gesture... if she doesn't like what you give her and she expects the best than she's kind of shallow... she's in love with you not the ring. i don't think you should wait.
2006-10-28 15:35:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on the kind of person she is. Some women don't really care about the ring, you could get one that you could afford now and tell her later you'll get one that is more expensive.
2006-10-28 15:32:56 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're sweet. But make sure that when you do get married, she won't be giving you financial problems. And yes, it's okay not to give her a ring yet. Just talk to her about it. She'll understand of course!
2006-10-28 15:32:53 · answer #9 · answered by ~Amor~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly sweetie, she will be happy with a nice ring, doesn't have to be over the top. I assume you like her because she isn't a money hungry b*tch so Im sure she will say yes because she is in love with you as well, not because the size of the rock. Ya feel me? go for it!!!
2006-10-28 15:32:46 · answer #10 · answered by l'il mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋